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What is she going through? I'm lost :(

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edited June 2014 in May 2014 Moms
Every night for the past 3 nights or more dd has been on the dot awake from 12 a.m until almost 3 a.m crying bloody murder. She is fine all day ... she sleeps the majority of the day. A few times she is up and very alert but quiet. Just looking around and of course being fed. But once midnight hits there is no mercy. the only way to get her quiet is by sticking a boob in her mouth. I don't think she is gassy because she is fine all day. She might have some reflux but it also doesn't seem to bother her any other time. The only thing I can think of is either cluster feeding or growth spurt. But she sleeps for a long time and because she gained a whole pound at her first visit I don't have to wake her for feedings although I still do if she's been asleep at least 4 hours. Just not long ago she was up every 2 hours on the dot eating around the clock wanting to be fed. Not she is sleeping longer through feedings but like I said, midnight arrives and she is a monster. I actually had to set her down and walk away last night :(((. Sorry if this is all over the place. I'm tired...

So do you think I'm going in the right direction with my assumptions on what it could possibly be? Give me your insight please. I've tried a warm bath before bed. The swaddle was working but it's like it's useless until 230-3 a.m and then she's out like a light (I swaddle her all day when she is sleeping only). I tried white noise. Aroma therapy. Reading a book (which seemed to Calm her down until dh set her down. A paci, and even gas drops and gripe water just in case
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Edit: I hope you can make sense of this because I am way too exhausted to fix anything.

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  • kalettekalette member
    She is calm if you nurse her? Why not just do that then?
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  • haylo33haylo33 member
    Sounds like a growth spurt. My guy went through that last week but at a different time of day. Around 5pm-10pm, he was fussy and wanted to eat almost constantly. The rest of the day he was pleasant as can be. It only lasted 2 or 3 days. It was so difficult but it does pass!!
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  • sulsa78sulsa78 member
    edited June 2014
    Sounds like she is just hungry. I'm thinking a growth spurt. This will pass don't worry mama! Keep feeding her at 12am until she's satisfied. I know it's exhausting. Hang in there!
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  • momthatliftsmomthatlifts member
    kalette said:

    She is calm if you nurse her? Why not just do that then?

    I do.

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    sulsa78 said:

    Sounds like she is just hungry. I'm thinking a growth spurt. This will pass don't worry mama! Keep feeding her at 12am until she's satisfied. I know it's exhausting. Hang in there!

    That's what I've been doingg. Seems the be the only thing that soothes her. I've been switching off boobs. Sometimes she just sick for a minute or two and the detaches

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  • momthatliftsmomthatlifts member
    Thanks I was thinking growth spurt too but needed some second or third opinions my I hear they don't last long either.

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    Wow really sorry for all the typos. I'm so tired I'm going cross eyed lol

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  • SurprisePartySueSurprisePartySue member
    My LO Did the same thing. From 8-1:30 like clock work. She's just now getting out of it and it's been 3weeks. (She's 6 weeks) the only thing I find to help us to make sure she doesn't sleep as much during the day. She takes a long 3-4 hr nap but is typically awake the rest of the time. She's now going to bed around 10 and wakes up every 3-4 hrs to eat. She will sleep in till 10 or 11 and then I keep her up until about 3. She takes her long nap then awake from 6/7-10. We start getting ready for bed around 8:30.
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  • MsliwinskiMsliwinski member
    What do you all do to keep your little one awake??? Mine is 4 weeks and I'm lost at how to keep him awake!
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    Msliwinski said:

    What do you all do to keep your little one awake??? Mine is 4 weeks and I'm lost at how to keep him awake!

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  • usernewnameusernewname member
    I diaper change him before a feed if he's hungry and wants to eat. Otherwise I follow him and let him sleep if he's not hungry.
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    MeaganStringer said:

    My LO Did the same thing. From 8-1:30 like clock work. She's just now getting out of it and it's been 3weeks. (She's 6 weeks) the only thing I find to help us to make sure she doesn't sleep as much during the day. She takes a long 3-4 hr nap but is typically awake the rest of the time. She's now going to bed around 10 and wakes up every 3-4 hrs to eat. She will sleep in till 10 or 11 and then I keep her up until about 3. She takes her long nap then awake from 6/7-10. We start getting ready for bed around 8:30.


    This! We've been doing this for a week and it's helping quite a bit! Most nights are good!

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  • ns1ns1 member
    Sounds like a growth spurt to me too. We haven't gotten there with this one yet but I remember a couple nights with DD where she would not sleep at all. She just kept wanting the boob. I remember calling DH in even though he couldn't really do anything it was nice for moral support and to know I wasn't going through it alone. This too shall pass. That's my motto this time around. Hang in there!
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  • Marcella05Marcella05 member
    Sounds like cluster feeding at an inopportune time.
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  • SurprisePartySueSurprisePartySue member
    Msliwinski said:

    What do you all do to keep your little one awake??? Mine is 4 weeks and I'm lost at how to keep him awake!


