Debbie downer...

Kelliann98 · May 2014

This is my second pregnancy. My first was healthy and I'm super blessed to have gotten preggers again! I was unsure if I could get pregnant again due to complications. But... Reading everyone's stories of loss is making me feel like I shouldn't get excited yet. Ugh, is anyone else feeling down or like you shouldn't get used to this pregnancy yet 'just in case?' I can't shake this feeling!! I'm only 6w and change and feel like I'm almost dreading my appt at 8w bc I'm terrified I'm going to get bad news.. I really wasn't too worried until I read everyone's stories!! But I'm addicted to the bump

I can't stop!!

BookitBoo · May 2014

Ive started doing a happy dance every time I pee and I don't have any blood.

"I'm still pregnant!" ~wiggle wiggle~ "I'm still pregnant" ~cha cha~

Since I work in the infant room at our daycare I usually wiggle, cha cha, and dance singing that with the infants (they LOVE it, of course).

It helps me embrace the immediacy of the pregnancy...and ignore the Oreos a sweet co worker brought over to
Share.

pettycrocker · May 2014

I feel that way in waves, esp since I had a loss recently (ectopic) but when I start to feel that way, or have negative thoughts, I try to do things to get my focus on this being a perfect pregnancy, that will result in a healthy baby- SO, I've been making baby registries (just for me, I won't be having a shower) and making lists of all the things I am going to need for this new baby! That is really helping me stay positive.

You just have to find ways to focus on positive thoughts, and hope for the best!

MNgirl326 · May 2014

I am just taking it one day at a time. I know the statistics and the realities, but I also know my body is capable of having a healthy baby (he is asleep in his room as we speak).

I have to trust that I am doing all I can to stay healthy and the rest, well, is out my control.

Today I am pregnant and I love my baby.

richardson0911 · May 2014

BookitBoo said:

Ive started doing a happy dance every time I pee and I don't have any blood. "I'm still pregnant!" ~wiggle wiggle~ "I'm still pregnant" ~cha cha~ Since I work in the infant room at our daycare I usually wiggle, cha cha, and dance singing that with the infants (they LOVE it, of course). It helps me embrace the immediacy of the pregnancy...and ignore the Oreos a sweet co worker brought over to Share.

@bookitboo: I do this too! I haven't registered that I'm pregnant, not really, but I can't help but feel this iron grip on how badly it can't go away.

OP- I've been straight up terrified for weeks, and I will say that the mantra makes me feel much better, far more than "know it's not your fault" and "it's nature's way." One day at a time, my dear.

IHeartScience · May 2014

Like pp said, one day at a time. I like to hope I will stop being freaked out about something going wrong eventually.

Sunflower9939 · May 2014

Here's the reality, you're a mom now and you will always worry. When you can start feeling kicks and don't feel some for awhile, you will worry. Then once it's born, you will worry about SIDS and what if you're child doesn't wake up. There's something at every stage of this child's life that can cause worry. So be vigilant but try to enjoy each stage and love your baby.

bmblebea · May 2014

I'm having the same problem too. It's hard to get excited and attached when you feel like it might all go away. I'm also so nervous for the 8 week appt bc I'm afraid there won't be a hb. I keep telling my H everyday to visualize a baby in there with a heartbeat. He thinks I'm nuts but he also is blissfully unaware of all the terrible things that can happen. I'm trying to just take it one day at a time and manage the anxiety but it's not easy. I guess just know you're not alone with how you feel. Hoping for sticky babies for all of us

peggels24 · May 2014

((hugs)) It can be very scary especially when you start realizing risks that you didn't think of before. Do your best to put those out of your mind and focus on happy thoughts - I find that online "window shopping" always helps me.

ImJessesGirl · May 2014

dimples12 said:

I like the other ladies' advice. Today you know that you are pregnant and can cherish that pregnancy. Should anything happen - it is outside of your control. But for today, you can rejoice in the pregnancy.
My problem is that I just don't feel pregnant yet. I need that appt to make it more real.

This is exactly what I would have written. I don't "feel" pregnant either, so I am very anxious for my appointment in a couple weeks to just confirm everything. However, I try to just live by the rules of positive energy and attraction... If I put negative energy out that, then that will manifest. If I put positive energy out there, then that is what will manifest. I know it sounds ridiculous, and it's not always 100%, but it's what I do to keep me sane.

Pips09 · May 2014

I just take it day by day. I know that if something were to go wrong, there is nothing I can do about it. I try to stay positive, but it's also the reason that we won't tell anyone about it before 12 weeks.

12chachacha · May 2014

I feel like this too. Thanks to the ladies here for all the good advice. One day at a time.

Kelliann98 · May 2014

bmblebea said:
He thinks I'm nuts but he also is blissfully unaware of all the terrible things that can happen.

Ugh!! Wouldn't it be nice to live in their world for the next 12 weeks!?

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