The Pregnant Recluse

dal2aus · May 2014

For the past month or so, I just have not felt like leaving the house or being around people. I don't know if it's just tiredness or laziness, but I really just want to stay home. The weather is gorgeous although HOT, but I would much rather stay indoors. My husband went to a crawfish boil yesterday by himself yesterday because I wasn't in the mood for sitting around in the sun making small talk with people while everyone drank beer and rode on the inflatable water slide. In the meantime, I stayed home and had the most awesome nap. I feel like I'm turning into a lazy homebody for not getting out and being more active. Is anyone else feeling anti-social during pregnancy or is it just me?

suitern · May 2014

I often feel antisocial while pregnant, but that stems from having issues with PTL and 13 weeks of bed rest with DS. In my mind, if I stay home and take it easy, then I should be able to avoid bed rest...but then I lose touch with my friends, miss doing stuff with DS, and miss out on time with DH as well.

I would say if you truly don't want to go, then don't, however, maybe make an effort to do one thing each weekend?

I keep telling myself that it is goo to socialize now when it isn't sooo sooo hot (at least where we are) and to enjoy it, just in case I do end up on bed rest again.

Ecat504 · May 2014

I've been the same way I just want to stay inside and relax forever

wrightpalomo · May 2014

I was like this during the first trimester- I did pretty much nothing. I was so tired I just couldn't even think of anything to do. I also work from home so I seriously wouldn't leave my house for days at a time. Hubbs was pretty confused because we live in studio and we both usually spend a lot of time out of the house but I was just laying on the couch and napping. I've been a lot more social and active in the second trimester because I'm worried I'll be exhausted and immobilized again toward the end.

conradraging · May 2014

This is me. Before my husband left I was still going out but everyone is always drinking or smoking and doing things I can't and it just really got to me more than it should. Now that he left for his Air Force training I hardly leave the house except to run a quick errand and come back.

purplestarz · May 2014

I've been forcing myself to go out when DH does, even though I would much rather stay home! I definitely get it. We went to a party last night and everyone was drinking and having a good time. I'm pretty shy as it is, so being in these situations for me is tough anyway...worse when I can't have a drink to loosen up!

megs2011 · May 2014

With my first pregnancy I stayed in a lot. I was extremely tired. Now pregnant plus twin toddlers makes it even harder to get out. I didn't go far last year either when the twins were smaller bc it was tough on my own and they napped 2x a day plus nursed a lot. It was just easier to stay home. Plus I was worried about ptl with the twins so I took it easy and bc of what I went through with the end of my twin pregnancy I find I'm taking it easy this time too.

JSS1002 · May 2014

I pretty much hate the heat, always, and pregnant I just hate it even more. So I'm with ya on that one. I'm sometime social, sometimes not, but between work + caring for a 14 month old + pregnancy, I don't have much energy and just kinda want to lay around and watch TV. I'm okay with my fuddy-duddyness. :-)

Gizmo1231 · May 2014

This is me. The bigger I get, the more uncomfortable I get, and the more I don't want anyone to look at me.

pshaortao · May 2014

I've been incredibly tired for the past few days. I don't know if LO is going through a growth spurt that's causing the tiredness, but I really did not care for going out the entire memorial weekend nor working out like usual. It's kind of a downer though.

MrsLaLaBug · May 2014

Girl. It AIN'T just you, I promise!! I find it much easier and more comfortable to stay home. I go out and run errands once in awhile and do lunch with friends once a week so I don't go mad. But at the end of the day after working that 8 hours? I'd rather chill at home anyway.

mrsH1112 · May 2014

Yep I know how you feel. I think for me its partially feeling tired and wanting to just take it easy, and the other part of me is missing out on the fun others are having. Im all good with hangging out while people are having drinks etc, but once people get relaxed and tipsy then it just becomes a little bit annoying to me and Id rather just chill inside and watch some TV and nap haha.

rlyttle · May 2014

It depends on the day for me. Sometimes I feel like just sitting around the house, but sometimes I want to get out. I really enjoyed doing yard work this weekend and taking DS to a playdate at the park.

ConversationFear · May 2014

Girl, I hear ya. Occasionally a bug will strike and I want to get out - but not to go out with our friends. It's mostly a selfish motive though. When our friends want to go out it's going to be dinner, then drinks at a bar. I don't mind dinner, but honestly - I don't want to go out to a bar and watch everyone else drink all night long. There are only so many glasses of water or mocktails you can drink before it's 9:30 and I'm ready for BED.

I do still like the BBQ gatherings and whatnot though, lol.

bohemianlc · May 2014

I have had several people with kids tell me that they wish they would have taken more quiet time to themselves to just relax during the pregnancy because life was so busy after their little one arrived! I have been having a great time spending most evenings reading, journaling for the baby, and preparing for the baby with my husband at home. And my naps? I cherish them. LOL I couldn't be happier. I just make a point to get a quality walk in every day for exercise, but otherwise I don't feel bad at all about being a homebody right now.

If you're feeling like staying in and relaxing because it feels good, then go for it. I think the only time you should be concerned about feeling antisocial is if you're also feeling depressed and down, which it doesn't sound like you are. Give yourself a break. Remember you're making a little human! Of course you're going to feel different and a little more tired at times!

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