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greenbean79greenbean79 member
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Hi Ladies

Thought I'd finally join, as it's officially been 1 year since we've been TTC our 2nd child. At work, just got my period, feeling down about it.

What do you guys find helps get you over the disappointment of yet another month gone by with no BFP? i just feel like crying

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  • Jodee37Jodee37 member
    I'm sorry you have been trying for so long and still no luck. At this point I would urge you to see an RE. Hopefully you are tracking your cycles and will have some information to give to them. Did you have trouble conceiving #1, i can't see any details in your siggy? this board is more geared for women or their SOs who have an infertility diagnosis... not sure if this is quite the right fit for you.
    Me: 36, DH: 36
    DH's SA = normal
    1 tube only wonder
    AFC 3-5, AMH 0.30

    BFP #1 3/29/11.  EDD 12/4/11... Missed m/c 5/9/11. Cytotec fail. D&C 5/17/11.
    BFP #2   7/5/11.  EDD 3/14/12... Our rainbow Kellen born 3/14/12 via c/s.
    BFP #3 5/30/13.  EDD 2/8/14...  6wk u/s HB 126. 8wk u/s lost HB. D&C 7/12/13.
    BFP #4 2/18/14.  EDD 10/30/14... Ruptured ectopic with L tube removed & D&C 3/7/14.
    BFP #5 7/27/14.  EDD 4/9/15...  m/c @ 5w4d.

    IVF #1    Oct 2014 - antagonist protocol: 9R, 7M, 5F. 3dt of 3 Grade 2 embies. BFN. 
    IVF #2    Jan 2015 cancelled due to dominant follicle.  Converted to IUI #1. BFFN
    IVF #2.1 March 2015 cancelled due to dominant follicle.

    BFP #6  (SUPRISE!) 3/19/15.  EDD 11/30/15...  CP at 4w2d.
    IUI #2:    Clomid + Follistim = 3 follies. BFN.
    IVF #2.2 May 2015 - horrible response to micro lupron flare protocol: 3R, 3M, 3F. 3dt of 2 Grade 3 embies. BFFN. 

    BFP #7 (beyond surprised again!) 4/26/16. EDD 1/5/17. beautiful betas!!!! and then near-fatal hemorrhagic corpus luteum. turns out baby was ectopic after all; another lap 5/6 (@24dpo).

    the universe can fuck off.


     "You are overly paranoid and delusional that every one is out to get you." -lastsliverofhope

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    all AL welcome. TTC #2 for 43 44 months.
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  • GraceyandTroyGraceyandTroy member
    I'm sorry your having a hard time. We all know how it feels. When I'm particularly down, I like to watch something really sad and sappy so I can have an excuse to cry. I also take in projects around the house and whatnot. Something to distract me.

    And as @Jodee37‌ already said, please share your details. It will help us get to know you and help us offer the right advice/suggestions. I'm mobile right now, so I don't know what's in your sig.
    Happily Mrs. C 
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    start ttc #1 in Jan 2009
    dx PCOS in May 2010, begin metformin
    Two failed clomid cycles (made lining too thin)
    Started acupuncture while saving for IVF in Sept 2011
    Add herbal infusions to the mix in Dec 2011
    Hoping holistic approach works!!!

    BFP on April 2012 at 11dpo
    Meepy Man born on Jan 2013 - Hip Hip Hurray!

    Ready to start ttc #2 April 2013, but plan to be an extended BF'er
    Back on metformin Aug 2013
    Restart herbal infusions Sept 2013 - currently drinking nettle, oatstraw, and red raspberry leaf
    DS weaned in April 2014
    Taking a break from herbs and just riding the healthy train.  
    Planning medicated cycle end of summer.  FX I get KU before then!!!
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  • Steph1673Steph1673 member
    Welcome but hopefully not got long. When I get a BFN I like to have a big fat beer or glass of wine ;-)
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  • MrsAtchMrsAtch member
    Welcome. I hope your stay here is short. My infertility removed the possibility of a BFP for a long time and we are just starting to think it might be possible. It's hard watching everyone around you move on, and answering questions constantly. I find that there is safety in numbers, and tequila.
    After two losses, a rainbow arrived! DD born 11.5.11
    Dx with severe Asherman's syndrome after a botched PP D&C (pursuing med mal)
    Hysteroscopy Oct '13, not enough progress 
    Hysteroscopy Jan '14, given an end-of-the-road diagnosis
    Joined International Asherman's Association April '14 
    Not ready to give up yet.
    Hysteroscopy with Dr. Isaacson (an expert in the USA) 6.2.14: Good prognosis, at least 50% of cavity open.
    Repeat hysteroscopy scheduled with Dr. I on 6.16.14. Great progress. Unbenched!!!!
    Discussing actively TTC with DH after the heartache of the last year. We're both reeling.
     
    Please, please, please. 
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  • greenbean79greenbean79 member

    Thanks Ladies.

    I was diagnosed with endometriosis in 2004 , however, conceived my 1st within 3 months of TTC. I actually have started going to a fertility clinic.....so far, everything has come back normal, as per the nurses. But we meet with the actual doctor to review everything in a few weeks, so he may have additional details.

    I feel bad for my son.....even if i get pregnant within the next 2 months, he'll be close to 4 years old by the time I have another. He doesnt have any cousins or anyone else around his age , so was hoping to give him a sibling close in age. Do you guys ever feel that way? Then again, maybe it's not so bad to be an only child, I"m not sure.

    I will try to update my sig when i get a chance. thanks for your responses though!

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  • FrenchteachermamaFrenchteachermama member
    Welcome, I'm sorry you find yourself here but we're a great group of ladies!  I think about the age gap all of the time but as time goes on I worry more about never being able to have another baby rather than the age gap.  I think great girl friends and wine are the best medicine anyone could ask for!



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    My FF Chart:
    http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/490dd7
    TTC #3 since June 2013
    BFP #1 7/21/2013--EDD 3/30/14--D&C 9/24/13
    BFP #2 1/28/14--MC 2/7/14
    IUI #1 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
    IUI #2 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
    IUI #3 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
    IVF #1, Stimmed for 12 days, ER 8/22/14, 9 retrieved, 7M, 7F!!  Freeze all due to fluid in uterus.
    FET end of October 2014 cancelled due to fluid in uterus due to possible c-scar defect
    Surgery scheduled 12/12/14 to fix possible isthmocele
    3/26/15 transferred one 8 cell grade 4 embryo and one 6 cell grade 3 embryo = slow rising betas for 2+ weeks = ectopic MTX shot 4/29/15
    Repeat c-scar surgery June 2015
    2nd and last IVF cycle August 2015, stimmed for 12 days, 2 egg retrieved, both mature and both fertilized.  Transferred both 8-cell embryos on Day 3, beta 9/5/15 = BFFN
    MOVING TO ADOPTION!  


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