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Handling Baby's Firsts While Working

SouthRNComfortSouthRNComfort member
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I'm a FTM so I'm not sure how I'll feel emotionally about missing baby's first this, first that, while I'm away at work. I'd like to hear how other mothers have fared. Does your daycare provider give you a detailed report of when baby does what first? Rolling, crawling, steps? Or do they kind of stay mum in order to let you experience those "firsts" at home with baby? I only ask bc LO has been trying to roll over for weeks. She finally did it this past weekend at home, when hubby and I both got to see it at the same time. I'm glad we got to witness it first bc my MIL, who watches her, has been saying "she'll roll any day now" and I just know had she seen it first it would be all she talked about. Also how do you handle baby's first foods? Is anyone a real stickler about parents being the only ones to start babies on their first foods? Does anyone share that task with family?
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  • Maybride2Maybride2 member
    Our daycares did not give me explicit reports of firsts, just told me that they were getting "really really close". But truthfully, I knew what that meant and it didn't bother me. I could be a SAHM and still miss something while I was in the bathroom. I was happy to know that they were meeting their milestones, and excited enough to see it myself that I didn't care if it was technically the first or tenth time........it was always the first time the first time I saw it. With foods - daycare didn't give solids until we established them at home. And they only gave what we brought for the first month or so.
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  • jbatchjbatch member
    I run a daycare and I tell my staff not to tell parents if a first happens at daycare. Some parents care others don't..


    I have a Daughter born 2/26/2013. She is pretty much amazing!


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    TheBorg7of9 said:

    I think of it Ike this. It's actually kind of subjective when a kid really does something. It's not like they're doing nothing and then one second they suddenly sit up all by themselves. It's a process. You'll be there for some part of it. Also, When you see it, it will be the first time for you. Does it really matter if he also did it during the day? Not to me.

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  • emberlee3emberlee3 member
    First off, I agree with PP that most firsts happen gradually. And SAHMs miss stuff, too. My sister missed her second daughter rolling over because she was at Target. That being said, I definitely saw all of DS's firsts despite working 80 hrs/week. I am pretty sure I saw all of DD's, too, but my nanny may have been good at letting me think that. :)
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  • SouthRNComfortSouthRNComfort member
    Thanks for helping me put it into perspective.
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  • jesuisfatigueejesuisfatiguee member
    Ask you MIL to keep quiet. She may have trouble being a proud grandmother, but she should be able to respect that wish. 

    That said, I'm pretty sure I've seen all of DS' firsts, minus his first purees. I'm good with it :)



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  • kristenndkristennd member
    I was sitting on the floor with LO the first time he rolled over. He did it the moment I looked up to answer a question. After that I didn't worry about it.
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  • DiveFrogDiveFrog member

    As most people have mentioned the first time you personally see them do something, regardless of whether it really is the "first" time, it still feels awesome.

    My parents watch DD. They would have respected my wishes if I said don't tell me, but honestly it would have been hard for them. They always liked to tell me about DD's day and what she was working on and doing, and at some point it would have been difficult to keep straight what was a "first" and what wasn't. Also, as people have said they work on learning these skills for weeks, sometimes manage to get lucky and do something once, and then don't do it again for days, or some more weeks. I often wondered if what I saw the "first" time really happened, until the second or third "first time".

    As for food, my parents lived with us DD's first year, so they were intimately aware of what we were feeding DD. That said, I was the driver in regards to food and until around 14months my parents didn't really give DD any type of food without getting an OK from either me or DH. Now, at 2yrs old we just have some basic ground rules like a limit on "organic only" milk, no juice, limiting processed foods, and everything in moderation.

     

     

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  • rubber_chickenrubber_chicken member
    This probably isn't helpful, but my daughter was late on all her gross motor skill milestones - rolling, crawling, walking etc.  Her teachers were actively working with her on these skills, and I was relieved that we had professionals with experience in this helping our daughter.  I was always happy to hear that she was improving or had accomplished a milestone.  It didn't take away from the special-ness of seeing it myself at home :)
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  • Curls218Curls218 member
    I gave DS his first food, and now I have our dcp give him "lunch" but I don't have them give him anything I haven't given myself.  Mostly because I don't want them having to deal with an allergic reaction if there is one.
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  • ss+elss+el member
    If I didn't see it, it didn't happen yet. ;)  If he did have any firsts in anyone else's care, they never told me.
    As for food, definitely be the one to start him on things. My mom did about half of our care, so it's possible I let her start him on some of his new foods (he's 5 1/2, it's getting fuzzy), but I wouldn't have had the daycare center do it.
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  • AZ123AZ123 member
    There's nothing like Mommy's reaction to the "firsts". The high fives when they pee in the potty, the screaming and crying of happiness with they first walk.  Think of it from your child's perspective, nothing beats how excited mommy is when she sees the "first" (or daddy). No mother-in-law, no caregiver can beat that reaction and how it makes your LO feel inside....
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