Horrible morning

lebradford · June 2014

So I went for my CD 3 appointment today of what should be my first injects cycle, and I have a HUGE cyst. She said it was 4 cm, (in case you're not a metric system fan, that's 40mm). I have to wait for my blood work results to be sure, but it looks like this cycle will be cancelled. :-( Unless I've magically started ovulating on my own, this means I'll have to wait a month, get more labs "to make sure I'm not pregnant," take Provera for 10 days, and then wait another week for a period. I am so angry and upset. It is so, so unfair.

*********School children mentioned***********

Then I decided to try to make it through work (I'm a teacher). The first thing I had to do was supervise the crosswalk between the bus and parent drop-off lane. Some lady tried to drive through the bus lane, so I waved for her to drive through the car lane. She rolled down her window and said, "I know. I went the wrong way, and now I'm turning around, so don't wave your hand at me, bitch." I kind of shrugged it off, and then she got at the end of a long line of cars. When she finally pulled up she rolled her window down to yell at me some more so I told her I didn't like her attitude. She called me a bitch again, and I asked if those were her kids because I was trying to figure out who she was so I could report her. She said, "yeah, you got a problem with it?" I told her I was sorry her kids had to hear that. Then she called me a cunt and said she was going to get me fired.

WTF?! This was all before 9:00!! Long story short, I couldn't stop crying between the two things, and my principal sent me home, so now I'm sitting on my couch complaining to you guys.

Help me get through this! What do you do to pass time on benched cycles? Any experience with cysts so big? Thoughts on when it might go away? Should I ask the nurse about birth control this afternoon when she calls?

meld42 · June 2014

I don't have any advice, but I want say how sorry I am! That really sucks to hear about a cyst when I have been reading about you starting your injects cycle

And people are so rude. I can't believe she would talk to you like that ever.. especially with her kids near... I remember being so embarrassed by my mother and her tendency to freak out.

As for passing the time, is there a month long program you could sign up for as a little treat to yourself/way to pass the time? Maybe an outdoors fitness class or something like that? I'm so sorry

Sha259 · June 2014

Oh Noo!! (((HUGS)))

What an awful way to start the day.

I'm so sorry you're morning has been rough.

Regarding the cyst, there's not much I can say there as I have not experienced one before. I hope that there is no pain involved and that it shrinks hella fast for you.

Regarding that "lady" in the bus lane, Holy Cow!!! How can people act this way to other human beings? Is there no way for you to write up a formal complaint against her for verbal abuse? I sincerely feel sorry for her kids.

Take the day to spoil yourself in some way, food, a movie, shopping, anything. You deserve it.

Spring78 · June 2014

I hope you don't mind me chiming in -- I'm in the Infertility group, but lurk here from time to time. I am so sorry you had to deal with that "woman" today! What a unbelievable disaster of a human being!! I feel so sorry for her kids as they do not seem to stand much of a chance with a role model like that. I hope you were able to figure out who she was and report her sorry, inappropriate a$$. I am just so livid on your behalf.

As for advice... I have never had to deal with cysts like that, so I am afraid I do not have any great advice to share. I'm not very patient, either, so no great recommendations for passing the time other than maybe picking up a good book or finding a show to binge on for a while. Good luck!!

AnnaClaire256 · June 2014

Oh my goodness, what a terrible way to start the day! I'm sooo sorry you had to deal with the wretched bitch on top of your disappointing news this morning. I can't believe the way people act in front of their children. Setting great examples, huh? Sounds like your principal is pretty understanding, so at least there's that.

I would definitely ask about birth control, I know it sucks to accept being REALLY out of the game for a cycle but it is definitely the most effective treatment plan. Try and do something nice for yourself today....don't let someone's rage issues and all together trashy behavior add to the stress you're facing.

gsancho · June 2014

OMG, that woman is crazy! I would definitely look into writing her up, although I have no idea how all that works. And she says she'd report you....umm, for what??

Sorry you had to deal with that after such disappointing news this morning!

jencity9 · June 2014

OMG that woman!!!!! That is so crazy!

I'm really sorry about your cyst. Being benched for any reason is so frustrating.

theholmanherd · June 2014

What an awful, miserable woman. I am so sorry you had to deal with that. I hate people like that; it just turns me into the hulk. Lol.

