Can you help calm me down?

rkcaraway · May 2014

My MIL is a wonderful woman who wants to come get DS on Sunday for a few hours and take him to her house. We will then meet them out there later with DD and have dinner. In my head, I know this is a wonderful thing and that DS needs to leave the house (we're still on public lockdown due to DD health). I am so nervous. I cried this morning when I finally agreed. It will be ok, right? It's good for him to be exposed to different places and people, right???

My MIL works in the infant room at DC, has practically raised 2 of my nieces, and DS has been around her many times at our house.

Please help calm my fears

lisab613 · May 2014

He will be fine! It sounds like you and he both need this. Your mil raised your husband and did a fine job! It's hard the first few times but it gets easier. He will be in good hands.

notkateanymore · May 2014

Chill out. You're making it worse in your head. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your child going somewhere with somebody else, especially your MIL.

n8swife · May 2014

Your DS will be fine. He'll probably really enjoy a change of scenery.

BoothBaby · May 2014

I'm sure she will take good care of him!

FutureMrsCaesar · May 2014

It's hard the first time but it will be fine!! It will also be a relief for you to have someone you love and trust who can watch your children occasionally for you. Plus having a close relationship with their grandparents is a blessing all around. Tell your MIL you're feeling apprehensive (not because of her!) and tell her you're going to call and check in at least once to make yourself feel better.

BootsOrHearts · May 2014

Sounds like he will be in good hands.

But I can relate to the anxiety. I took my kid to the gym childcare the other day and was super worried but they were awesome with him. He slept in a swing the whole time. I felt silly for worrying.

thesportsgal · May 2014

Tanisha417 said:

He's your older child, right? She's family, works in a daycare, and most importantly, got your husband into adulthood on one piece. You're good.
Not older, she has twins. I'm sure he will be fine, like you said she has the proper experience and knowledge. Good luck to you mama, I still haven't gotten the confidence to leave LO with anyone outside our household. Eta my answer to question.

Wow, how is this even possible?? I felt like LO was bored with me at the end of my 12 week maternity leave...

I'm sure LO will be fine and will love the new experience.

rkcaraway · May 2014

Thanks ladies! All chilled out now. Have a good day.

thesportsgal · May 2014

Tanisha417 said:

Tanisha417 said:

He's your older child, right? She's family, works in a daycare, and most importantly, got your husband into adulthood on one piece. You're good.
Not older, she has twins. I'm sure he will be fine, like you said she has the proper experience and knowledge. Good luck to you mama, I still haven't gotten the confidence to leave LO with anyone outside our household. Eta my answer to question.

Wow, how is this even possible?? I felt like LO was bored with me at the end of my 12 week maternity leave...

I'm sure LO will be fine and will love the new experience.
Well my household includes DH, my sister, and her Bf. I guess I'm not at the point of wanting time away from my kid yet, and I would rather just take her with me where ever go. Also anytime I have had her around my ILs they give her back when she needs changed and say that's my job not grandparents, so I don't trust them to be alone with her.

For some people, it's not a matter of "want", it's a matter of having to for work and other commitments where you can't take a child with you wherever you go. And your in laws are ridiculous.

ChiAmy · May 2014

Let her take them..you don't want a baby like my four year old who has separation anxiety anytime he has to be around ANYONE new. He cried 1/2 the year at preschool.

They need this. You need this. It will be okay. I promise.

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