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Deliadorel · May 2014

I recently became SAHM, so obviously I have more time to surf the net:)
Here is a long but awesome article about parenting!
Enjoy!
https://theattachedfamily.com/?p=4979
>:D<

YummeeCookee · May 2014

Smilz4782 said:

I just wanted to say that I had way more time to bump and play online when I worked FT

Me too. I have been working remote PT now and I have no time for anything - between taking care of Bianca, household chores and the little work I am doing for my real job.

mskatiep · May 2014

The science behind the article is probably sound. The benefits of oxytocin and other hormones has been studied. But the amazing thing about moms, dads, and babies, is that we are all adaptable. So even if any of the rewiring opportunities were missed all is not lost. I understood and agreed with most of the article until the last paragraph. It was highly condescending. Andplusalso, if it were true that we have all be screwing up for the last century, then I don't think the human race could have survived let along grown if the consequences of C/s, FF, and working outside the home are as dire as the last paragraph suggests. We are all doing the best we can, no need to rub in other's faces that the only way to "be a mother" is breastfeeding ect.

katie.725 · May 2014

Grabs popcorn! Get at it @LJGS1010‌

mskatiep · May 2014

Lol @LJGS1010‌ I was born by c/s as well as had a c/s so I was not insulting those that had one. By consequences I ment only reduced oxytocin levels per the article.

katie.725 · May 2014

katielou711 said:
This MotherEFFer is getting stabby.

ETA: I am also a working mom. Clearly I am the worst mother ever.

Me too... someone else watches my LO so DH and I can work... heaven forbid.

But if you dont have to work then be grateful. I would love to stay home... I'd go crazy but hey... as long as LO is happy.

EFF here too... @Deliadorel‌ you've landed in some hot water...

megswen · May 2014

katielou711 said:

DevynnMarie said:
I totally missed the whole C/S vs vaginal Delivery phenomenon.

I pushed C out, never got to hold him after, he was rushed to NICU while I got over 100 stitches in my vagina.

I don't recall any miracle bonding. In fact, I didn't even know what my son looked like for almost 24 hours. So needless to say, there was no skin to skin, for almost a week while he stayed in the NICU.

At 6 months old, being formula fed, and missing the whole "bonding expierence" my son loves me more then anybody else.

I retread it, and I stand by it being informational, but I think it's information is a crock of shit.

Edited for more info
Holy shit! You've been through it. Would it be totally weird to feel bad for your vajayjay?

Sorry DM. That's some rough stuff.

Seriously! Over 100?!?! I thought my 26 were bad. You poor woman!

fitmama418 · May 2014

Sup? I heard we're bashing EFF-ers and working moms? Cool.

Jennybabe0706 · May 2014

A friend of mine posted an article similar to this on fb a while back (she also loves to preach about what a great stay at home mom she is). It made me stabby then and it makes me stabby now. We all parent differently... No one way is the best.

Oh and about that free time.... I was home for four months w my girl and I love her to the moon and back but there were days when I wished I was back at work so I could actually use the bathroom and eat when I wanted. I call bullshit.

Edited bc I posted too soon

Deliadorel · May 2014

Ohh, no no!!! Under NO circumstances I deliberately wanted to stir the pot or underestimate someone!!!
The whole thing regarding the hormones seemed interesting, that was ALL. If I offended someone, please accept my sincere apologies !!!!!!
I respect all the moms out there and I know you are all working hard to provide for your LO, SAH or working moms.

Yes, my free time was while I was sitting in the car because LO fell asleep in the car and didn't wanna take him out. He would have wake up.

A, and the hug emoticon, was a simple and honest internet hug from a mom to a mom.

Again, I didn't want to offend anybody, just sharing the article. I'm sorry;(

Deliadorel · May 2014

All right mommas! I did apologized and I'm going to do it again! I'm sorry if I offended anyone! No intention in doing that!!!!
It just seemed an interesting and informational article!

It was my very first "article sharing" and obviously I screwed it!

tisunge602 · May 2014

DevynnMarie said:

I totally missed the whole C/S vs vaginal Delivery phenomenon. I pushed C out, never got to hold him after, he was rushed to NICU while I got over 100 stitches in my vagina. I don't recall any miracle bonding. In fact, I didn't even know what my son looked like for almost 24 hours. So needless to say, there was no skin to skin, for almost a week while he stayed in the NICU. At 6 months old, being formula fed, and missing the whole "bonding expierence" my son loves me more then anybody else. I retread it, and I stand by it being informational, but I think it's information is a crock of shit. Edited for more info
Holy shit! You've been through it. Would it be totally weird to feel bad for your vajayjay? Sorry DM. That's some rough stuff.
Seriously! Over 100?!?! I thought my 26 were bad. You poor woman!
Yup! They told me he would only be 7-8 lbs at most, he was 9.7. I'm 5'1. Basically he had shoulder dystocia. Scariest thing ever. I felt his shoulder stuck in my pelvic bone, yet his head was out for a while. I ha 3 episiotomies in 3 different directions and his shoulder tore the inside of my vaginal wall. I would fuckin do it all over again though! Lol

OMG, OMG, OMG. You are a superhero! I had 21 stitches and 3rd degree tears, and getting stitched up was worse than actually pushing him out. But now I feel like a wimp! Mad props to you.

OP, there's nothing wrong with sharing an "interesting" article, but next time maybe include some thoughts along with it... like what YOU thought of it and WHY you think it's interesting. Don't just post the link and run away. Otherwise people will make assumptions about what you're trying to say.

Deliadorel · May 2014

@tisunge602‌ , thank you for your advice!!!

Deliadorel · May 2014

I do understand now!!!
Like I said before, I respect both SAHM and working moms, FF or BF.

Again, I meant no offense to anyone! Not my intention!!! [-O< #-o

YummeeCookee · May 2014

I never read the article either, when OP said it was "long," I decided not to. Then I got on later this afternoon and saw this thread blew up. I should've read the article.

katie.725 · May 2014

CFox815 said:

The back pedaling is strong.

@deliadorel

beccaxbooxbear · May 2014

DevynnMarie said:
I totally missed the whole C/S vs vaginal Delivery phenomenon.

I pushed C out, never got to hold him after, he was rushed to NICU while I got over 100 stitches in my vagina.

I don't recall any miracle bonding. In fact, I didn't even know what my son looked like for almost 24 hours. So needless to say, there was no skin to skin, for almost a week while he stayed in the NICU.

At 6 months old, being formula fed, and missing the whole "bonding expierence" my son loves me more then anybody else.

I retread it, and I stand by it being informational, but I think it's information is a crock of shit.

Edited for more info

I feel ya @DevynnMarie‌ I had a 4th degree tear that tunnelled towards my intestines so I had a crap load of stitches too. It took them 2 hours to stitch me up in the OR and that was after I hemorrhaged and A was taken away because of fluid that prevented him from breathing well. I had a c/s with my first and honestly it was less painful. But ds1 was taken to nicu for a week for lung infection. So my birth experiences weren't ideal. So whatever gives you a happy healthy baby and happy healthy momma is best!

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