I'm sorry about your cyst, too. (((Big Hugs)))

Pintobean39 · June 2014

What a bitch!!! Poor kids had to hear their mom act like that. People amaze me everyday.

I had 2 cyst on my right ovary between my 2nd and 3rd injection cycle. Mine were 30mm and 20mm. My Dr actually just put me on bcp for 2 weeks and I went back for another appt and they were gone and we immediately started another cycle. I think because of my age my Dr doesn't waste any time getting me started again. For this IVF cycle I had a 20mm cyst and bcp for another 4 days and it disappeared. I think as long as the cyst isn't producing estrogen it should go away fairly quickly especially on bcp. It sucks regardless but hopefully it will go away quickly. I'm sorry.

Kam10 · June 2014

(((HUGS))) I'm so sorry you had a horrible morning.

I don't have any experience with cysts, but wanted to say how sorry I am.

KristenG2011 · June 2014

((Hugs)) to you. So sorry you had such a horrible day. My goodness!! I say take a long warm bath and just relax. I hope your day gets better!

CarSaidYes · June 2014

I'm sorry to hear about this shitty day if yours. As a fellow teacher I can understand that summer near is just building stress up. If you are like myself you are counting down the hours until summer is here and you can just breath and try to focus more attention on ttc. I would just do something you love when you get off work. I usually "try" to do yoga from a YouTube tutorial or something relaxing. Don't judge. Lol. Summer is near my friend. That rude lady can't get you fired. I would have written down my employee number, the unions phone number, wished her luck and went about my day. She doesn't have a chance so don't let her ignorant self get in your way.

Sewfie · June 2014

I'm sorry that you have a cyst. And that you had to deal with that a-hole this morning. I swear, I will never understand people who think it's okay to treat other people like that. Yuck.

sundaybrunch · June 2014

Holy crap! I am so sorry you had to deal with that b*#%* after a difficult monitoring appointment. Ugh!

I don't have any advice on cysts but I am on a break this cycle and have been keeping busy with going to the gym, gardening and taking our dogs for long walks. I have been shocked to realize that I have barely though about TTC the past couple of weeks. Keeping busy definitely worked for me!

jaytee16 · June 2014

Oh @lebradford, I'm so sorry to hear about the crappy start to your day. I got benched last cycle for cysts and honestly, it was frustrating. If there are any things you wanted to do around the house or garden or something, I would think this is a good time. Personally, I drank lots of wine, haha....but seriously.

As for the bitch at work, WTF?! I'm so sorry you had to put up with her shit, especially after a rough morning. I am sending her virtual TPs!!!

Now, I shall go off to find some good wall spam for you, lady. (((hugs)))

BunnyBerry · June 2014

I'm so sorry! I've never heard anyone speak that way to a stranger, and certainly to not a teacher. It must be nice taking out all your aggression on someone who has to be nice no matter what.

I've had 5cm and 6cm cysts. The only advice I got was to be careful to prevent torsion - no sports, strenuous activity (not that those are a part of my life in any way!). Also to contact doctor immediately if any serious pain starts (because torsion can cause part of the ovary to become necrotic). Since we were TTC but not getting any treatments at that time, I was told to just wait and see (F/U ultrasound a month or so later) and it had resolved itself.

ronniesgirl1981 · June 2014

Oh honey!! I am so angry for you! If it makes you feel any better, I have also missed a day from work when I couldn't stop crying.

For me, tomorrow was better! I wish it were the weekend!!

How many school days are left?

lebradford · June 2014

Thanks, guys! I'm sure this will be a huge roller coaster of emotions for me, but it makes me feel really good to have your support. And a few of you made me laugh too!!

I've been doing some research, and it sounds, like @CaterinaC said, that there really isn't any evidence that says BC will shrink them faster. The upside of BC would be that I probably wouldn't need Provera, but I also haven't tried to ovulate on my own in a while, so even though I want to keep doing medicated cycles, it wouldn't be all bad for us to see where things stand with my ovaries.

Does anyone know if cysts keep your body from ovulating naturally?

Thanks, @BunnyBerry. I was wondering if it could be potentially dangerous to my ovaries. I am unhappy with my weight and want to start running this summer (again), but I guess I need to check with the nurse about that too. It was also nice to hear that even though you had such a large cyst, it still went away pretty quickly. Everything I have been reading has said it can take up to 3 months!! I am *really* hoping that isn't the case.