    Is there a certain way your LO doesn't like to sleep? Mine refuses to sleep longer than 10 mins without me holding her or laying next to her. So during the day when she falls asleep I put her in her PnP. She will wake up and be wide awake afraid I'm going to put her down. Or if you swaddle try not swaddling.
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  • BeijingvolBeijingvol member
    Has anyone ever heard of the witching hour? I read that sometimes babies at this stage just need to reboot & they do this by screaming in consolably until they get it out. Mine sets off right as we sit down to eat dinner. (Even if we adjust dinner time, it's like she knows as soon as I take the first bite!) It sounds to me like you just got an unlucky witching hour. We always check for the obvious things (diaper, feeding, gas, etc.) but if nothing seems to be wrong & she still screams we just put her in the swing & let her get it out. Good news is they usually sleep really well after a good long cry. I wish I had a better solution for you, but if you can think back to the last time you balled your eyes out for no reason (most likely hormones during pregnancy)... Sometimes humans just need a good cry to feel better :/
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    Bliz1712 said:

    Could definitley be a growth spurt.  Remember they can happen at the 3, 6, 9 marks.  So you might be hitting the 3 week spurt.  They will happen more often than you want and it's just something you have to power through.  Take today and sleep when she does to catch up.


    Also, what's worked for me is to only swaddle at night so there isn't any chance of getting nights and days switched around, as well as keeping room quiet and dark and other things..  It also helps her get used to not being swaddled because at daycare she can't be.  Just a suggestion.
    I kind of like the idea of only swaddling at night.

    My husband came to the rescue and took her at around 5 and went in to the living room with her so I could sleep a little but now we are both just stressed out. I know this should have been expected when we decided to have a baby but it's still a lot harder than I anticipated.

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  • momthatliftsmomthatlifts member
    And I will add that tonight was worse. She wouldn't go back down when she woke up to eat at 5. There is just nothing I can do at this point except wait it out.

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  • momthatliftsmomthatlifts member
    edited June 2014
    aimee223 said:

    My older sister screamed from 8 pm- midnight every day for the first month. My mom says the dr said it was her "fussy period" and that it was normal. She will grow out of it, it just takes time.

    Yeah it really is just fussiness. Lots of groans and grunts and pouting and if it's not acknowledged it turns In to crying. But she doesn't sit still when I hold her lol. She just wiggles around and fusses in my arms

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  • LeeLee86LeeLee86 member
    edited June 2014
    Sounds exactly like my DD. Turns into a monster from 11:30-2am. What has helped us is keeping her out as much as possible during the day(shopping, errands etc) and wearing her everyday(I have a k'tan). We also give her a bath (screams bloody murder) and I have DH put her down. She never seems to relax if I do it. She's also not a snuggler either very hypertonic. This helped me a lot

    https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/health-concerns/fussy-baby/high-need-baby/12-features-high-need-baby

    Some babies are different! Once I got over my expectations over her and just relaxed it got a lit better. Hang in there, try not to compare your baby to others she might just need different things. I was against AP until I had a high needs baby lol.
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    mfosburgh said:

    Msliwinski said:

    What do you all do to keep your little one awake??? Mine is 4 weeks and I'm lost at how to keep him awake!

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    I take my thumb and rub it down the bridge of his nose gently. It's like it annoys him enough to wake him up, but is soothing enough that he enjoys it. When I have his eyes, I make over dramatic faces and sing.

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  • Kinipela7Kinipela7 member
    No advice just wanted to say you are not alone.  Mine does this as well, however she doesn't sleep during the day either!   I just keep telling myself that she is too young and she will figure it out soon enough.  Hang in there!
     
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  • norab2684norab2684 member
    It is so hard! My LO Is 3 weeks and 2 days. We have had those cluster feeding nights/days. It was horrible. I wanted to give up BF!!
    Last night MH tried for 5 hours to get her to sleep. Everyone says that these first few weeks are the hardest and that it will get better. I just keep trying to tell myself that.
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    Kinipela7 said:

    No advice just wanted to say you are not alone.  Mine does this as well, however she doesn't sleep during the day either!   I just keep telling myself that she is too young and she will figure it out soon enough.  Hang in there!

    She has actually gotten worse. Now she fusses after every feeding. Sleep for a short period of time. And almost hardly sleeps at might at all. I swear I think I dream with my eyes open. The only way she will sleep is if she is on me. I called her pediatrician because she was spitting up every meal yesterday so I thought possibly reflux. I have an appointment next week for her hep b shot but she was only going to see the medical assistant for that. I requested to see the doctor. The receptionist gave me some suggestions (which I have been doing) and told me to call back if it gets worse. I have a feeling I'll be calling back... but I'm going to try to see if this passes. Now I'm so over it that I just let her do her 30 second crying fit. I try to comfort her but there is only so much I can do at this point :((( I just cry with her

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