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Excuse me while I vent... :(

julestonyjulestony member
in September 2014 Moms
DH and I have been planning a trip to my folks for July 4th week...driving about 750 miles. Planned it fourteen because he can't take vaca Jan - Jun due to busy season with his job. His brother and brother's two kids (13 & 15) are coming with us. Well, mentioned trip to OB at last appt, and she isn't thrilled. Big concern is (I'm AMA) if something happens on the way there or back, or there, our likelihood of being less than an hour from a hospital that could handle it is minimal (most of the tinge will be 2+ hrs from a major city). DH is coming to my appt next week and says "we'll talk her into it," yet the more I think of it (I'll be 31w), the more concerned I am. Don't know if something will or won't happen, but don't want to put LO in more jeopardy than needed. He hears me, but doesn't seem to be listening to the fact that i am very concerned and would rather not take the chance. Urgh...I love him, but am hurt and frustrated and can't seem to get through to him about this.
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Re: Excuse me while I vent... :(

  • MrsLaLaBugMrsLaLaBug member
    That's a toughie... personally I'd always go with what your doctor advises... better safe than sorry?  You just never know. 
                                                                                      
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  • Emmy916Emmy916 member
    If my doctor seemed that adamant about it and I was worried I'd tell them to go without me. In the end I wouldn't want to be in the predicament where you think to yourself "What if I didn't go…" if the doctor is right and something happens while on the trip. 
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  • AR1of2AR1of2 member
    Yeah that's such a shame to miss the trip you've been looking forward to. But there will be many more happy trips to come! I would tell MH bluntly that my inclination is to stay home to keep LO as safe as possible, and let him ask the OB all the questions he wants about it. GL!
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  • rlyttlerlyttle member
    Can they drive and you fly?
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  • dal2ausdal2aus member
    Is this really about risk or are you just not looking forward to being stuck 10-12 hours in a car at 7 months pregnant?  Either way, I wouldn't blame you, and he shouldn't be so quick to dismiss your POV.  You're carrying the baby and you have to listen to your body and your instincts regarding what's right for you and your baby. 
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  • mrsH1112mrsH1112 member
    If your doctor was adament about it for some reason, I would probably be nervous to not listen to her.  What if you flew?  Would she be ok with that?  Not sure if you could swing it or not.

    I was supposed to go away for 4 days for work at the beginning of Aug.  My dr was ok with it, she basically said she isnt thrilled but thought it would be fine.  That was enough for my DH to completely not get behind me going.


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  • julestonyjulestony member
    I refuse to fly. Doc is concerned that if something happens, I am far from any hospital that could help LO, and would be stuck there for weeks. Wants me to be aware of potential issues. TT DH and he said he was just trying to ease my mind...here, i thought and felt like he was dismissing my concerns. I've done the drive a hundred times, so that doesn't bother me. Doc will give us her final answer next week and we'll go with that. Doc has legitimate concerns.Thanks for your thoughts. I realize hundreds of pregnant women travel/fly everyday. I've waited very long for this part of my life and just choose to not take any unnecessary chances. At least if something happens here, I'm 10-20 min from my doc and hospital, and the hospital can take care of her....most on the trip wouldn't be able to.
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