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mom in delivery room

tawnya31tawnya31
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My mom told me that she wants to be in the delivery room. She told me not to answer her yet. The thing is I have mixed feelings about it and my husband wants it to be just us. Part of me wants her there the other part of is worried that she will make me CRAZY with her over the top emotions!! I love her and don't want to hurt her feelings if I say no. Would love any thoughts on this.
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  • RJM050705RJM050705 member
    My mom lives in AZ, so that solved it for me. ;)  Especially since we didn't want overnight guests immediately.  I did however have my MIL there.  She was super chill during labor and when it was time for delivery and my midwife asked who was grabbing a leg (I had DH, MIL, doula + birth photog) my MIL jumped right up.  Not exactly what I expected but by then I didn't care.  I was glad she was able to be there.  I had HORRIBLE back labor and while I'd wanted to go med free, her calm voice saying there was no need to be a super hero really helped me work through my thoughts.  Ended up loving my epidural. ;)

    I know lots of people operate from the perspective of whoever's vag will be on display gets to pick the spectators, but I think if my DH had expressed wanting it to be just us, I would have respected that.  You're both becoming parents, so it's important to start out on the same page! :)  And if you're not even sure that you want her there, I'd ask her to wait.
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  • divzzishdivzzish member
    I agree with you, mums do tend to get over emotional/ protective, seeing their daughters go through the whole process, plus I feel, its a moment for you & your husband to remember & cherish always, so it should be just the 2 of us.
    We all love our moms.. but unfortunately, this is one spot you gotta put your husband first :) 

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  • TamAndy01TamAndy01 member
    My MIL has been asking to be in the room "to SEE it all" since me and my Hubby got married! I'm pretty much against having her in there. Not that we don't get along, she just wouldn't be someone I wanted by my side...or anywhere else in that room on that day. I hate it though, because I feel like if I tell her no, then I have to tell my own mom no...which may or may not be bad. I love my mom too, but she might be too emotional. I think I'm just going to tell my husband that it should just be us, and the rest of the family can be in the waiting room....
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  • ckmommyckmommy member
    I had a c-section so delivery was myself, my husband, my dr, and the delivery team. I think I had two more doctors, a couple nurses and the anesthesiologist. However during labor my sister was there pretty much the entire time and I wanted her there. My MIL stopped by at one point to check in along with my FIL but otherwise it was just the three of us. I loved it that way. It is your choice, you decide what makes you comfortable and what you feel up for. 
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