In laws vent

oceanangel0502 · May 2014

My in laws live a mile down the road from us and they have a black lab that is 4(?) years old, is hyper, barks and smells bad. We have a 3 yr golden that has not barked a day in his life, will never jump and is well behaved. My mil thinks it's ok to use our backyard as her doggy playground and drops off daisy (her lab) when ever she feels like it without even asking. She never let's her dog in her own backyard bc she thinks "she'll destroy it"
So today we come home from the boat and big surprise daisy is here. We call and complain and there's never an apology or excuse. So I get LO bottle and go to sit outside on the bench to feed him and daisy keeps jumping at me and Jacob. I am sooo annoyed that I had to come back inside instead of enjoying the nice weather in my backyard bc of there damn dog!
I really wish we could just move away already. Hopefully next year!!!
Until then I wish DH would get the balls to tell them to stop bringing her here. I may just lock the gate!
Sorry end of rant just had to get it off my chest

beachcomberbride · May 2014

I would load up that damn dog in your car, go to your MILs, open the front door and put the dog inside. Come back, go in my back yard and enjoy the heck out of it. LOL.

fish8412 · May 2014

It is your yard and you should enjoy it! Lock the gate! I would tell your husband that if he doesn't talk to his mom, then you will call the cops on her next time for trespassing.

jennbaylor12 · May 2014

Wait, wait, wait. ...

oceanangel0502 said:
My mil thinks it's ok to use our backyard as her doggy playground and drops off daisy (her lab) when ever she feels like it without even asking. She never let's her dog in her own backyard bc she thinks "she'll destroy it"

Why is it okay to destroy Your backyard?? I don't understand this at all

oceanangel0502 · May 2014

jennbaylor12 said:
Wait, wait, wait. ...

oceanangel0502 said:
My mil thinks it's ok to use our backyard as her doggy playground and drops off daisy (her lab) when ever she feels like it without even asking. She never let's her dog in her own backyard bc she thinks "she'll destroy it"
Why is it okay to destroy Your backyard?? I don't understand this at all

This is my argument to my husband all the time!!! I keep telling him if I wanted two dogs Id buy another one myself!!!

PerkyErky · May 2014

I'd get a lock for your gate so she can't get in and I would take their dog back to their house and let her out in their yard. Every time they put the dog in your yard take it back. It sounds like you have made your feelings known so don't tolerate it anymore.

ETA: next time you tell her to use her own yard for her own dog and she makes a comment about the dog destroying her yard you should respond "but you find it acceptable for YOUR dog to destroy MY yard?"

rockopera · May 2014

What does your husband say? He's cool with it? She has never been told no or told to stop? I wonder why she keeps doing it.

Lock the gate.

oceanangel0502 · May 2014

rockopera said:
What does your husband say? He's cool with it? She has never been told no or told to stop? I wonder why she keeps doing it.

Lock the gate.

I have told her no on numerous occasions, and have even made my husband call her and tell her to pick the dog up. He always makes me look like the bad guy, which doesn't bother me. She is just the type that doesn't care about anyone else and does what she wants when she wants. My husband will tell her no SOMETIMES but is very nice about it and never gets stern with her when she does it behind our back. He really never stands up to her for anything

PerkyErky · May 2014

Also if she has a key to your house I'd get that back as well or change the locks so she can't go through your house to the yard. And only give her a key to your house when you need her to do something for you...if you're out of town or something. Then take the key back when you get back. Since she clearly cannot respect your space she does not get free access to your space inside or out.

Babybeachbum · May 2014

Leave your gate open so Daisy runs away, or just bring her to the animal shelter...

oceanangel0502 · May 2014

Thankfully she doesn't have a key, and I wish I could leave gate open, but I'm just not that mean to let daisy run away, if feel bad for daisy of she ran away not mil

iJustCant10 · May 2014

I would tell her point blank not to bring the dog over. And also bring up the fact that you do not want to be held accountable for anything the dog may do since it is at your house. So should another animal somehow get in your yard and be attacked (not saying her dog would do that, but they are animals nonetheless) or her dog get out of your yard and do harm, you do not want that coming back on you.

KTdid81 · May 2014

Id go put the dog in her backyard every time she does it to you. Eventually she should learn.

oceanangel0502 · May 2014

I agree with all of you and trust me I've threatened to do it all! I feel like this is an on going battle that no matter how hard I fight she will do as she wants

jennbaylor12 · May 2014

oceanangel0502 said:
I agree with all of you and trust me I've threatened to do it all! I feel like this is an on going battle that no matter how hard I fight she will do as she wants

That's the problem - if you threaten with no follow through, a person knows you're not serious and will continue with their behavior. This is true in most situations, particularly with someone like you describe your MIL to be

rockopera · May 2014

oceanangel0502 said:
I agree with all of you and trust me I've threatened to do it all! I feel like this is an on going battle that no matter how hard I fight she will do as she wants

Threatening isn't working for you. Actually do something instead of just getting worked up about it. Lock the gate. Take the dog back and put it in her yard if it shows up. This isn't rocket science. She does it because she gets away with it.

(Obv you wouldn't let it out or turn it into animal control or anything terrible).

But you also have a husband problem. And you will always have a MIL problem as long as you have a husband problem.

oceanangel0502 · May 2014

Oh I know, my husband and his older brother are both the same, too afraid to stand up to mommy. I've been with my h for 13 years now and known him for even longer and he's always been the same. It's the cause for many of arguements.