I need to vent about my crazy family

hjenni · May 2014

Ok, so my sister's boyfriend called me today to say that my father (who I'm estranged from) was in the hospital and that he was basically brain-dead and on life-support. I could here my sister in the background. He said he was the one calling me because she hates to give me bad news. I asked which hospital and he told me. I called the hospital and they said there was nobody there by that name. So I called around to all the other hospitals I could think of in that area (6 total) and he wasn't at any of them. I called him back and said that he was not at any hospitals in the area. He said he would call my dad's wife and see what was going on. So he calls me back about 15 minutes later and says that his wife had made it so that when I called there they could not give me any information. I think this is bullshit and suspicious as hell. I told him that first of all, I never told the hospital who I was. Second of all, somebody is lying here. He said that my dad's wife probably lied and they should have confirmed it before calling me. WTF? I know my sister and her boyfriend are making this up. This is not the first time they have made up drama to overshadow good things happening in my life. They once even went so far as to fake a pregnancy and a miscarriage. I told them that I hope they figure it out because only a psychopath would lie about that. I'm done! When I confirm for sure they are lying (which I'm sure I will) they are completely cut off from my life. I'm sorry if this didn't make any sense or if I'm rambling. I'm just very upset.

Carebella · May 2014

I don't have any advice or words of wisdom, but I am so sorry you have to deal with this. Hugs!

mrsransom · May 2014

Oh my gosh! That is terrible! I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. Family drama is the worst kind

absolutelymaybe · May 2014

I don't even understand their actions (if they made this up). It really sounds like they need help.

sweetbabyrahe · May 2014

You don't need that craziness in your life. So sorry your family is sucking.

hjenni · May 2014

Thanks everyone. I don't know exactly what I'm feeling. If my suspicions are true, then I need to cut them out of my life. Especially with the LO on the way. On the off chance that they are not lying, I don't know what to do. My dad is not a good person by any means. He is an abusive drunk and drug addict. I knew his lifestyle would catch up with him someday, but I still love him and I always hoped he would get a wake-up call before that happen. I thought maybe me cutting off contact with him might be part of that wake-up call, but he just uses it as an excuse to drink more. I can't have the LO around that either. I want to believe that they are lying even though I know that makes my sister and her boyfriend psychopaths (even though I already kind of knew they were because of lies they've told in the past). I'm sorry again for rambling. I don't know what to do.

@FhSTAR81 thank you for the information. I never knew that before. I would just hope that my husband's wife wouldn't be that cruel in a situation so serious.

hjenni · May 2014

hjenni said:

Thanks everyone. I don't know exactly what I'm feeling. If my suspicions are true, then I need to cut them out of my life. Especially with the LO on the way. On the off chance that they are not lying, I don't know what to do. My dad is not a good person by any means. He is an abusive drunk and drug addict. I knew his lifestyle would catch up with him someday, but I still love him and I always hoped he would get a wake-up call before that happen. I thought maybe me cutting off contact with him might be part of that wake-up call, but he just uses it as an excuse to drink more. I can't have the LO around that either. I want to believe that they are lying even though I know that makes my sister and her boyfriend psychopaths (even though I already kind of knew they were because of lies they've told in the past). I'm sorry again for rambling. I don't know what to do.

@FhSTAR81 thank you for the information. I never knew that before. I would just hope that my husband's wife wouldn't be that cruel in a situation so serious.

*Dad's wife. Sorry. Words are so hard right now...

RachelC79 · May 2014

Yikes. So sorry you are dealing with all of this!

mockingjay1 · May 2014

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. If your sister is lying, I would definitely cut them out. It doesn't sound like her and your BIL are very good people. You definitely don't need that extra stress in your life.

Tkf1085 · May 2014

That is insane. Seriously messed up. Don't let the drama over shadow your happiness and excitement in your pregnancy. That's clearly what they want. You may not want to so this but this is what I would do to get to the bottom of it so you can stop worrying. (Bc we all know that's no good for you or baby) I would go to the hospital in person and explain you're his daughter and the situation. The nurse will hopefully be accommodating. Good luck to you and I hope it all works itself out!

Deardra77 · May 2014

Ugh sorry u r dealing with this!!! When I was in giving birth to my son we asked to have my name unlisted at reception as my MIL is a bit crazy and kept threatening to show. Really didn't want to deal with her as we were high risk and I knew the time after birth would be very stressful as he transitioned to life outside the womb and sure enough he ended up in NICU. Anyway, when you are on privacy like that it includes all people not just specific individuals. So much so that when my husband went to get something from the car after midnight so his badge had expired they would not him back in and denied I was a patient there. He had to use his cell phone to call me and get them to call security to let him back in. Was a pain but worth it to stop stress if the MIL possibly showing up. So they could have a set up like that in the hospital possibly. But either way true or untrue what is going in sucks and so sorry u are dealing with this. Try as much as is possible not to let it get to u. Yes easier said than done!

hjenni · May 2014

Yup. Confirmed lie. I was told he collapsed at my uncles house and was taken to the ER. According to my cousin, that's all true but he went home today.

kaimee27 · May 2014

I'm so sorry you're going through this during what should be a happy time. T&P for you and your little one that your family's toxic actions will not wreck this time for you!

musicalmommy3 · May 2014

I am so sorry you have to deal with such negative energy around you at such a special time in your life. Hugs.

missnacholover · May 2014

WTF?!?!

jessa1228 · May 2014

hjenni said:

Yup. Confirmed lie. I was told he collapsed at my uncles house and was taken to the ER. According to my cousin, that's all true but he went home today.

