Ugh...

SummerB0607 · June 2014

There's this girl I know who found out a couple of weeks ago that she was expecting. The guy she is married to has four boys from a previous marriage so they're hoping for a girl. Totally understandable. But get this...a couple of days ago she posted a pic of the little peanut on fb. In the comments everyone was saying how beautiful this baby was, calling it a SHE, even saying stuff like "there's my granddaughter, niece, etc" and "are you doing her nursery in pink or purple?" This girl has already bought her "daughter" girly things (clothes, shoes, etc) And it's all because she WANTS IT TO BE A GIRL. But she is just sure it is a girl. Her reason...they already have boys and she WANTS a girl. Just to clarify this...she has not had any tests or anything to verify gender. She is only 7 weeks. I think it's fine to wish for one gender or another, but am I the only one who thinks she is going too far with this?

uncharted01 · June 2014

I have a girlfriend that point blank refuses to acknowledge the fact that I could have a boy. It drives me CRAZY! The way she talks makes it sound like it would be a huge disappointment if I had a boy and she wouldn't be nearly as interested in the baby. I've actually started to avoid her because it pisses me off.

It's okay to have a preference, but to go to the lengths that your friend (or acquaintance or whatever) is going to is just ridiculous!

missnacholover · June 2014

She'll be the dumbass who has to deal with returning 900 things!

absolutelymaybe · June 2014

Big laugh if/when she finds out her daughter has a penis.

sweetbabyrahe · June 2014

If you wish hard enough, it will come true right?!?! XY chromosomes can just change to XX because you want them to. That's funny. Even if I had a preference, I don't know if I would make it so public like that. I wouldn't want my little boy to know that I and everyone else really wanted a girl.

brooklyngirl18 · June 2014

ridiculous. sounds like she belongs on the team thread- there was lots of confusion surrounding the clicky poll and the difference between clicking what you wanted and what your are confirmed to be having.

Ineedmorecoffee · June 2014

Yeah that is creepy and setting yourself up for major disappointment. My mom would call my baby a She before I found out what I was having, and it made me so mad.

jessa1228 · June 2014

I sincerely hope she doesn't grow to resent her child if it does indeed end up being a boy.

moroccojade · June 2014

Oh no. She is going to have a long way to fall if this doesn't work out as she wants it to.

Honestly, I wouldn't have even tried to conceive if I had such a strong gender preference. As my daughter learned in preschool, "You get what you get and you don't get upset."

Chances are, she will have a boy. Her man has a long history of them.

SummerB0607 · June 2014

I am going to laugh so hard if she has a boy. But also will feel sorry for the child if he is a boy. Because what if he finds all that stuff about everyone wanting him to be a girl? I think she will still love him, she is very good to her husbands boys. But it is just ridiculous. She isn't a friend. Her husband is the lead singer of the band my boyfriend is in. I have to see her this weekend...I'm sure I will hear all about her "daughter" and I will probably end up saying something

jleitao1 · June 2014

My mom "knew" I was a girl! She bought all girl stuff & had a girl nursery...the whole family was whispering to each other about what would happen if I ended up a boy! Well...turns out, she was right!

Even though the tech told me at my 12 week scan that it's most likely a boy, I still can't find it in me to refer to the baby as he/him...I need to know 100%!!!!

maebee87 · June 2014

Ummmm....

I hope she loves her baby no matter what the sex is.

Maelara · June 2014

uncharted01 said:
I have a girlfriend that point blank refuses to acknowledge the fact that I could have a boy. It drives me CRAZY! The way she talks makes it sound like it would be a huge disappointment if I had a boy and she wouldn't be nearly as interested in the baby. I've actually started to avoid her because it pisses me off.

It's okay to have a preference, but to go to the lengths that your friend (or acquaintance or whatever) is going to is just ridiculous!

