More crazy mom or mother-in-law?

kolaczka · May 2014

While it is still a toss up, my mom is currently winning the "who can drive me more crazy" game. Maybe I just talk to my mom more...because I was sure my mother-in-law would win. There is still plenty of time though.

The latest from my mom..."it should really be your goal to fit back into your wedding dress."

Weight...touchy subject, I am not looking forward to gaining.

Wedding dress...touchy subject, the day after my final fitting I fell climbing and broke my face and injured my back. It was the week before my wedding so I was too swelled up to wear it. I had to borrow my sister's.

Really, she wants to bring up my weight and wedding dress right now?!?!! At least I can straight out tell my mother when she is over the line.

LadyXaverian · May 2014

Ew. Sorry.

My mother and MIL both have their own special kinds of crazy, but I love them both.

MLC1990 · May 2014

My MIL definitely wins for sure. She constantly tells me what I should and shouldn't do. Drives me up the wall !!!

MrsMCBMar2014 · May 2014

My MIL takes the cake. We told her yesterday and she was over the moon. She said that she would be over more to help me out with stuff needing to be done. Last I checked, I'm pregnant not disabled. She spent every moment with her daughter when she was pregnant. I told DH that I don't need her to be with me. It's not her place. Just like our wedding day, it wasn't MIL's place to be with me the morning of, but since her daughter was in the wedding I allowed her to come "help" for a few and then she had to leave.

Oye.

Sunflower9939 · May 2014

My MIL is psycho. My Mom is frustrating too but my MIL takes the cake. She makes shit up about people, talks behind people's backs, is invasive in her children's lives (like telling my husband last pregnancy that "you know you can still have sex while pregnant." And telling my SIL "just because you have a baby now, you still need to fulfill my son's needs.")

Psycho, I tell you.

YaMrWhite · May 2014

How do you break your face? Lol

Sorry you're having to deal with that. Sometimes family can be pretty dense!

MrsMCBMar2014 · May 2014

Sunflower9939 said:
My MIL is psycho. My Mom is frustrating too but my MIL takes the cake. She makes shit up about people, talks behind people's backs, is invasive in her children's lives (like telling my husband last pregnancy that "you know you can still have sex while pregnant." And telling my SIL "just because you have a baby now, you still need to fulfill my son's needs.")

Psycho, I tell you.

Is your MIL my MIL? Seriously I swear she does the same here.

IHeartScience · May 2014

I actually won the mil lottery, she is amazing. Lived with us for 9 months after ds1 was born to basically be grandma daycare, always supportive abd understanding (with some quirks of course). My mom has lived a difficult life. I love her more than anything, but she can be so negative that I am sometimes in tears by the time we get off the phone. I think my profession also makes her uneasy.

kolaczka · May 2014

You fall off a rock outcropping (a whole section of rock gave way) and use your face to help cushion the fall. I broke my nose and eye socket. I had cuts and scrapes from my eyebrows to my chin.

alibc123 · May 2014

My MIL takes the cake. My mom is a totally normal down to earth person. She has good rationally thoughts on why or why not to do something. My MIL is just downright bat shit crazy. Oh yeah, and we live with her.

Lanatir · May 2014

I think a few of you have already seen snipets about my MiL. She is bat shit insane. She has 3 children. One completely cut her out of her life and she spends tons of time sending them emails about how it's unbiblical to be mean to your parents. The second has said "No more contact except Christmas, Thanksgiving, maybe birthdays, and then Mother's Day and Father's Day." Then there's my husband... He doesn't want to cut her off because everyone else does and he feels bad for her... But he also goes off with FiL every time we visit his parents and has no idea how crazy she is.

SiL and I were pregnant "together" last time-- accidentally ended up due 5 weeks apart. According to MiL, it was a conspiracy because she can't have more kids and we're only trying to exclude her. This time, when we told her I was pregnant, she said my SiL must be pregnant again, then, too. AND then went and posted my pregnancy on FB.

