IL Vent

keags5496 · May 2014

I try not to do this often, but I have to vent somewhere and I know you gals have some fun in laws too so hopefully you can sympathize. My FIL and I have an uncomfortable relationship. My MIL is a pretty big pushover and what FIL says goes. I, on the other hand, am not at all afraid to speak my mind and he isn't really sure what to do with me. A few weekends ago he planned a dinner out for my MILs bday...at 7pm. Sorry but my 3 year olds bedtime is at 7:30 and he isn't going to make it in a restaurant too much later than that. We went, ordered desert, and left early. He was pissed.

This weekend, we took the kids down to the campground that they stay at. The plan was that I would go home with DS2 and DH would stay with DS1 for the night. We got there right at lunchtime and as soon as we got out of the car he gave DS1 a cookie. Thanks...because we haven't had lunch yet and I love that you asked me first. He then proceeded to light a cigarette right next to us. I got up and moved and the man followed me and then got in DS2s face. I asked him to please step away until he was done with his cigarette. He rolled his eyes and slowly walked away. he then decided he wanted to take DS2 for a walk. Great idea, except he didn't want to use my stroller and wanted to use their old umbrella stroller. I tried to be a good sport and put DS2 in for him, but he was all crumpled up and his chin was slumped on his chest so I nixed that. He got all huffy and said he didn't want to use my stroller because it was too heavy so I said sorry but you're not going for a walk then. He then offered to drive him around in the golf cart...uuuuuummmmm no.

Fast forward to dinner. DS2 always takes a catnap at around 5:30. My BIL was holding him and I could see him fighting sleep so I went to grab him and it just so happened to be at the same time as FIL. I told him I just needed him to sleep for a little bit and he got mad AGAIN. Finally, I know that if we don't get DS2 in his jammies and eating by 7:30 then bedtime goes to hell in a handbasket. FIL decided at 7:10 that he wanted to take him for a walk (in my stroller now, go figure). I said that I needed to get him to bed soon and he again rolled his eyes and said, "Do I ever get to do anything with him?" Yep....just needs to be on his time, not yours. Get over it.

Needless to say, I am now home and enjoying my quiet time far, far away from his idiocy. If you made it this far...you deserve a cookie. And alcohol. Anyone want to commiserate?

MamaAllison · May 2014

I'm sorry, that sucks. My FIL smokes too so I'm always trying to get him to wash his hands, change his shirt, put a blanket barrier between his smoky shirt and the LO. The other day we were over there and he washed his hands and then proudly proclaimed he was "germ free". I wanted to smack him in the head and say, " you idiot! I care less about the germs then the second hand smoke you idiot!"

BTW, did you hear about the high school job officially yet?

keags5496 · May 2014

@MamaAllison Yep it's mine! Thanks for remembering

I'll officially be teaching Biology and Environmental Science next year

MamaAllison · May 2014

Awesome congrats!

RondackHiker · May 2014

I'm sorry that he's being so difficult. That sounds so frustrating.

But YAY about the job!

littlepig2 · May 2014

we had dinner with the IL's last night and MIL explained that I don't need to hold LO because I see her allll the time. oh rly? because I got home an hour and a half before you got here and she was asleep the whole time. then on the ride to dinner, she was violently shaking a rattle toy 2 inches from LO's face and screaming "she loves this noise!!!". I was almost positive LO was going to have a seizure from all of the sound and movement.

anniecheese · May 2014

Congrats on the job! I'm a teacher too

Also, I really admire the way you stand up to your annoying FIL! You are the mom and of course you know what's best for your children. He needs to get over himself and his eye rolling... so rude!

keags5496 · May 2014

@anniecheese‌ Don't admire too much. I get a secret thrill when I put him in his place. Maybe because mil never did.

MissDemeanor · May 2014

bribbon said:

I never have any complaints about my MIL when we have these threads. I wonder how quickly that will change after she moves in with us next month :-?

You're making a brave choice! Didn't you say you SIL is moving in too?

keags5496 · May 2014

bribbon said:

bribbon said:

I never have any complaints about my MIL when we have these threads. I wonder how quickly that will change after she moves in with us next month :-?

You're making a brave choice! Didn't you say you SIL is moving in too?
--------------- Yep, good memory @MissDemeanor‌! We'll be a household of 7 @-)

**Stuck in the quote box**

Yipes. You are a braver woman than I am!

iwubrory · May 2014

bribbon said:

MissDemeanor said:

bribbon said:

I never have any complaints about my MIL when we have these threads. I wonder how quickly that will change after she moves in with us next month :-?

You're making a brave choice! Didn't you say you SIL is moving in too?

---------------
Yep, good memory @MissDemeanor‌! We'll be a household of 7 @-)

And kinder than I am. I don't think I could do it. I feel like I only want dh and my kids living with me. Is that horrible?

blackbettieberrie · May 2014

I hate when people think kids are just going to go along with their schedule. For a while my MIL was stopping by everyday to visit the baby. She is almost always sleeping when she comes over and I am not about to wake up my baby just do she can spend time with her. One day she was complaining about it and I finally told her maybe she should call ahead and see if it's a good time. That's the worst thing I have ever told my MIL, so I feel it's a huge accomplishment. If I said everything that was on my mind I'm sure she'd hate me. Which may not be such a bad thing.

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