sleep help for 17 month old

Shelly038 · May 2014

Our DD has been an amazing sleeper for pretty much as her whole life. As in when she was a newborn, the doctor wanted me to wake her at night to fees her. Otherwise, she would have slept through the night since the day we brought her home. She was sleep trained at 6 months and it went incredibly well. I do not want to cosleep and I can could the number of times we did on one hand...that is until this month. She has spent the past three weeks in our bed. She wails when we put her in bed. She is teething but has never had these issues while teething before. Maybe separation anxiety? Any suggestions as to what we can do to get her back in her bed? I'm having a hard time letting her cry it out. Her scream now is so much worse than her cry as an infant!

carriesu2003 · May 2014

When DD's molars came in we went through the same thing but only for a couple nights. I was really confused too because we had gotten in a really great routine and then all the sudden she was a mess. I would try tylenol before bed and just go back to your old routine. Other than that I would have her checked for an ear infection just to be safe.

Shelly038 · May 2014

Honestly it started when her molars started to come in...now her lower cuspids (I think that's what they're called) are coming in. So she really has been teething for 3 weeks straight. We took her to the doctor 2 weeks ago to check for ear infection but I'm to the point where I might take her again to double check. Naps are hit and miss but have been almost non existent this past week. I can't get her to nap, when's she with my MIL she sleeps with her (can't argue too much with free help), and she was napping fine for my sister until this past week. Maybe we'll have to try an earlier bedtime too. She goes to bed around 730-8.

ss265 · May 2014

I would bring her to the doctor to check for an ear infection. Wait until her teeth are in and then go back to the sleep routine you had before when she slept consistently. Be consistent with the routine for at least a week. Trying using the same routine for nap time as well so that hopefully she starts napping again. If all else fails then maybe consider sleep training her again.

My suspicion is that she is over-tired since she is missing her naps. Consistency is key - keep trying the same routine for naps and hopefully it works. DS is sleep trained and we had a hard time with naps this weekend - finally just had to let him cry and after 10 minutes, he conked right out.

Shelly038 · May 2014

theresat858 said:
If she was such an amazing sleeper from the get-go, why did you sleep train at 6 months? Your story doesn't make sense....

I would try a variant of the sleep lady shuffle to get her out of the habit of sleeping with you. Lay down with her, but don't cuddle her. Gradually move further and further away. Encourage her that she is okay to stay asleep by herself. Don't let her just scream, soothe her -- but also don't let her get 'her way' of you staying in bed with her all night.

We sleep trained because while she slept through the night, it was only after we rocked her to sleep. I wanted her to be able to put herself to sleep. The very first night of training she only cried 15 minutes before falling asleep.

Shelly038 · May 2014

ss265 said:
I would bring her to the doctor to check for an ear infection. Wait until her teeth are in and then go back to the sleep routine you had before when she slept consistently. Be consistent with the routine for at least a week. Trying using the same routine for nap time as well so that hopefully she starts napping again. If all else fails then maybe consider sleep training her again.
My suspicion is that she is over-tired since she is missing her naps. Consistency is key - keep trying the same routine for naps and hopefully it works. DS is sleep trained and we had a hard time with naps this weekend - finally just had to let him cry and after 10 minutes, he conked right out.

I do think I'm going to take her back to the doctor. She was there about a week after the issues started and they said they're wasn't an ear infection but she's also messing with her ear (which could also be teething related) now so I think it'd be best if they double check it. Consistency is going to be difficult since I work and 5 days of the week she naps elsewhere. :-( Thanks for the advice. I do think I'm going to wait until her teeth come in before trying anything else. I can't even imagine how much pain they must be in while teething!

Shelly038 · May 2014

theresat858 said:
If you think she is actually in pain from teething, have you tried Advil?

We have tried ibuprofen and acetaminophen. I've even used baby oragel. :-(

MrsLele · May 2014

I could have written this post word for word. We've been in a month of hell now. We use ibuprofen at night and have been to ped twice. She still puts herself to sleep for naps just fine.
Her molars are coming but don't seem to bother her during the day. Today the ped advised me to just let her CIO. She's gotten used to the rocking.It sucks. But I have a new baby coming next month and I need my good sleeper back before then. I go in at the half hour mark to reassure her, make sure she hasn't pooped, etc. And then I leave. No picking up and no rocking. It's especially awful bc I didn't have to do this in the past. Hang in there momma, hope your LO is back to normal soon.

ss265 · May 2014

Shelly038 said:

I would bring her to the doctor to check for an ear infection. Wait until her teeth are in and then go back to the sleep routine you had before when she slept consistently. Be consistent with the routine for at least a week. Trying using the same routine for nap time as well so that hopefully she starts napping again. If all else fails then maybe consider sleep training her again.
My suspicion is that she is over-tired since she is missing her naps. Consistency is key - keep trying the same routine for naps and hopefully it works. DS is sleep trained and we had a hard time with naps this weekend - finally just had to let him cry and after 10 minutes, he conked right out.
I do think I'm going to take her back to the doctor. She was there about a week after the issues started and they said they're wasn't an ear infection but she's also messing with her ear (which could also be teething related) now so I think it'd be best if they double check it. Consistency is going to be difficult since I work and 5 days of the week she naps elsewhere. :-( Thanks for the advice. I do think I'm going to wait until her teeth come in before trying anything else. I can't even imagine how much pain they must be in while teething!

