How soon after birth did you DTD?

JujuB22 · June 2014

15 days postpartum and wanting to DTD with dh. I feel fine, barely spotting. Too soon still? Reading conflicting info. How long did you wait?

Plan on calling ob's office tomorrow, just trying to make it through tonight

rainbowdashh · June 2014

I waited until I had my PP check up.

ETA: that was 6 weeks after I delivered.

Read247 · June 2014

Doc says 6 weeks... I told DH 8-12 because I had ZERO interest in sex after having a baby.

From what I remember you can't douche, use a tampon or have sex for 4-6 weeks (?) because the lining of the uterus is healing and more susceptible to infection. Putting anything up there introduces bacteria and puts you at an increased risk of infection. (Whether you have a vaginal delivery or a csection.)

hjl050308 · June 2014

With my older two, I waited until well after the 6 weeks, too tired and not interested. I actually meant to ask yesterday at my 3 week appointment (they don't do 6 week check ups) yesterday but forgot. I'm likely to go past 6 weeks again.

tbmadeamistake · June 2014

Last time I was told to put nothing in the vagina, including my husband's penis, until after the 6 week checkup. I assume the same holds true this time. If I'm not bleeding any more and I feel up for it, I might not wait that long. However, last time, I felt up for it at 5 weeks and DH refused until after my appt. I assume he'll feel the same way this time.

Read247 · June 2014

JujuB22 said:
15 days postpartum and wanting to DTD with dh. I feel fine, barely spotting. Too soon still? Reading conflicting info. How long did you wait?

Plan on calling ob's office tomorrow, just trying to make it through tonight

Also, you're 15 days PP and ready to DTD?!? You're a freeeeeeak!! I kind of love you more now.

Lol!

Savvy122 · June 2014

Color me jealous. I'm 14 days PP and I'm still popping Ibuprofen and spraying myself with Dermoplast on the regular. My hormones are saying YES but my ass is saying OH HELL NO.

Cherylwang · June 2014

I would think 15 days is too soon. This is my third and they've told me every time to wait the 6 weeks.

MNOpea · June 2014

With my first it was about 6 months (not a typo) but I had some healing issues so that is obviously not typical.. Hopefully this time it will not take me 6 months to get cleared!

TonyaCody06 · June 2014

6 weeks but I bleed a full a 6 weeks

Mia081081 · June 2014

Read247 said:

JujuB22 said:
15 days postpartum and wanting to DTD with dh. I feel fine, barely spotting. Too soon still? Reading conflicting info. How long did you wait?

Plan on calling ob's office tomorrow, just trying to make it through tonight
Also, you're 15 days PP and ready to DTD?!? You're a freeeeeeak!! I kind of love you more now. Lol!

This x1000. I had a 3rd degree year and was like hellllll nooooo for 8 weeks or so. You are lucky!

katekat8721 · June 2014

I was told the full 6 weeks because whether you have a vaginal or cesarean the cervix dilates and it needs time to fully close. The nurse describes losing the placenta like leaving a raw wound behind on the uterus and they don't want anything getting up there and potentially infecting anything.

If that's not a mood killer I don't know what is haha. I'd probably just take care of yourself *wink wink nudge nudge*

diagonalley · June 2014

I am so ready for my 6 weeks to be up! Only a few more days

DH asked what position. Definitely going with missionary. I am scared it might hurt as I had a second degree tear. Also, I know what dtd refers to, but what does it stand for?

Megan_e_rice · June 2014

MommyP710 said:

I am so ready for my 6 weeks to be up! Only a few more days DH asked what position. Definitely going with missionary. I am scared it might hurt as I had a second degree tear. Also, I know what dtd refers to, but what does it stand for?

I actually know this one!!! it's "doing the deed"

diagonalley · June 2014

Megan_e_rice said:

MommyP710 said:

I am so ready for my 6 weeks to be up! Only a few more days DH asked what position. Definitely going with missionary. I am scared it might hurt as I had a second degree tear. Also, I know what dtd refers to, but what does it stand for?

I actually know this one!!! it's "doing the deed"
In retrospect that seems totally duh

Megan_e_rice · June 2014

Dtd is a bit different for me (that whole "no penis" thing lol) but with DD we waited closer to 12 weeks just because of comfort (I had a second degree tear).

My sister however is a freak of nature and only waited 6 DAYS after having her DD before she dtd. *shudders*

allrightmeow · June 2014

Megan_e_rice said:

Dtd is a bit different for me (that whole "no penis" thing lol) but with DD we waited closer to 12 weeks just because of comfort (I had a second degree tear).

My sister however is a freak of nature and only waited 6 DAYS after having her DD before she dtd. *shudders*

NOPE!

MollySm · June 2014

With my first I was told to wait until my 6 week checkup. At that point I still had some pain, and was told to wait another 2 weeks and make sure the pain stopped.

