birthday party WWYD?

fitmom82 · June 2014

I made plans with my mom to take my kids (2 and 4) to see family one weekend this summer about 5 hours away. I just realized this is the same weekend my nephew (DH's brother's son) will be having his 6th birthday party. The family we're visiting will be away one week this summer, so that takes up 2 weekends, I'm away with my inlaws 1 week, so that's another 2 weekends, 1 weekend is SIL's wedding, 1 weekend is DH's friend's wedding. So I'm spending 4 weekends with DH's friend or family this summer already. Am I horrible if I skip the birthday party? My nephew has 2 4 year old cousins and an 8 year old cousin who he normally hangs out with at the party. I'd go after the party, but it's a really long ride and my uncle is only around for the weekend so my mom really wanted to be there Saturday and Sunday. I just realized the conflict and mentioned it to SIL, she said she understood if I couldn't make it to the party, but I feel bad, I also feel back changing my mom's plan. WWYD?

VOR · June 2014

Skip the party. I realize this is family specific, but I just don't think kids b-day parties are "must drop everything!!!!" events. Especially at 6 - he isn't going to care if you are there or not AND his mother told you not to worry about it.

Virgo17 · June 2014

I'd skip it. DH can go and take a gift since it's his family. It is not a wedding, just a kids birthday party.

Maybe you could plan to do something with him and your kids another day if you are really close. But honestly, I wouldn't worry about it.

jf198400 · June 2014

I wouldnt worry about it. All of our nieces and nephews live 5-6hrs away and we never go to any of their bday parties. I just don't think a kids bday party is a big enough deal to rearrange my plans or make special travel arrangements.

ccam · June 2014

I would skip the party. You already had these plans made and it sounds like your SIL understands. Maybe bring a small gift to the next family gathering or at least send him a card.

fitmom82 · June 2014

Thanks, I think we're going to skip it. They live a town over so we see each other all the time. Both me and his mom are off in the summer so I'm going to offer to do something special the day of, or the day before the party. I also just realized his birthday is a Monday, so I'm not sure why she's thinking the Saturday after, maybe she'll change her mind.

VOR · June 2014

fitmom82 said:

Thanks, I think we're going to skip it. They live a town over so we see each other all the time. Both me and his mom are off in the summer so I'm going to offer to do something special the day of, or the day before the party. I also just realized his birthday is a Monday, so I'm not sure why she's thinking the Saturday after, maybe she'll change her mind.

What do you mean? Why is the Saturday after odd?

fitmom82 · June 2014

I just usually do it the weekend closest to their birthday, so I would have done the weekend before if the birthday is a Monday

skibunny59 · June 2014

No you're not horrible if you skip the party. My nephew just turned 7 and they live 5 hours away from us. We always made an effort to go to his parties when he was little. Now that he is in school though most of the guests at the party are his friends from school. I think kids are so excited to see their friends at their party that they don't really notice if certain family members are missing. We did skip his 7th birthday party that he just had. We will make a special trip to see them this summer.

snicksnack · June 2014

we are having a family only gathering for my son next weekend and my SIL was not cetain until yesterday if they were coming because she was trying to plan a beach weekend with her parents, my MIL has a beach house and my SIL who is married into the family like I am likes to take her parents several times a year and it did not bother me and they were over half my guest list so you are fine.

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