So she hasn't been napping at daycare? I work too and what I did after sleep training my son was to use the same nighttime routine for naps on the weekends. Also talk to DC and ask them how they get her to sleep - you can modify your routine to mimic theirs if you like.

Shelly038 · May 2014

MrsLele said:
I could have written this post word for word. We've been in a month of hell now. We use ibuprofen at night and have been to ped twice. She still puts herself to sleep for naps just fine.
Her molars are coming but don't seem to bother her during the day. Today the ped advised me to just let her CIO. She's gotten used to the rocking.It sucks. But I have a new baby coming next month and I need my good sleeper back before then. I go in at the half hour mark to reassure her, make sure she hasn't pooped, etc. And then I leave. No picking up and no rocking. It's especially awful bc I didn't have to do this in the past. Hang in there momma, hope your LO is back to normal soon.

Just got back from the doctor. Nothing is physically wrong with her and we just have go sleep train all over again. Just thinking about it makes me want to cry. Glad I'm no alone though. Couldn't imagine dealing with this whole expecting though, good luck to you!

Shelly038 · May 2014

ss265 said:

Shelly038 said:

ss265 said:
I would bring her to the doctor to check for an ear infection. Wait until her teeth are in and then go back to the sleep routine you had before when she slept consistently. Be consistent with the routine for at least a week. Trying using the same routine for nap time as well so that hopefully she starts napping again. If all else fails then maybe consider sleep training her again.
My suspicion is that she is over-tired since she is missing her naps. Consistency is key - keep trying the same routine for naps and hopefully it works. DS is sleep trained and we had a hard time with naps this weekend - finally just had to let him cry and after 10 minutes, he conked right out.
I do think I'm going to take her back to the doctor. She was there about a week after the issues started and they said they're wasn't an ear infection bout she's also messing with her ear (which could also be teething related) now so I think it'd be best if they double check it. Consistency is going to be difficult since I work and 5 days of the week she naps elsewhere. :-( Thanks for the advice. I do think I'm going to wait until her teeth come in before trying anything else. I can't even imagine how much pain they must be in while teething!

So she hasn't been napping at daycare? I work too and what I did after sleep training my son was to use the same nighttime routine for naps on the weekends. Also talk to DC and ask them how they get her to sleep - you can modify your routine to mimic theirs if you like.

Well this is the tricky part. She doesn't go to day care (sometimes I wish she did). 2 days a week she is at my mother-in-laws (who cuddles her for naps) and 3 days a week she's at my sisters (who let's her cry it out). I'm never going to get these two ladies to agree...sigh...

ss265 · May 2014

Shelly038 said:

Shelly038 said:

I would bring her to the doctor to check for an ear infection. Wait until her teeth are in and then go back to the sleep routine you had before when she slept consistently. Be consistent with the routine for at least a week. Trying using the same routine for nap time as well so that hopefully she starts napping again. If all else fails then maybe consider sleep training her again.
My suspicion is that she is over-tired since she is missing her naps. Consistency is key - keep trying the same routine for naps and hopefully it works. DS is sleep trained and we had a hard time with naps this weekend - finally just had to let him cry and after 10 minutes, he conked right out.
I do think I'm going to take her back to the doctor. She was there about a week after the issues started and they said they're wasn't an ear infection bout she's also messing with her ear (which could also be teething related) now so I think it'd be best if they double check it. Consistency is going to be difficult since I work and 5 days of the week she naps elsewhere. :-( Thanks for the advice. I do think I'm going to wait until her teeth come in before trying anything else. I can't even imagine how much pain they must be in while teething!

So she hasn't been napping at daycare? I work too and what I did after sleep training my son was to use the same nighttime routine for naps on the weekends. Also talk to DC and ask them how they get her to sleep - you can modify your routine to mimic theirs if you like.
Well this is the tricky part. She doesn't go to day care (sometimes I wish she did). 2 days a week she is at my mother-in-laws (who cuddles her for naps) and 3 days a week she's at my sisters (who let's her cry it out). I'm never going to get these two ladies to agree...sigh...

That's rough. Since your sister has her slightly more, if you let her cry too, she will likely "get it" pretty quickly. We did CIO for DS at almost 14 months and it only took three days. Hang in there - in a few short weeks, you should hopefully have your good sleeper back.

spainy17 · May 2014

If every physical reason is ruled out and you did advil at bedtime I know we are all close to the dreaded 18 month sleep regression. It is supposed to be absolute hell. I am waiting for a bunch of us to have posts like these soon.

Shelly038 · May 2014

spainy17 said:
If every physical reason is ruled out and you did advil at bedtime I know we are all close to the dreaded 18 month sleep regression. It is supposed to be absolute hell. I am waiting for a bunch of us to have posts like these soon.

Yeah as much as I hate to let her cry it out, she received a clean bill of health today so we'll be crying it out this weekend. Maybe my daughter is just advanced and hit the regression early, lol.

beckcour · May 2014

The 18 month sleep regression sucks. We had a month of really rough sleep at about 17 months. If it helps, the past two months since my DD's regression have been very restful. Hang in there momma!

MrsLele · May 2014

One night of crying for about an hour has led to 2 straight nights of normal sleep for us. Hopefully this keeps up for us, and you have the same luck! This 18 months sleep regression is no joke, phew.

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