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February 2013 Moms
DublinMama
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I need to be a whiny, bratty, immature person for a minute.
DublinMama
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My team teacher at school is a 24 year old male. In elementary, male teachers are rare. In primary, they're like pink unicorns. We are doing placements for next year's incoming 2nd graders. Parents are allowed to make requests, and they are always honored. I just found out that a. I was not requested by any parent and b. my team teacher was requested by about 6. And one of the requests was from a parent whose older child I had.
My rational, mature side knows that most of these requests are based in the novelty of having a male elementary teacher. He's young and a guy so of course, parents assume he's nice and fun. And he is. So I get it. I remember my first year teaching I also got a lot of requests over the other 3rd grade teacher, because just like what's happening now, people assumed I was young and fun for kids.
Buuuuut, my insecure, petty side is hurt. From my perspective, I'd want my kid with the seasoned person. I've been doing this ten years, and I'm good at it. Especially in regards to reading instruction. And I'm also nice and fun. I guess if I had a couple requests, it would temper the sting, but to get none makes me a little butthurt. It also makes me wonder what the perception of me in this building is, and what angers me is I feel like it's rooted in propaganda. I'm a kind teacher. But I'm an honest one. I don't tell kids things are great if they're not. I don't give 50 second chances. In my room, you are accountable. In today's world of "everyone makes the team" and "let's keep kids from any negative emotion they could ever have" I go against the grain. But I don't care. And the fact that these parents may not have selected me because I'm not going to let kids avoid something because it's hard or it frustrates them, or they aren't handsomely rewarded for doing things they should be doing anyway, irks me. It's just sort of one more drop in the bucket of why this school year can go *&^%$# itself.
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Re: I need to be a whiny, bratty, immature person for a minute.
First round of Clomid in May 2012= BFP #1, DD born January 2013
BFP #2 in January 2014, DS born September 2014
It sounds like you and I have similar teaching/coaching philosophies. Out of the four coaches, I am am the "mean/intense/demanding" one. When actually I am fun and funny and kill myself trying to get my kids opportunities and try to help them reach their goals.
But if you are a brat, I am not going to help you and I will call you on it. Therefore, I am the bitch coach. I've learned to accept it. Accept that you get a fresh new slate for next year and no expectations to meet but your own. That other family can go jump in a lake. They clearly don't appreciate quality education. :-)
with that
I totally LOVE (well on the inside) when I hear parents requested me and do get butt hurt when its the other way
Uh, are you nuts? No. His life is his own, even at 5 or 6. I want him to have places and people that are unique unto his perspective and choice. I want him to feel like he can commandeer his day and experiences, and I feel like if I don't let him practice at ages 6, 7, 8, or 13, why would he do it at 23?
I have a feather in my cap in all of this. One of the 5th grade teachers and the guidance counselor's sons are both going into grade 2, and they both asked to be in the other teacher's class. They both told me it's because I was given the most problematic behavior student in the school (bites, runs, hits, swears...a doozie) next year. They don't want their preciouses around him.
I smile because, it's bullshit. Both of those women have a history of walking into their kid's classroom and interrupting for rogue reasons. It's really just to check in on their kid or heat up their lunch in the teacher's room microwave (which, by the way, other children are told they cannot bring heated lunches into school. Don't get me started on that box of Pandora's). The guidance counselor's kid is allowed to leave his class whenever he wants to be with his mom. The 5th grade teacher's kid does not have to go outside for morning recess in the winter because he wants to stay in his mom's room where it's warm. They didn't request the other teacher because of the other problematic student. They requested him bc they know as a newbie, my co teacher won't fight them. But they know me as a teacher and a person, and they know damn well I will look at them and say "Lunch is a 12:00. You can come in then to get his lunch and heat it up or ask him about his day. Right now everyone is learning."
I do real. Which is why I'm damn good at what I do.
I would want it if it truly did dispense wine. So convenient. The delivery man coming up the walk with my huge jug of cabernet would be like seeing Publisher's Clearing house ring my door bell.
On that note, I'm off to Google 12 step programs...
Poland springs pumps basically out of my back yard. I do have it coming out of my faucet!
Dubs, I totally would request you as a teacher for my kids. From what I just read we have similar philosophies. This is coming from an ECE background and someone who will not be sending my child to our public schools at age 5.