Vent, feeling overwhelmed..previous losses mentioned

Danielle0311 · May 2014

Today is my edd from my first pregnancy. I had two losses in 6 months and have 2 surgeries and lost a tube all in the first year of my marriage. I'm feeling so down today as I look at my arms and see all the marks from getting blood drawn for this monitor cycle. Every time I go to the RE he tells me another thing that's wrong with me. First I had a cyst, then my prolactin was high, then my RE was concerned about DH's morph after telling me it was okay, and now I'm being put on meds for hypothyroidism. To make matters even better my friend, my sister in law, and my cousin are now all due with their firsts within the next two months. I'm happy for them but it's a lot to deal with. I'm just feeling so overwhelmed today. How do you ladies cope when you start to feel this way? Infertility sucks

Danielle0311 · May 2014

Wine definitely helps!! Lol

jencity9 · May 2014

I am so sorry you're going through this right now. Would you be willing to do something to commemorate the edd and your angel baby? That might help with processing that grief. I agree with packerfan4life to really focus on some of your other interests and/or start something new that you can put some time into to distract you from IF. (((Hugs)))

mrskovarik · May 2014

(Hugs) so sorry for your loss. I agree with PPs staying busy is what helps me the most. I hope you feel better!

theholmanherd · May 2014

I'm so sorry for all your troubles and for your loss. You are in the right place for support. These ladies are great. (((HUGS)))

rubysi · May 2014

(((BIG HUGS)))...I am sorry for your loss, edds can be difficult.

lebradford · May 2014

I'm sorry. :-( It sounds like you've had a rough time. I don't have much advice on coping other than trying to stay busy and considering talking to a therapist.

Danielle0311 · May 2014

Thank you ladies , your support means so much ((hugs))

nswain85 · June 2014

I'm so sorry you're having a tough day

all of this is such a crappy trip and can get to us pretty bad some times... ::hugs::

BunnyBerry · June 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss, and also for the pile of issues that have been coming up in your IF journey. Your feelings about being poked and prodded just too much in this cycle are truly understandable! I hope you and YH are able to feel closer through this difficult experience.

Pintobean39 · June 2014

I'm so sorry for your losses. ((Hugs)))

I've found running or any type of exercise or some project has helped me. I had 4 losses in the last year. My first EDD in Jan was right before I started treatments and I started DIY projects to help keep my mind off of things. My second was last month so I ran a lot because I was on bcp and I could. This month is my 3rd EDD, my 40th birthday which is also the anniversary of the date I found out my first baby girl no longer had a heart beat and I just started IVF so my ER is right before all this. I told everyone I'm running away for a week. We have a house to go to in Savannah so as soon as my ER is done I'm skipping town. There will be LOTS of alcohol.

This whole process sucks. I have held back tears before getting blood drawn because I get sick of it. I've locked myself in the bathroom and cried for hours before. I've spent many nights crying while I've had 1 to many drinks, people around me probably think I'm losing it. I just keep telling myself it will all be worth it in the end when I bring home a baby.

Good luck, and stay strong. This also has been a wonderful board to come to to vent when you need it. The ladies here seem to understand.

Danielle0311 · June 2014

Pintobean39 said:
I'm so sorry for your losses. ((Hugs)))

I've found running or any type of exercise or some project has helped me. I had 4 losses in the last year. My first EDD in Jan was right before I started treatments and I started DIY projects to help keep my mind off of things. My second was last month so I ran a lot because I was on bcp and I could. This month is my 3rd EDD, my 40th birthday which is also the anniversary of the date I found out my first baby girl no longer had a heart beat and I just started IVF so my ER is right before all this. I told everyone I'm running away for a week. We have a house to go to in Savannah so as soon as my ER is done I'm skipping town. There will be LOTS of alcohol.

