WWYD... Work/DH related (long!)

Re: WWYD... Work/DH related (long!)

• SV917 member

  May 2014

  My office consists of my boss and his wife. They work really well together, but mainly because they can yell at each other about office stuff and then everything's cool by the time they go home. I think a successful marriage/business relationship depends on the parties' ability to let things go. If I worked with my husband, we'd be divorced by the end of the year. Also, would you be dealing with any bitterness if you gave up your career to work for/with him?

  

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• Kfran84 member

  May 2014

  @SV917‌ We put things behind us pretty well and he has said he will defer to me on things that I have control over. Some things he does drives me bonkers like paying contractors in cash from the ATM. WTH?! How am I supposed to track that?
  @joelies Ideally it would work as you described it. My H spends all day in the field and I'd be in the office. We'd rarely see each other, but he would be asking me for stuff all day so we'd have a lot of communication.
  
  I wish there was a way to do an experimental run at it for a few months without burning my bridges at work (just started a new job!).

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• tisunge602 member

  May 2014

  Do you love your current job? All money aside, which job would make you more excited to go to work every day?

    
  
  
  

  
  

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• JaysonandKristin member

  May 2014

  Knowing my DH's business ethics, and how well we work together and our communication skills, I would. I hope you guys work this out so that everyone is happy and your DH's business continues to thrive. Congratulations to him for doing so well.

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• Kfran84 member

  May 2014

  You guys are the best. So much to think about. I'll be back when DS is asleep.

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Kfran84 member

  May 2014

  I do have concerns about having all our eggs in one basket, as several have mentioned. There are months where contracts don't get paid or some other bullshit happens. Luckily, I pay our bills so it doesn't affect our homelife when DH has no money, but that's what the savings are for, right?
  
  I also like feeling like a professional and having a corporate career and all that jazz, but part of me knows that we could be more successful with the tools I can bring to the business, and ultimately this change gives me more freedom to work as much or as little as I want to. I have no idea why I have such a hard time letting go of work... maybe it's the 4 years of night school I put myself through to get my accounting degree still haunting me?
  
  I'm a worst case scenario person too and I just see us going belly up, or getting divorced in 10 years and I have nothing to show for that time. I don't know how hard/easy it is for entrepreneurs to translate what they've been doing back into a corporate resume.
  
  Thanks for letting me think out loud, it does help me to consider what you all are saying, even though I've probably thought it in one form or another.
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Kfran84 member

  May 2014

  tisunge602 said:

  Do you love your current job? All money aside, which job would make you more excited to go to work every day?

  I'd be more excited to work for DH. I take a lot of pride in the work that he does and how he's grown his business. I also get excited when I think about it getting even bigger. I mean, 10-15 years from now, The sky's the limit.
  
  My job pays well and I like my colleagues, but I'm just a cog in the machine.

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• mskatiep member

  May 2014

  Kfran84 said:

  Do you love your current job? All money aside, which job would make you more excited to go to work every day?

  I'd be more excited to work for DH. I take a lot of pride in the work that he does and how he's grown his business. I also get excited when I think about it getting even bigger. I mean, 10-15 years from now, The sky's the limit. My job pays well and I like my colleagues, but I'm just a cog in the machine.

  
  You keep using the words "for DH" is that one of your issues? If you make this decision I think it should be a partnership legally so that you are protected.

  
  

  
  

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• mmm50 member

  May 2014

  FWIW I left accounting (big firm public accounting to be exact) to work with DH and then went to law school and haven't looked back.  DH and I don't work together anymore (they hired an accountant and I do their legal work as an independent contractor) and it's probably a good thing because we get on each other's nerves.  Our personalities are just a little much to work together 24/7, but we did it for about 2 years without issues.  

  
  

  I haven't had any issues translating that position into corporate accounting.  In fact they often like to see the additional background in other areas of business.  But if you are in public accounting I know it can be hard to get back into.  

  
  

  I say do whichever you will like more day-to-day.  It sounds like you have enough savings to float the famine months.  

  
  

  Personally I like working part-time-ish (about 24-30 hours a week) and for myself because I can set my own hours within reason around N.  I love being able to take time off when I'm not busy (like 2 weeks around Christmas and a week or two in the summer) just to spend time with my boys.  

  

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