NYC uninvited update

Jenly117 · May 2014

For anyone who read my vent the other day about being uninvited...

I just got a guns blazing phone call from my (ex) friend asking me why would I feel uncomfortable about attending her bday. I explained that it feels pretty crappy to be asked to come to something, and for no good reason asked NOT to come. She goes on to tell me that I am being "negative" about leaving my baby, and that I'm also being negative about financial issues.
< I'm a SAHM working off of one budget and I told her I'd pass on getting an effing blowout for $40 bucks. > She goes on yelling at me that she cancelled my dinner reservation and to "have a great weekend" then promptly hangs up the phone.

I can't stop crying. I have never been treated by a friend like that before. I hate when you come to the end of the road with someone over nothing. If you've read this, thank you for reading and listening.

ejb23 · May 2014

I've been in this type of situation with a best friend before. It sucks. Hugs momma!

Burrberrymum · May 2014

That is so crappy of her and I'm really sorry she's treating you this way. I don't even know what to say but I wish there was something that could make you feel better, I know how it feels to be treated badly by a so called friend and it's hard to deal with. You're a wonderful mama for thinking about your baby / family money first before partying and that's what's most important.

jlp0528 · May 2014

Wow. I can't believe (can believe actually) how terrible she's treating you. She obviously is the type of person who things the world is centered around her and doesn't appreciate when people have other things in their lives that take precedence (AND WITH GOOD REASON!) I mean a $40 blow out for HER birthday!? Is she for real? Sounds like you're better off without her!! Sorry you had to be dissed so nastily!

nbartlett47 · May 2014

I'm sorry to hear that she's being so shitty. Karma will come back and get her one day if she becomes a mother and realizes what true priorities are. You're better off without someone like that as a "friend".

LelaDenney · May 2014

Fuck her! Oh my gosh that is so rude. Seriously your better off without. Don't waste your tears over a nasty girl. You even tried to be the bigger person. Im pissed off for you. I'm afraid this will be me in 3 months. My very best friend is getting married and the entire bridal party is single and childless. I'm a SAHM and hate leaving baby.

Salemkitty13 · May 2014

I'm sorry. It hurts when a friend turns on you. I'm also sorry you don't get to go and hang out with your other friends. It definitely sounds like you are better off without her. Forget her and give your LO extra kisses. That's all that matters.

cputman200 · May 2014

I know we are supposed to be the grown ups now that we have children but I think you should mess with her perfect day.

Didn't you mention there was another real friend going on the trip you where going to hang with? How close is she to the B-Day Bitch, can you tell her what a d-bag the ex is being and steal her for your own girls night out the 2 of you?

Either way you deserve better treatment from a friend. I'm sorry you are having to deal with it.

ravenclaw1 · May 2014

That's horrible. But I'm glad she showed her true colors now instead of after you went and spent all the time and money to go. She's clearly not a good friend.

redfallon · May 2014

Bitch. She's an entitled brat.

I'm so sorry

LelaDenney · May 2014

Jenly117 · May 2014

Ugh! Thank you ladies so much. I feel like I know you guys better than some people IRL! I wish I could hug each of you but creepy Internet hugs will have to do. >:D<

VitaLuna · May 2014

I missed the original post, but what?!? Who says sht like that? It's a birthday party, people. Mandatory blowouts? Girl needs to get over herself.

Jenly117 · May 2014

cputman200 said:
I know we are supposed to be the grown ups now that we have children but I think you should mess with her perfect day.

Didn't you mention there was another real friend going on the trip you where going to hang with? How close is she to the B-Day Bitch, can you tell her what a d-bag the ex is being and steal her for your own girls night out the 2 of you?

Either way you deserve better treatment from a friend. I'm sorry you are having to deal with it.

I did talk with my real friend about and she was shocked and now feels uncomfortable going. I totally wish i could snag her away for the weekend but this is her 2nd time away from her 2 year old and is looking forward to a night without mommy duties. I don't blame her for still going. She jumped through hoops to get coverage for her son. I'll let karma work it's magic here.

Zoly1103 · May 2014

Definitely better that you found out what kind of friend she was now than on the trip. I'm sorry that happened though.

redfallon · May 2014

@VitaLuna said:

I missed the original post, but what?!? Who says sht like that? It's a birthday party, people. Mandatory blowouts? Girl needs to get over herself.

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/82038198/#Comment_82038198

Jenly117 · May 2014

Zembits said:
What a jerk! I'm sorry she treated you like that.
Also, what is a blowout? All I can think of when I hear that word is diaper accidents..Lol

It's paying someone to blow dry & style your hair.... :-q

Edited: bc I wasn't finished typing

happybride 276 · May 2014

It really sounds like she is the only one losing out. I am sorry she acted so petty. You really are better off without her. Friends don't act that way.

krose0713 · May 2014

That's really tough! I actually had a very similar occurrence with a close friend years ago, and we didn't speak for 2 years. Eventually, though, we were in a more similar place in our lives and we became close again.

Maybe you could get a sitter for LO, and still plan a great night out with DH, you were planning on going out and having fun, so still do it! And maybe post a picture or 2 to Facebook to show your friend that you and your unblown hair aren't sitting at home depressed over her

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