Is it possible that your sister was misinformed? Not that I'm trying to defend them in any way, because this is just all kinds of fucked up. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

hjenni · May 2014

jessa1228 said:

hjenni said:

Yup. Confirmed lie. I was told he collapsed at my uncles house and was taken to the ER. According to my cousin, that's all true but he went home today.

Is it possible that your sister was misinformed? Not that I'm trying to defend them in any way, because this is just all kinds of fucked up. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

Thanks @jessa1228.

I did think maybe that was a possibility. My dad's wife is not really what I would call a stable person as she also drinks and does drugs with my dad. I guess I'm thinking it's both of them at this point because of some stuff my sister's boyfriend said. He said that they were going to keep my dad on life-support until the end of the weekend and that it was my sister's decision on whether to end it at that point or not. I thought that was really strange that it wouldn't be his wife. That was just one thing that was suspicious. And this is not the first time she's lied to get attention. And it always happens when something good/major is happening in my life. It's very dysfunctional and I feel bad for her. But that's also why I can't take the chance. I don't want to always wonder "what's going to happen this time" every time something good happens in my life. And I definitely don't want the baby to be around it.

missnacholover · May 2014

hjenni said:

jessa1228 said:

hjenni said:

Yup. Confirmed lie. I was told he collapsed at my uncles house and was taken to the ER. According to my cousin, that's all true but he went home today.

Is it possible that your sister was misinformed? Not that I'm trying to defend them in any way, because this is just all kinds of fucked up. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

Thanks @jessa1228.

I did think maybe that was a possibility. My dad's wife is not really what I would call a stable person as she also drinks and does drugs with my dad. I guess I'm thinking it's both of them at this point because of some stuff my sister's boyfriend said. He said that they were going to keep my dad on life-support until the end of the weekend and that it was my sister's decision on whether to end it at that point or not. I thought that was really strange that it wouldn't be his wife. That was just one thing that was suspicious. And this is not the first time she's lied to get attention. And it always happens when something good/major is happening in my life. It's very dysfunctional and I feel bad for her. But that's also why I can't take the chance. I don't want to always wonder "what's going to happen this time" every time something good happens in my life. And I definitely don't want the baby to be around it.

I think they need to save the drama for their @runningmama14

runningmama14 · May 2014

Yes! It's really catching on! :-)

creativesoul83 · May 2014

Sorry your going through and dealing with something so rough especially while expecting. It is hard but try to stay positive. I understand needing to find out the truth and when you do. I hope you can make the decision to do what is best for you and Lo

hjenni · May 2014

missnacholover said:

hjenni said:

jessa1228 said:

hjenni said:

Yup. Confirmed lie. I was told he collapsed at my uncles house and was taken to the ER. According to my cousin, that's all true but he went home today.

Is it possible that your sister was misinformed? Not that I'm trying to defend them in any way, because this is just all kinds of fucked up. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

Thanks @jessa1228.

I did think maybe that was a possibility. My dad's wife is not really what I would call a stable person as she also drinks and does drugs with my dad. I guess I'm thinking it's both of them at this point because of some stuff my sister's boyfriend said. He said that they were going to keep my dad on life-support until the end of the weekend and that it was my sister's decision on whether to end it at that point or not. I thought that was really strange that it wouldn't be his wife. That was just one thing that was suspicious. And this is not the first time she's lied to get attention. And it always happens when something good/major is happening in my life. It's very dysfunctional and I feel bad for her. But that's also why I can't take the chance. I don't want to always wonder "what's going to happen this time" every time something good happens in my life. And I definitely don't want the baby to be around it.

I think they need to save the drama for their @runningmama14

Lol! Well they need to save it for someone who's not me that's for sure haha.

hjenni · May 2014

And also, for anyone who saw that post about my dad making me turkey and gravy, it's my step-dad (who I consider to really be my dad) who I was talking about. Just wanted to make that clear in case anyone thought I was crazy or that this was MUD. I don't know why I care but I do lol.

takmjs · May 2014

Wow. I know I was asked a few months ago at a doctor visit (just at my local clinic) who they could give information to, like even if I was there for a basic appointment. They told me that if someone called and asked if I was there for an appointment (even if it was my husband or mom, and they weren't on the list), their response would have to be, "I don't know anything about that" or something to that effect. So when you said you called the hospitals about whether he was there, it was my first response that they CAN'T tell you, even if you're related. New privacy rules/laws, I guess.

hjenni · May 2014

@kyliedaniellexx I'm so sorry you had to go through that . That's awful

Sarahbeth612 · May 2014

So much crazy! Sorry you've had to deal with all that!

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