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Kissing Kindergartener

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I'm so eating my words here bc I never knew how kids began having boyfriends or girlfriends this early, and here I am...

Anyway, DS1 got caught kissing a girl in his class at school today. His teacher told him he shouldn't do that, and then made him tell me about it when I picked him up from school.

I told him that kissing at school was inappropriate and unacceptable. He was to keep his hands and self to himself. I also took away his screen time for the rest of this week which is how I punish if he gets in trouble at school. He rarely is in trouble, maybe four times this year so this isn't something I'm overly concerned about happening again in the near future.
DH is going to talk to him again about it tonight. Should I/we do anything else? I don't want to scar or scare him, but I really want to drive home that his behavior was inappropriate.
Thanks!
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  • bhuffmanbhuffman member
    Mrs.Hizzo said:

    You might be making too much of this. I'm not sure I'd punish him, it's not like he was being rude or intentionally disobedient. I know kissing is frowned upon in a big way at school, but do you really think he knew that at the time?

    I probably am. However, I do think he knew it was wrong bc he had told us a few weeks ago that another boy in his class wanted to kiss a girl (ironically, same girl) and we told him that wasn't a good idea for his friend to do.
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  • LoveBeingMamaLoveBeingMama member
    Mrs.Hizzo said:

    You might be making too much of this. I'm not sure I'd punish him, it's not like he was being rude or intentionally disobedient. I know kissing is frowned upon in a big way at school, but do you really think he knew that at the time?

    This. For a first "kissing offense," I would not punish. Talk to him about proper behavior, and move on.

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  • sunnydays99sunnydays99 member
    I think you're overreacting a bit. I would make it a teaching moment about respecting other people, personal boundaries, saving kisses for people we love, etc. I don't think I'd punish a first offence.
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  • Mrs.HizzoMrs.Hizzo member
    Eh, I still wouldn't go all balls-out with this. I'd just explain that kissing at school is against the rules, and while he may not have understood that before, he does now and if it happens again there will be serious consequences both at school and at home. Then I'd drop it.
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  • bhuffmanbhuffman member
    larkin220 said:

    I'm with Hizzo on this. Was it his "first offense"?

    Did he know that is against the rules? 
    Our preschoolers hug and kiss when the greet each other and say goodbye at playdates, (not always kiss though).
    Do I need to tell my kids this is a nono?
    Well, it was a kiss on the lips and I don't think the little girl was too happy about it. Also, Ds's teacher seemed pretty ticked. I know I'm being somewhat strict, but I also don't want to have the inappropriate child either.
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  • bhuffmanbhuffman member
    Mrs.Hizzo said:

    Eh, I still wouldn't go all balls-out with this. I'd just explain that kissing at school is against the rules, and while he may not have understood that before, he does now and if it happens again there will be serious consequences both at school and at home. Then I'd drop it.

    I think you are right. Without going into extreme detail, this is a bit of a sensitive topic for me and I knew I may be over-reacting.

    Thanks for talking me down and from grounding him till he's 30! :)
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  • AndrewsgalAndrewsgal member
    Yep I agree with hizzo. Honestly he sounds like a typical 5 year old. Let it go, you will be laughing about it with his future wife.
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  • lala5507lala5507 member
    I would explain why he shouldn't be kissing random girls at school (because he probably honestly doesn't know why).  You said the girl was upset?  I would maybe have him write a little apology note to her.  I would use it as more of a learning experience than a punishment experience. 
     





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