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V&G101808 · May 2014

Hit me with your best one!

TrueBeliever925 · May 2014

I think it's silly when people complain about what their "friends" post on Facebook. Why not de-friend those depressing AW posters with all their vague status updates? De-friend those people you haven't talked to since high school who you hated then. De-friend those people who only send you game invites that you can't stand. De-friend your cousin who does nothing but badmouth everyone. De-friend that annoying co-worker that posts a new political theme every day. Whatever the poison is, delete it.

I feel as though all the negativity on a silly social media website will just bring you down and that's the last thing anyone needs.

V&G101808 · May 2014

I 100% agree, @Truebeliever925.

I deleted a bunch of people off my FB because a) their status' drove me crazy b) I hadn't talked to them in God knows how long or c) I didn't want them reading my stuff.

Stupid people from HS love to friend me and it's only because their either nosey roseys or because they want a higher # of friends to show on their profile. Nope - not going to happen!!

I've defriended people over their never ending political rants and for over sharing. I once defriended a HS friend because she wouldn't shut up about all the gross things that would happen to her son. I'm sorry, I don't need the play by play on his new wart. Gross!

BlueJewelM · May 2014

Such a first world problem...BUT

I hate my smartphone most days. I'm totally addicted to it and would be so much more productive without it. Sometimes I want to go back in time And get my pink razr.

TrueBeliever925 · May 2014

@V&G It drives me BSC when people complain about their "friends" on FB. Just delete them. Poof! Gone! I took a FB sabbatical for about 6 months. And I loved it. However.. I just recently went back and I had over 350 friends and was overwhelmed by the amount of negativity/stupidity! I'm down to 98 and I really don't give a flying fart if people are offended. I kept all the positive people that I enjoy conversations with. In fact... I deleted my ex boyfriend (who I would still consider myself on good terms with. Even DH is his friend.) but kept his cousin whom I love. She's a wonderful, positive person and her and I have amazing conversations.

MommyKristin88 · May 2014

@truebeliever925 I did a big friend's list cleanse last week. There were a lot of people that I haven't said a single word to in 10+ years, but were on my list. People who never "like" or comment on anything I post. I feel like I was allowing stalkers to stalk me in the open. It was strange.

I have a friend that has over 1000 friends, including ex's, people from high school she hated, and people she constantly complains about. Why? Seems stupid to me.

I have about 180, and it still feels like too many. I just don't talk to that many people. Why are they on my list? Time to go do another cleanse...

V&G101808 · May 2014

Following what @mommykristin88 said - I really don't get why you need several hundred friends on FB. I guarantee you, you don't talk to at least 50% of them, probably more. So why fill your newsfeed with all their crap???

TrueBeliever925 · May 2014

Mlc10811 said:

Let me just start but stating this: what happened in Santa Barbara is a senseless tragedy. My heart breaks for the families of the victims. I hope they will find peace in due time and are able to move on in a proactive way.
Now : it upsets me the way the media has responded to the shootings. I feel as if the way the media covers these events is starting to de-sensitize Americans instead of informing and they do so just to get better ratings. Often times they will stay on the air with no real new information, only speculations. The entire thing is just so sad and is happening far too often.

I agree. I think it's this way with everything they cover. I can't help but think that this desensitization leads to more and more violence.

MommyKristin88 · May 2014

I don't believe ex's can be friends. It seems like one person always still has feelings for the other, and eventually it will get messy.

I also won't be with a man that has (heterosexual) female friends. I don't trust that.

V&G101808 · May 2014

MommyKristin88 said:

I don't believe ex's can be friends. It seems like one person always still has feelings for the other, and eventually it will get messy.

I also won't be with a man that has (heterosexual) female friends. I don't trust that.

Hmmm... I think the female friends thing is based on trust. DH has lots of female friends, many that were his friends before I came into his life. I have no problem with them because I fully trust him. I also have lots of male friends and I don't think it would be OK for DH to say I can't have male friends. Trust is key in these cases, IMO.

I also think things change once you're married. I may be wrong here - but we're no longer prone to hanging out individually with the opposite sex. It happens, just not as often as it would prior to us getting married. DH will text me every now and then that he's grabbing coffee with a female friend and it doesn't bother me because I know them and trust him. I can definitely see how this would be a problem if there were trust issues in a relationship.

MommyKristin88 · May 2014

KatieS7 said:

MommyKristin88 said:

I don't believe ex's can be friends. It seems like one person always still has feelings for the other, and eventually it will get messy.

