To start with i want to tell everyone how sorry i am that we are all going through this. And say I'm sorry this is so long but thank you for reading it.
My husband and I are getting ready to celebrate our first weding anniversary/being together for 5 years on June 22. We were very excited to find out at the end of March that we were expecting our first baby. We had our first ultrasound on April 25 and we were told everything looked good. The heartbeat was 160 and predictes due date was said to be Dec 7th (makinf me about 7 and a half weeks along). I thought this seemed little later based on last period but didn't think anything of it. They had me do a 1 hour glucose test, becuase I'm overweight, which i failed by about 6 points. So i did the three hour test two weeks later and passed.
I was worried about sharing the pregnancy to early that we had only told close family until this past week. This week my husband shared with his work so he could take off work for my appointment. I shared with a few people I work with because I wasn't comfortable going into a patients room and needed to explain why (I work as a CNA). I felt like because I hadn't had any problems it would be safe to share even though my mom lost 4 at 12 weeks.
So on Friday (May 23rd) i went back for another appointment thinking I was almost 12 weeks. The NP warned us that may be hard to hear the heartbeat with the doppler so i was still hopeful when she had an MD come in with ultrasound. However when they couldnt hear anything and the picture wasn't clear I had no hope that vaginal ultrasound would reveal positive results and I was right. The doctor told us that it didn't look like the baby had grown any/much since ultrasound on 25th. I am devastated and heartbroken wondering how I couldn't have known I lost the baby so long ago with no spotting or cramps that i really remember. Now i have to wait til Tuesday to hear from doctors office and decide if I want to wait for natural MC or have a D&C on Thursday.
I guess I am posting to share my story in a way that is easier for me but to also hear from those who have choosen natural MC and those who choose D&C to see what you recommend. My mom always had a D&C but that was over 24 years ago. I really want to know why this happened if possible but doubt this will happen since this is my first.
Even though I just started spotting I am in shock and heartbroken because we wanted this so badly and had already bought some little baby things. Again thank your for reading this.