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NYC uninvited update

Jenly117Jenly117 member
in September 2013 Moms
For anyone who read my vent the other day about being uninvited...

I just got a guns blazing phone call from my (ex) friend asking me why would I feel uncomfortable about attending her bday. I explained that it feels pretty crappy to be asked to come to something, and for no good reason asked NOT to come. She goes on to tell me that I am being "negative" about leaving my baby, and that I'm also being negative about financial issues.
< I'm a SAHM working off of one budget and I told her I'd pass on getting an effing blowout for $40 bucks. > She goes on yelling at me that she cancelled my dinner reservation and to "have a great weekend" then promptly hangs up the phone.

I can't stop crying. I have never been treated by a friend like that before. I hate when you come to the end of the road with someone over nothing. If you've read this, thank you for reading and listening.
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    ejb23ejb23 member
    I've been in this type of situation with a best friend before. It sucks. Hugs momma!

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    BurrberrymumBurrberrymum member
    That is so crappy of her and I'm really sorry she's treating you this way. I don't even know what to say but I wish there was something that could make you feel better, I know how it feels to be treated badly by a so called friend and it's hard to deal with. You're a wonderful mama for thinking about your baby / family money first before partying and that's what's most important.

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    jlp0528jlp0528 member
    Wow. I can't believe (can believe actually) how terrible she's treating you. She obviously is the type of person who things the world is centered around her and doesn't appreciate when people have other things in their lives that take precedence (AND WITH GOOD REASON!) I mean a $40 blow out for HER birthday!? Is she for real? Sounds like you're better off without her!! Sorry you had to be dissed so nastily!

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    nbartlett47nbartlett47 member
    I'm sorry to hear that she's being so shitty. Karma will come back and get her one day if she becomes a mother and realizes what true priorities are. You're better off without someone like that as a "friend".
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    LelaDenneyLelaDenney member
    Fuck her! Oh my gosh that is so rude. Seriously your better off without. Don't waste your tears over a nasty girl. You even tried to be the bigger person. Im pissed off for you. I'm afraid this will be me in 3 months. My very best friend is getting married and the entire bridal party is single and childless. I'm a SAHM and hate leaving baby.
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    Salemkitty13Salemkitty13 member
    I'm sorry. It hurts when a friend turns on you. I'm also sorry you don't get to go and hang out with your other friends. It definitely sounds like you are better off without her. Forget her and give your LO extra kisses. That's all that matters.
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    cputman200cputman200 member
    I know we are supposed to be the grown ups now that we have children but I think you should mess with her perfect day.

    Didn't you mention there was another real friend going on the trip you where going to hang with? How close is she to the B-Day Bitch, can you tell her what a d-bag the ex is being and steal her for your own girls night out the 2 of you?

    Either way you deserve better treatment from a friend. I'm sorry you are having to deal with it.
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    ravenclaw1ravenclaw1 member
    That's horrible. But I'm glad she showed her true colors now instead of after you went and spent all the time and money to go. She's clearly not a good friend.
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    redfallonredfallon member
    Bitch. She's an entitled brat.

    I'm so sorry :(

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    Jenly117Jenly117 member
    Ugh! Thank you ladies so much. I feel like I know you guys better than some people IRL! I wish I could hug each of you but creepy Internet hugs will have to do. >:D<
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    VitaLunaVitaLuna member
    I missed the original post, but what?!? Who says sht like that? It's a birthday party, people. Mandatory blowouts? Girl needs to get over herself.

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    Jenly117Jenly117 member
    cputman200 said:

    I know we are supposed to be the grown ups now that we have children but I think you should mess with her perfect day.

    Didn't you mention there was another real friend going on the trip you where going to hang with? How close is she to the B-Day Bitch, can you tell her what a d-bag the ex is being and steal her for your own girls night out the 2 of you?

    Either way you deserve better treatment from a friend. I'm sorry you are having to deal with it.

    I did talk with my real friend about and she was shocked and now feels uncomfortable going. I totally wish i could snag her away for the weekend but this is her 2nd time away from her 2 year old and is looking forward to a night without mommy duties. I don't blame her for still going. She jumped through hoops to get coverage for her son. I'll let karma work it's magic here. ;);)
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    Zoly1103Zoly1103 member
    Definitely better that you found out what kind of friend she was now than on the trip. I'm sorry that happened though.
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    redfallonredfallon member
    @VitaLuna said:
    I missed the original post, but what?!? Who says sht like that? It's a birthday party, people. Mandatory blowouts? Girl needs to get over herself.
    https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/82038198/#Comment_82038198

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    Jenly117Jenly117 member
    edited May 2014
    Zembits said:

    What a jerk! I'm sorry she treated you like that.

    Also, what is a blowout? All I can think of when I hear that word is diaper accidents..Lol

    It's paying someone to blow dry & style your hair.... :-q

    Edited: bc I wasn't finished typing
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    happybride 276happybride 276 member
    It really sounds like she is the only one losing out. I am sorry she acted so petty. You really are better off without her. Friends don't act that way.
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