BunnyBerry · June 2014

Hope you can run! You're a better woman than I to stay active.

I don't know if they went away totally after the first month, only that they were not a problem anymore and I didn't need to go back to check them. Not sure if I would have been cleared for fertility meds (sorry!).

StacyLH24 · June 2014

I'm so sorry that you have had such a bad morning. I have no advice on the cysts. I hope they disappear quickly so that they don't delay you any longer.

It is difficult to not actively cycle. I have done that a few times, including right now. I have no good advice for that either

. I just obsess over when things will get going again, especially now. I hope your day improves!

Pintobean39 · June 2014

@lebradford‌ yes some cyst can cause you not to ovulate. That happened to me years ago, I didn't have a period for 4 months thanks to a cyst. I'm not sure if it's only the ones producing estrogen or not.

wishiwaspreggo · June 2014

That is some stone cold redneck low class shit to yell at a teacher while dropping off your kid. How lovely to know she has offspring to perpetuate this behavior.

I'm so sorry that happened to you If you see her car parked anywhere in town, toss on a couple pieces of bologna in the hot sun. It'll peel the paint right off it.

No advice on how to deal between cancelled cycles... I've self-benched for scheduling reasons and I just try to forget about it as best I can. It's easy enough to just stop with the temping, charting, OPKs, and all the other bullshit I worry about when I'm on a cycle. I relax and enjoy some good drinks and lose myself in books, movies, nights out with friends, etc. Enjoy life nothing worse than spending so much time worrying over a cycle. At least now you're free of that burden of worry until AF starts again. That's how I see it.

((((HUGS))))

>:D<

Pintobean39 · June 2014

Remind me to never piss off @wishiwaspreggo I don't want bologna thrown on my car. How have I never known this? I did love the "stone cold redneck low class shit", I'm going to have to remember that one. :-)

Belou52579 · June 2014

Its always nice to think about karma catching up with people like this but does it ever actually happen?

sorry about all of this @lebradford you don't deserve any of it.

rubysi · June 2014

And now you know who that someone is.

As for the cysts Dr's have always put me on bcp. I am never sure if they helped or the cysts went away on gheir own.

I would find something that makes you happy. I like to spend time in my garden either working in it or lying in my hammock. (((Hugs)))

masterofallcheese · June 2014

((hugs)) i am glad you were allowed to go home. that woman is crazy!!

Hpearl · June 2014

Nothing but hugs coming your way!

Hang in there! It is always so shocking to me what people will subject their kids to.

No one should speak to you that way!

Sigh202 · June 2014

Hope your day got better.

Mozzarella13 · June 2014

Having been benched with a cyst for a couple of months, I'd suggest taking the bcps just to have an endpoint...also, my cyst seemed to shrink while on name brand pills, but not on generic due to the decreased bioavailability. Most low dose pills don't stop ovulation, they change the lining so that nothing would implant.

lebradford · June 2014

packerfan4life said:
((Hugs)) Getting benched sucks After my over response I did 2 weeks of BCPs and didn't have any cysts going into the next cycle. Since you don't cycle on your own, it might be worth looking into BCPs so that you at least have an end point to this cycle. Hopefully you can cycle again soon!

That's what I was thinking. My nurse said birth control pills were unnecessary. However, a lot of the reason I want them is because if we don't have them, my one *cycle* of being benched is going to turn into two *months*.

I'm a teacher, and it has been hard balancing appointments with work (as I'm sure it is for everyone), but I have the next 2.5 months to focus on treatment, so being benched for potentially 2 months of that is so, so frustrating to me.

I might call my doctor and beg him personally or see if he has a plan other than waiting an entire month, taking Provera for 10 days, and waiting another week. There has to be something better....

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Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motilityIUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFNIVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!

Me: 26 (IC/PCOS-2000mg of Metformin daily)

DH: 27 (SA results were great minus the slightly low morphology)

Started dating DH in 2002 at 14 years old

Married on 03.01.2014

Officially TTC since April 2014

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July 2014- IUI#1-Canx due to scar tissue and polyps. TI with the help of Ovidrel. BFN

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Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!