My SIL did that to me with DD. She even said she wouldn't love it as much if it was a boy because we had too many in the family already.

xiaopeapod · June 2014

Maelara said:

uncharted01 said:
I have a girlfriend that point blank refuses to acknowledge the fact that I could have a boy. It drives me CRAZY! The way she talks makes it sound like it would be a huge disappointment if I had a boy and she wouldn't be nearly as interested in the baby. I've actually started to avoid her because it pisses me off.

It's okay to have a preference, but to go to the lengths that your friend (or acquaintance or whatever) is going to is just ridiculous!
My SIL did that to me with DD. She even said she wouldn't love it as much if it was a boy because we had too many in the family already.

Omg, your MIL said that? I would've been so, so furious. It'll still be her grandchild! My MIL has a strong preference for the baby being a girl too, but she better not say anything if it turns out otherwise. I'm actually leaning towards boy, but in the end, you love your child regardless.

SummerB0607 · June 2014

Maelara said:

uncharted01 said:
I have a girlfriend that point blank refuses to acknowledge the fact that I could have a boy. It drives me CRAZY! The way she talks makes it sound like it would be a huge disappointment if I had a boy and she wouldn't be nearly as interested in the baby. I've actually started to avoid her because it pisses me off.

It's okay to have a preference, but to go to the lengths that your friend (or acquaintance or whatever) is going to is just ridiculous!
My SIL did that to me with DD. She even said she wouldn't love it as much if it was a boy because we had too many in the family already.

Oh my gosh....what an awful thing for her to say. That would be one less aunt in my childs life

lincoln79 · June 2014

***Losses mentioned***

if wanting made it so, I would be pregnant with my fifth child right now instead of having a GC and four angel babies.

just saying....

people irritate me. i point blank called my mil on this issue memorial day weekend. we are team green and she pestered me to confess to her "what I REALLY wanted". I told her after losing four babies that I would be ecstatic whatever sex our child is and that I never want to hear her asking or discussing this issue again.

probably harsh, but i had had enough.

vent over.

ed16564 · June 2014

I find myself hoping it's a not boy out of fear she won't love that baby if it's not a girl.

dr_pr · June 2014

Maelara said:

I have a girlfriend that point blank refuses to acknowledge the fact that I could have a boy. It drives me CRAZY! The way she talks makes it sound like it would be a huge disappointment if I had a boy and she wouldn't be nearly as interested in the baby. I've actually started to avoid her because it pisses me off.

It's okay to have a preference, but to go to the lengths that your friend (or acquaintance or whatever) is going to is just ridiculous!
My SIL did that to me with DD. She even said she wouldn't love it as much if it was a boy because we had too many in the family already.

That's crazy train. It's one thing to have an opinion, it's quite another to be so blunt about it.

Kind of funny story: my husband's grandmother was sure she was having a little girl, even buying tons of dresses and girly outfits. Instead had my FIL. Since this was just after the Depression, she didn't want to waste any of the girl clothes, so most of the pictures of my FIL from the first year are of him in dresses!

runningmama14 · June 2014

So I know a woman who I'm not particularly fond of. She had 5 boys and is currently pregnant and wants a girl sooooo badly. I feel like a bit of a bitch when I admit that I hope she has another boy...

mommymeg143 · June 2014

I need an update on this as soon as she finds out!! Send out the bat signal!!

Nfranco973 · June 2014

Hoping it's a girl or somebody is in for a hell of a disappointment!

staugustinewedding · June 2014

MeganMullikin said:
I need an update on this as soon as she finds out!! Send out the bat signal!!

Agreed!! Please update!

FishyMom · June 2014

maebee87 said:
Ummmm....

I hope she loves her baby no matter what the sex is.

Umm this gif is PERFECT!!!

crystaldh · June 2014

What is she, 12?

SummerB0607 · June 2014

She's 27. I will update! It will be a while though since she's only 7 weeks. Hopefully I can find this thread again then.

LittleLadyAKS · June 2014

This is slightly different, but this is why I'm so glad that I don't have a strong preference or any 'intuition' about what our baby might be. This way I go into our anatomy scan without any preconceived notions so no disappointment at all. I think it's insane the lengths that some people go to because they want the baby to be a certain sex.

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