I also won't be with a man that has (heterosexual) female friends. I don't trust that.

I think ex's can be friends as long as they never had a sexual relationship.

I should have specified. That's what I meant.

I dated a guy once that said he was still friends with his ex-fiance. They would still hang out and talk on the phone. I could never wrap my head around it.

TrueBeliever925 · May 2014

MommyKristin88 said:

I don't believe ex's can be friends. It seems like one person always still has feelings for the other, and eventually it will get messy.

I also won't be with a man that has (heterosexual) female friends. I don't trust that.

I've honestly stayed on pretty good terms with some of my exes (including DH. We dated briefly when we were younger). I can, of course, only speak on my behalf, but I don't have feelings towards any of them in that way. I also think I'm a bit weird in the fact that most of the guys that I dated, I was always friends with before. If I was friends with you before, and we parted ways amicably, why wouldn't we be friends after? I also have to admit that that one particular ex that I mentioned in my facebook rant was a weirdddd relationship. We were definitely more like friends the entire time during our relationship and I would almost look at him as a little brother now.

Emeraldeyed315 · May 2014

I have been doing a friends list cleanse as well...but it is hard to go through the whole list. So instead, when it is someone's bday if I dont really talk to them I unfriend them that day. Happy Birthday.

TrueBeliever925 · May 2014

Here's another...

I feel like it should be illegal for people to smoke around children. In the car, in the house, near public entry ways.

vulpini · May 2014

I do regular facebook friend deletions every 6 months or so. I delete anyone that never comments/posts/likes my stuff, anyone who annoys me, anyone I don't want to have access to the details of my personal life, etc. I also use lists to separate out people I don't want to delete for whatever reason but don't want to see my posts.

janneann1127 · May 2014

I despise the Real Housewives shows and pretty much all Bravo shows in general. I know they're popular but I just can't get into them. All that fake drama.. Blech.

MommyAmes2 · May 2014

V&G101808 said:

Following what @mommykristin88 said - I really don't get why you need several hundred friends on FB. I guarantee you, you don't talk to at least 50% of them, probably more. So why fill your newsfeed with all their crap???

MH has about 90 people on his. He is quite selective. lol

BlueJewelM · May 2014

TrueBeliever925 said:
Here's another...

I feel like it should be illegal for people to smoke around children. In the car, in the house, near public entry ways.

I sure hope that's not an unpopular opinion!

TrueBeliever925 · May 2014

@BlueJewelM I would hope so too. I just thought of it because of a lot of people in my family smoke in their homes. They act like it's not a big deal. I won't EVER be visiting their homes, including my sisters.

V&G101808 · May 2014

@petey1106 one of my best friends husband once told me he stayed away from female friends because he didn't want the temptation. I found it really odd because I know how loyal he is and didn't think he'd ever cheat on my friend. He then went on to say the only reason he was my friend is because I'm like a sister to his wife so it was allowed. I left that conversation thinking:

PB102012 · May 2014

@TrueBeliver925 I completely agree. The only thing I do when I don't delete people is remove them from my newsfeed if I don't want to see what they post.

@MommyKristin88 I agree with you as far as ex's that people have had a sexual relationship with in the past. My last relationship ended when I got traded in for the guy's ex fiancé. They still kept in touch and I chose to trust him and not ask too many questions (my mistake), and it bit me in the ass. DH was friends with his exgirlfriend when we started dating (she used to call him, etc still) and I put a stop to that really quick.

nnikki10 · May 2014

If DH has seen the girl naked they cannot be friends. I think it's disrespectful to the significant other if you are still "friends" with someone you had a sexual relationship with.

TeacherMom210 · May 2014

I honestly don't get the whole Facebook thing. My sister is friends with so many people on FB, people she didn't even like in HS and an old ex of mine. I figure, if I am friendly enough with you to want to keep in touch, I'll actually keep in touch.

I do, however, sort of get it when family or really good friends move far away. Personally, I don't have that situation, which might color my judgment.

NikkiD522 · May 2014

@mwalker710 that sounds like a terrible situation all around. I would tend to agree that a decision that will be affecting other's lives should include their input; with that said, do you know if they discussed it with those caretakers? Regardless, if they weren't consulted, then yes I agree it's selfish. I can't imagine how incredibly difficult it would be to raise a child without the ability to hold them... Just so sad .. these mom hormones never let up, do they?!?

My UO: not sure which side of the fence everyone's on here, but I was surprised and semi-impressed with Edward Snowden. He made some valid points and if he's lying about what he stole, he'd make a great politician!

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