This whole process sucks. I have held back tears before getting blood drawn because I get sick of it. I've locked myself in the bathroom and cried for hours before. I've spent many nights crying while I've had 1 to many drinks, people around me probably think I'm losing it. I just keep telling myself it will all be worth it in the end when I bring home a baby.

Good luck, and stay strong. This also has been a wonderful board to come to to vent when you need it. The ladies here seem to understand.

Wow, you have been through so much I am so sorry. I'm glad to see that my outbursts that I'm having latey are normal, I just completely loose it sometimes. I'm gonna have to find a hobby or projects to do and keep busy, that's definitely a good idea. One thing is for sure, IF is definitely making us stronger people right? ((Hugs))

Pintobean39 · June 2014

Danielle0311 said:

Pintobean39 said:
I'm so sorry for your losses. ((Hugs)))

I've found running or any type of exercise or some project has helped me. I had 4 losses in the last year. My first EDD in Jan was right before I started treatments and I started DIY projects to help keep my mind off of things. My second was last month so I ran a lot because I was on bcp and I could. This month is my 3rd EDD, my 40th birthday which is also the anniversary of the date I found out my first baby girl no longer had a heart beat and I just started IVF so my ER is right before all this. I told everyone I'm running away for a week. We have a house to go to in Savannah so as soon as my ER is done I'm skipping town. There will be LOTS of alcohol.

This whole process sucks. I have held back tears before getting blood drawn because I get sick of it. I've locked myself in the bathroom and cried for hours before. I've spent many nights crying while I've had 1 to many drinks, people around me probably think I'm losing it. I just keep telling myself it will all be worth it in the end when I bring home a baby.

Good luck, and stay strong. This also has been a wonderful board to come to to vent when you need it. The ladies here seem to understand.

Wow, you have been through so much I am so sorry. I'm glad to see that my outbursts that I'm having latey are normal, I just completely loose it sometimes. I'm gonna have to find a hobby or projects to do and keep busy, that's definitely a good idea. One thing is for sure, IF is definitely making us stronger people right? ((Hugs))

You are perfectly normal! Cry, scream, or throw something if you need to. You have earned the right. I really think this whole process does make us stronger. I've also learned to only surround myself with supportive people through all this. I've actually cut a few people out of my life and feel better about it. Just remember sometimes you have to be selfish and take care of yourself first.

Pintobean39 · June 2014

Danielle0311 said:

Pintobean39 said:
I'm so sorry for your losses. ((Hugs)))

I've found running or any type of exercise or some project has helped me. I had 4 losses in the last year. My first EDD in Jan was right before I started treatments and I started DIY projects to help keep my mind off of things. My second was last month so I ran a lot because I was on bcp and I could. This month is my 3rd EDD, my 40th birthday which is also the anniversary of the date I found out my first baby girl no longer had a heart beat and I just started IVF so my ER is right before all this. I told everyone I'm running away for a week. We have a house to go to in Savannah so as soon as my ER is done I'm skipping town. There will be LOTS of alcohol.

This whole process sucks. I have held back tears before getting blood drawn because I get sick of it. I've locked myself in the bathroom and cried for hours before. I've spent many nights crying while I've had 1 to many drinks, people around me probably think I'm losing it. I just keep telling myself it will all be worth it in the end when I bring home a baby.

Good luck, and stay strong. This also has been a wonderful board to come to to vent when you need it. The ladies here seem to understand.

Wow, you have been through so much I am so sorry. I'm glad to see that my outbursts that I'm having latey are normal, I just completely loose it sometimes. I'm gonna have to find a hobby or projects to do and keep busy, that's definitely a good idea. One thing is for sure, IF is definitely making us stronger people right? ((Hugs))

You are perfectly normal! Cry, scream, or throw something if you need to. You have earned the right. I really think this whole process does make us stronger. I've also learned to only surround myself with supportive people through all this. I've actually cut a few people out of my life and feel better about it. Just remember sometimes you have to be selfish and take care of yourself first.

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