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Potty training tips? I need HELP!!

janeen6789janeen6789 member
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My daughter turned 3 in March and we keep going back and forth with potty training!!! She just won't do it!!! I've tried everything! Went out let her pick out her panties, bought her her own potty chair, I've done a potty chart where she gets to put on stickers every time she goes and win prizes, that was going good for awhile but then she lost interest , so I tried just keeping her in panties and taking her to potty every 30 min that was working but not anymore. Even the daycare has been helping taking her to the potty rewarding her and so on..... I'm out of ideas and I'm sooooo frustrated I just don't know what to do any help would be great!!!!! P.s. She is my third child her two older brothers were so easy to potty train just put them in underwear and they were good no accidents or anything!!!
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  • rlyttlerlyttle member
    Have you tried the 3 day method? It worked like a charm with DS. We just took his diaper & shorts completely off for 4 or 5 days, then introduced underwear. Look it up. 
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  • fitmom82fitmom82 member
    It's nice to hear this perspective.  DD potty trained very easily shortly after 2, I'm pretty nervous about DS.  It sounds like you're doing alot of positive reinforcement, but what about some consequences for wetting her pants?
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  • emod10emod10 member
    fitmom82 said:

    It's nice to hear this perspective.  DD potty trained very easily shortly after 2, I'm pretty nervous about DS.  It sounds like you're doing alot of positive reinforcement, but what about some consequences for wetting her pants?

    No. No consequences. You will destroy your child if there are negative consequences to not using a stupid potty. She's only 3. Rule out UTIs and then leave her alone until she's ready.

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  • julesg86julesg86 member
    There is a book called, "Oh Crap, Potty Training". It's basically the 3 day method, but it comes at potty training with a dose of humor. We did exactly what she says with my daughter and it took about 6 days, but after 3 months we haven't had any accidents. Whichever method you end up using you should really stick with it and don't turn back. Best of luck!
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  • Leap08Leap08 member
    I'd do undies or bare bottom only for a few days. Do not give in and go back to diapers or pull-ups (that's confusing). I'd try switching up the reward for going potty (maybe switch to a treat instead of a sticker). I'd stop making her go every 30 minutes, but I would ask her frequently if she needs to go or remind her to tell me if she needs to go. If she has accidents, I would have her help me clean it up. I would not make a big deal out of it or in anyway "shame her" for the accident, but I would have her help me wipe up any urine or clean up any poop. I'd also say repeatedly something like "yucky. pee/poo goes in the potty." If you're doing undies, I'd put those somewhere where she can get clean ones and put them on herself. Basically, I'd try to let her take charge of the process. Good luck!
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  • ashiscuteashiscute member
    She may not be ready.  Just because she is physically ready doesn't mean she is emotionally ready.  If that's the case take a break and wait a bit.  Not a big deal.  

    If she is really ready you don't need stickers or rewards they will go on their own.  I'd toss that stuff out.  I wouldn't take her as often as 30 mins.  If she has to go that frequently she should still be in diapers.  I would take her at natural times (first wake up, before you leave, etc) and then ask whenever you notice her showing signs of needing it.  I would also do underwear with pull-ups only for nap/bed time.  Good luck.
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  • SusieBWSusieBW member
    Leap08 said:
    I'd do undies or bare bottom only for a few days. Do not give in and go back to diapers or pull-ups (that's confusing). I'd try switching up the reward for going potty (maybe switch to a treat instead of a sticker). I'd stop making her go every 30 minutes, but I would ask her frequently if she needs to go or remind her to tell me if she needs to go. If she has accidents, I would have her help me clean it up. I would not make a big deal out of it or in anyway "shame her" for the accident, but I would have her help me wipe up any urine or clean up any poop. I'd also say repeatedly something like "yucky. pee/poo goes in the potty." If you're doing undies, I'd put those somewhere where she can get clean ones and put them on herself. Basically, I'd try to let her take charge of the process. Good luck!
    This sounds like pretty much what we did with DD.  She got 1 M&M for peeing and 2 for pooping on the potty.  We put her in undies at home, but pull-ups for when we went out, but always asked her often if she had to go, whether we were home or out.  If she had accidents, she would help clean up and we would remind her that she has to tell a grown up if she has to go in order to avoid accidents.  She gets appalled with herself when she has accidents, too.  She's so grossed out it's almost funny, so to say that she was ready for potty training is an understatement.

    We would express some disappointment when she had accidents, but it was never anything big or shaming, just a mild "Ohhhh, T, really?  Why didn't you say something before?"  But always followed up with "Oh well, it was an accident. No big, let's go clean it up."  My DD responds well to that, so it worked well for her.  She's the kind of kid who responds really well to us being proud of her, and genuinely seems like she wants to make us proud, so any amount of disappointment has an effect on her.  But I know that's not how all kids operate.  Figure out what your child responds to and work with it.
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  • dashofrealitydashofreality member

    She is probably rebelling about being dragged to the potty every 30 mins. My 3 yo has a bladder of steel and goes 13-14 hours overnight and 3-4 hours during the day.

    What worked for us was giving her control. Told he she knew what to do and it was up to her now to go, and call us when she needed help. And then we didn't ask her if she needed to go. Worked for us, I'm not really sure you have very many other options. GL.

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  • acbfreireacbfreire member
    dashofreality said:

    She is probably rebelling about being dragged to the potty every 30 mins. My 3 yo has a bladder of steel and goes 13-14 hours overnight and 3-4 hours during the day.

    What worked for us was giving her control. Told he she knew what to do and it was up to her now to go, and call us when she needed help. And then we didn't ask her if she needed to go. Worked for us, I'm not really sure you have very many other options. GL.

    So true! I tried a casual approach with DD and she was using the potty 50% of the time in the first 2 days. Then I followed other people's advice to sit her on the potty every 30 min. She got so stressed out and we had to stop potty training completely. Now I am slowly trying to introduce it again - my way!
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