May 2014 Moms

Engagement party on June 8th. Is it too soon to go since I'm breastfeeding.

I'm in the wedding party so I feel a bit more obligated, but honestly, what do you guys think?
My lactation consultant said not to pump until LO is one month old and I am being induced tomorrow so he won't be.
The restaurant in 30 minutes away and I'm not sure if I can go at all, but I need to give them an answer ASAP since they have to give a head count.Really not sure what to expect with breastfeeding since I'm a FTM.

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  • rcbukorcbuko member
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    How long is the party?  The longest my baby goes at this point is 4 hours and she sometimes wants to eat only an hour after feeding. She is 6 days old.  
    I am a pretty laid back parent and am also comfortable breastfeeding and breastfeeding in public so I might even bring the baby to the party if I really wanted to go.  My group of friends are also pretty laid back so I doubt they would mind.  I assume they are direct enough that they would tell me if they did mind and not to bring the baby.  That might be your best bet if you really want to attend this party.  Otherwise, I doubt you will be able to enjoy yourself thinking about how your baby possibly needs to eat while you are gone.
    Also, I am already pumping and we fed the baby her first pumped bottle of breast milk today.  We did this because our first daughter rejected the bottle even though we started her at 4 weeks old.  WIth each kid after her, we have started giving one bottle a day at about a week old.  Still, my second and third kids also preferred the breast.  You may have the same experience and be able to give a bottle of expressed milk early on.  You don't know what your experience will be until the time comes.
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  • haylo33haylo33 member
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    My baby is 12 days old. I haven't left him yet, but I do pump every night before bed and baby has a bottle of formula so I can start a freezer stash for when I go back to work. Today we are going to my nephews baseball game so I'm taking some pumped milk because it is too hard to BF there. You might want to wait and see how BFing is going and if you feel up to it. Plus, baby might not do well going from breast to bottle and you wouldn't want to find that out while you are at the party. With my routine, I would probably go but until you have a rhythm going, it is too hard to tell.
  • Stess22Stess22 member
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    Do you have to decide now? Or can you give the "I really want to go but I'll have a newborn and don't really know what I'm in for " kind of response ...
    I had a shower on Sunday and RSVPd Sunday morning when I felt like my inside baby was remaining an inside baby ... Haven't had my baby yet but I would probs give the "gotta get back to you" response if it were me ...
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    I would either go with the baby or not go. No way would I leave the baby this young. DD2 is 2w old and she doesn't have any set feeding patterns yet. Some times she cluster feeds in the morning, some times in the evening, so I woudlnt know how often she would need to eat if I was away. Also it might take several days to pump enough to make an entire bottle, so even if you started pumping early, which is not recommended, you might not even have enough stashed to be away from the baby for several hours. I would go and wear the baby in a carrier, LO will likely sleep the entire time.
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Re: Engagement party on June 8th. Is it too soon to go since I'm breastfeeding.

  • mcnavamcnava member
    I was in my cousin's wedding at 2.5 weeks PP.  For all the prep stuff, I had DS with me and one of the nursing covers so I could feed  him at the salon and everything.  DH took care of him for the actualy wedding with some pumped bottles, but if you can, go and just feed  your baby when you have to.  I have a friend who walked around the streets of Boston, one breast hanging out feeding her kid....no problem.  It's all about what you're comfortable with.  
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  • eghulseeghulse member
    I've got a wedding brunch next Thursday, and the bride (college roommate) is gonna talk to me Tuesday when they have to have a final count to see if we can make it. As long as I'm not in the hospital I plan on going, but I'm not holding my breath at this point.
  • danabsddanabsd member
    If I did go if bring the baby and wear a wrap dress.
    Personally both my kids have had their fussy cluster feeding time right around dinner time so I would be prepared to nurse the entire time.

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  • So I just found out that they need an answer this weekend. My friend is very easy going so I'm surprised she didn't just tell me to bring the baby. If it was at someone's house I could just pop in, but its at a restaurant so I'm not sure the time frame.
    I really think I don't have a choice and I'm going to have to stay home. I don't want to start pumping earlier than recommended although it seems to work for you guys just fine.

    Thanks so much for your answers. It helps to get info from people with experience.
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