I have no idea if the recommendations have changed for this time...

lifeisbetteronthered · June 2014

Months, so many months (after DD, DS is still waiting to show his face, but I expect to feel the same).

misscarter87 · June 2014

I was told 6 weeks..i am going on 4 weeks PP and i cant wait til 6 weeks is finally here

Kinipela7 · June 2014

I'm waiting the 6 weeks to make sure doc clears me although I'm ready now. I had no tears and have stopped bleeding and feel generally pretty good. It's going to be a long 4 weeks.

MissBHaven1024 · June 2014

I've always been given the general 6-week rule, however, this time I had no tearing and minimal bleeding. Not to mention I am insanely horny for some reason. My midwife said to give it at least 2 weeks and then see how I feel.

nunzchucks · June 2014

Ask me today? Never again. Ask me in 6 weeks? Yes, please!

flerlgirl · June 2014

Cleared at six weeks, waited until closer to eight. This time... This time I'm thinking we give up sex for Lent and pretend Lent starts six weeks from now.

emandjp · June 2014

My OB cleared me at 4 weeks but we waited 6. It's best to wait until your OB clears you. Sex is great but pain or infection aren't!

catsinawindow · June 2014

I've heard 6 weeks or whenever bleeding stops from different sources. I'd ask your doctor before you DTD. As PP have pointed out, there's a possibility of infection to worry about.

Personally, we didn't try to DTD until 9-10 weeks (I wasn't cleared until then due to large tears that were taking their time healing) and we didn't successfully DTD until somewhere around 12-16 weeks. Giving that extra healing time made a big difference in how comfortable it was. So ladies with big tears, take your time. It'll feel normal again eventually.

beachbride5 · June 2014

i abide by the nothing in until pp ob check. so, 6wks.

JujuB22 · June 2014

We'll no action for me. Started bleeding again (sorry if tmi).

I just really miss it. Been sooooo long.

When I had my dd the doc said when I felt up to it and stopped bleeding, this doc said to schedule a 6 wk check up but didn't really say what I could or couldn't do. I think I DTD 3-4 wks after having my dd. She was also early, 8 wks early, so I healed quickly.

Ranada209 · June 2014

2 weeks with both of my two, against doc orders of course.

snowpants · June 2014

katekat8721 said:

I was told the full 6 weeks because whether you have a vaginal or cesarean the cervix dilates and it needs time to fully close. The nurse describes losing the placenta like leaving a raw wound behind on the uterus and they don't want anything getting up there and potentially infecting anything.

If that's not a mood killer I don't know what is haha. I'd probably just take care of yourself *wink wink nudge nudge*

All of this.

It's so much more than if you're still bleeding or not. I'm not trying to second guess the advice from anyone's doctor/midwife though, so if you're following their recommendations then go on with your sexy selves, but I'll wait until after my 6 week PP check-up at minimum.

elsa1688 · June 2014

I made sure we DTD twice this week (which was more than we were having third trimester). I plan on waiting the full 6 weeks. If things get desperate, there's so many frisky things to do that don't include infection risk.

Lindsleigh77 · June 2014

6 weeks the first time around as well, probs the same this time

ChristineBaker23 · June 2014

We waited 6 weeks last time per instruction of the doc. If you're really feeling up to it and you don't have any external damage (stitches etc...) I don't see why you couldn't get a little handsy with each other

I definitely wouldn't stick anything in there though.

chickpea912 · June 2014

We were told six weeks for anything in the vagina. We took that literally - doesn't mean we haven't done other things.

tummommy · June 2014

Pregnancy & nursing killed my drive last time, shaping up to be the same way this go 'round. Plus I was sore way longer than 6 weeks so he couldn't go as deep as we were used to. Eventually it got lovely again which explains why we are on baby #2

justme04 · June 2014

With DS1 I had an emergency c-section and was ready and willing at 2 weeks (actually maybe a little sooner) we waiting the full post partum time because DH wanted to be safe and make sure not to tear my stitches.

With DS2, who I VBAC'd, we tried at the 6 week mark but it was super painful as I'd experienced a level 4 tear, the worst possible. It took 6 months before I was physically up for things.

DD will be a c-section.

Silvermystique13 · June 2014

katekat8721 said:

I was told the full 6 weeks because whether you have a vaginal or cesarean the cervix dilates and it needs time to fully close. The nurse describes losing the placenta like leaving a raw wound behind on the uterus and they don't want anything getting up there and potentially infecting anything.

If that's not a mood killer I don't know what is haha. I'd probably just take care of yourself *wink wink nudge nudge*

You're allowed to afterwards? Sorry, probably sounds like a dumb question, I just wasn't sure that would be allowed.... Yeah, my copy of "Pregnancy For Dummies" doesn't tell me shit! :-S

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