MiL believes EVERYTHING she reads on the internet. EVERYTHING.

She is 100% NEVER at fault for anything and has told us "I have no reason to apologize for anything and I'll tell you when I'm wrong."

She force fed DD turkey the Thanksgiving DD was 6 months old. After making a comment that she didn't think the turkey was cooked enough.

She force fed my niece jello (pushed her forehead back so the mouth opened) and then told my BiL and SiL that they were being horrible parents for not making my niece try jello. (Final straw for BiL and SiL...)

Thankfully, we don't live with her, though, like a few PPs have said. I might be in jail for homicide then...

2000cougar · May 2014

The only crazy that I really have to deal with when it comes to my Mom is that she spoils DS rotten. Sometimes my Dad is worse. DS is their only grandson out of 7 grandkids. They've waited a long time for him. It's never anything too crazy and she always checks with me first. If that's crazy, then I love crazy!

MIL is a whole other story. She has driven me nuts from day one. She never shuts up. To make matters worse, she has a thick long island accent that is like nails on a chalkboard to me. Every time they visit, she complains about the same stuff over and over again. The last time they were here, she told me that I already had my hands full and I shouldn't even think about getting a dog. I only have 1 kid, am a SAHM, and we're so financially stable that the only thing we owe money on is the mortgage on our large house (2x's the size of the IL's). What do I have my hands full of? Meanwhile, DH's sister is a financial train wreck but they're ok with her wanting more kids to squeeze into their tiny 2 bedroom apt.

Bigboneded · May 2014

Mine are both good, too. But I want to send hugs to everyone with crazies! I am grateful....

Lalalady54 · May 2014

Forget MILs, can we talk crazy as a bat FILs?? Cause I have one of those.

rainbows · May 2014

My mom is great so far, but im dreading my aunt finding out. My aunt has not spoken to me since i made her feel stupid, by telling her I figured out how to set up her roku by "reading the directions". But shes been bothering all 3 of us girls (Neither of my sisters are even IN a serious relationship) to have another baby FOR HER.

As soon as she finds out shes going to be calling all the time wanting me to visit her (because she cant be bothered to come visit here) and touching me, *ugh* And shes going to want my baby to call her Grandmother, like my nephew has to. DH says Hell No to that and I agree.

kolaczka · May 2014

I find it interesting that big life changes, even positive ones, give your family members leave to pass judgement on you life and values. So far for me the tally is as follows:

Mother in law: ++
Mother: +---

Both my husband and I have wonderful parents who support us immensely. But both moms are also opinionated and lack tact. Constant nausea as well as a slew of other 1st trimester symptoms is making it harder to deal with the thoughtless comments and agendas.

liladelphia215 · May 2014

My MIL was so drunk /on something at my wedding, while my Mom was bustling my dress for the reception she came stumbling up ranting about a pregnancy scare H had with his ex gf. We were speechless. When she's sober she's not quite like that, but has made comments about weight.. like once she gave me an outfit saying "this is just tooo big on me, maybe it will fit you.. has made reference to Hs weight... and he isn't overweight.... and forgot to attend DDs Christening and showed up to the party in cutoff jeans and jerseys. Oh when DD was born they took a week off from work to help. She came to the hospital once and didn't hear from her the entire week lol.

Not as crazy as some of yours but still her own kind.

Lanatir · May 2014

@calindi-- MiL did it while I went to pee. DH saw it and said NOTHING to her or to me. He didn't even mention it until we were driving home. I was LIVID.

spoonleg · May 2014

I haven't told my mother or MIL about this pregnancy because I fear the crazy.

My mom is nosy and lacks any sort of tact or filter. When my SIL was pregnant, my mom texted her three times a day. She told me that she WANTED to text her more often, but limited herself to three times daily. Like she was doing my SIL some huge favor.

My MIL has no grandchildren. She is 60 years old and still regales total strangers with the (lengthy) story of her son's birth. Luckily, she lives in another state. The crazy will be strong with this one.

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