Not this baby related, potty training help

shoemaker140 · June 2014

The potty training board is not very active, so I'm posting here. LO #1 is suddenly interested in the potty after a long regression period of not wanting anything to do with it. She just turned 2 in April. Anyway, she will go pee on the potty if she has no underwear on. If I put big girl undies on her she will wet herself about half the time and the other half go on the potty. She will only pee on her little potty that we have, not the big potty. So my question is how do we go out of the house? Should I put her in big girl undies and bring her massive potty out with us? I really want her potty trained before LO#2 comes. Any suggestions are appreciated.

librarygirl123 · June 2014

Do you give her any incentive when she goes potty? Stickers? an M&M? I knew one little boy who got to draw a dot on himself with a marker every time he went in the potty. You could modify this for the "big girl potty"- you definitely don't want to lug around that plastic potty!

I would be worried to take her out in panties if she is wetting herself, still. You could try some cloth training pants from somewhere that sells cloth diapers- that way, she will feel wet, but you won't have to worry about leaks.

Good Luck!

moroccojade · June 2014

Does she like her underwear? (ie, did she pick them out?) I would make a big deal out of taking her shopping to pick out whatever undies she wants, and buying her a balloon and a cupcake and having a "farewell to diapers, as you is a big girl now" mini-party when you get home. (Then have her help you "throw away" or put the diapers in the garage for the next baby or something.)

Something else to buy? A padded insert for your regular toilet and a stepping stool if you don't already have these things. Let her pick those out, too. Those floor potties can do more harm than good, as you often have to "train twice", and they just don't fit in with our lives in the real world. (Those padded inserts? fit very nicely into a diaper bag.)

Make putting the "baby potty" away a part of her party. She is a big girl now. No more baby stuff.

And also... do you have an open door policy when you are going to the bathroom? If she sees you going regularly, she might warm up to it, as all little girls want to be like mommy. Tell her now nice it is to flush the stinky stuff down and not have to clean out the potty bowl.

Most kids are not really afraid of the big toilet in and of itself if they have a good stool under their feet, but they are afraid of the flush. So you need to make that the best part. When you go to the loo, when you flush make a funny sound "Baaaa-whooosh!" - (or something equally ridiculous) then clap your hands at how awesome and hilarious that loud noise is.

Anyway, a lot of people will tell you it is "so early", but I disagree. My daughter was doing 100% solo potty trips by the time she was 20 months. She'd been diaper-free and accident-free for a long time before that point, too.

I think you will have no problem having her totally done before your second one arrives!

shoemaker140 · June 2014

Awesome. You guys give me hope. I had no idea how hard this would be. You guys gave excellent advice thank you. I'm going to take her to the store today when she wakes from her nap and buy a new potty insert for the big potty. We have a step stool so we're good there and I probably have an old cloth diaper somewhere. She's still in a diaper during naps and at night because she still wakes up wet, so we can't say goodbye to them completely yet. Hopefully, that follows soon.

moroccojade · June 2014

Oh no! This is fun! Not hard! Seriously. This is an awesome milestone. Bring some books into the bathroom. Get her comfortable on that toilet. Potty Time can = Party Time. (I can't believe I just typed that.... :P )

sweetbabyrahe · June 2014

@shoemaker140 I am glad I am not alone. I am trying to potty train my 2y10mo before LO arrives. We are failing miserably. He has no interest, doesn't care, and likely just isn't ready. He's so stubborn. We tried stickers, candy, prizes, guilt...nothing worked. We recently started using an IPAD app and he will at least sit on the potty, but has not gone yet. It is so so frustrating.

shoemaker140 · June 2014

Sweetbabyrahe how does he do naked? Will he pee on the potty then or just anywhere. It is very frustrating I know bc they will just do it when they're ready and you can't force them. I know tons of people with 3 Year olds that aren't potty trained or just barely.

jlove253 · June 2014

When she pees in her undies do you change her right away? If so try leaving her in them. She won't like how it feels which will reinforce the benefits of peeing in the potty. What worked for dd was she was super bothered by "yucky" things. So we told her when she goes potty in her diaper it is yucky. That really helped push her over the edge.

jlove253 · June 2014

sweetbabyrahe said:
@shoemaker140 I am glad I am not alone. I am trying to potty train my 2y10mo before LO arrives. We are failing miserably. He has no interest, doesn't care, and likely just isn't ready. He's so stubborn. We tried stickers, candy, prizes, guilt...nothing worked. We recently started using an IPAD app and he will at least sit on the potty, but has not gone yet. It is so so frustrating.

Try giving him tons of a favorite drink. With a full bladder and time to sit on potty with the iPad he'll have to go eventually. I've also read modeling with a teddy bear/ toy he likes on the potty helps.

sweetbabyrahe · June 2014

Good ideas! @shoemaker140‌ we need to try naked. He just goes right in the underwear.

meeshybee · June 2014

I had the same problems with my 1st. He would go without problem in his training potty when he was naked, but it was a disaster the rest of the time. His daycare lady had an insert (called a Cushy Tushy) that he came around to eventually. Wish I had started with that!

I don't know if he was harder because of the Asperger's, because he was a boy, or just because he was the first. The girls were way easier, but they also had someone modeling the behavior for them who didn't mind an audience.

phdprocrastinator · June 2014

Congratulations! We're getting over potty-fear here for DD who's 2.5 years. Would love for her to be close to fully trained before #2 arrives.

It sounds like you're on the right track. I'd probably do several days at home with just panties on. One of my good friends who just trained her daughter had the same trouble with panties, but it was relatively short-lived. Her DD quickly figured out that she was a wet mess when she wet her panties and began using the potty.

We're doing the little potty for now as it seems easier for our stubborn little girl (we can take it outside with us). Hopefully this doesn't ruin us in the end...

sunflwra · June 2014

We just did a 3 day method over Memorial Day weekend. We didn't go quite as hardcore as the plan said (we're using pullups for naps/overnight). We basically hunkered down in the house (ideally in a room near the potty) the whole time. Every 20-30 minutes you tell your child "Remind Mommy or Daddy if you have to go potty". If they start going in their undies, run them to the potty. If they go even a little bit in the potty, they get a treat.

The first day was horrendous and I couldn't possible see how I could do 3 days of it. We went through 15 pairs of undies- most of that the first morning. She had 2-3 accidents the 2nd day, right after she woke up so I think she sort of forgot. No accidents on day 3. At daycare, they ask or take them to the potty every 30 minutes and she's now accident free there too. We haven't ventured out for long car trips yet or having to go in a public place and she definitely prefers the toddler potty, but we bought a Potette Plus to take with us if she needs to go while we're in the car or refuses in a public potty, so I can just set it up in the car if needed and it's comparable in size to the toddler potty.

She's gone in my regular potty as long as I help her, she just seems to choose the toddler potty when it's there, so eventually, we'll remove that. It can definitely be tough but can also get better really quickly. Good luck!

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