::Lurking:: wanting to try to get pregnant right after a miscarriage (before period starts again)

minni_ash · May 2014

Hi all,

I am afraid to poast on the ttc after a loss board because of the scary rules, etc.

Maybe you can help me out... I had a miscarriage recently and I am looking forward to moving on. I haven't gotten my first period yet... infact I just stopped bleeding. I think I would like to ttc again right away (even before my first period) Have any of you done this and had success? Anyone out there tried this and got pregnant and ended up having another loss? Thanks for letting me lurk!

jess123456 · May 2014

So sorry for your loss. My doctor always recommends waiting at least two cycles before trying again. It gives your body time to heal physically and heal a bit emotionally. I know there have been lots who have gotten pregnant right away without a period but I imagine that it will also be difficult to track ovulation.

dragonfly711 · May 2014

Hello, I had a mmc a year ago last Feb. I was told by my Dr to wait 1-2 cycles. I so wanted to TTC right away but actually I am glad we waited. We actually did not start ttc until 3rd cycle because my cycle was messed up. I think one month maybe I did not ovulate or it was later, I cant remember but I do know it took a bit for my body to go back to normal. Also have 3 months I realized I was mentally in a better place than I was at first. Looking back I am glad I waited.

When we first tried we got pregnant 1 try, the second time it took 8 months including the time I was not able to after DnC. I think it took a bit longer because I was stressing about it too. The last month I was like whatever and got pregnant. We were actually going to the Dr due to me being 40 and then we became pregnant.

I was temping, charting, and using OPKs and fertility monitor. I am glad I waited til I got AF so that way I knew a little more about where I was in my cycle.

Did your Dr tell you when you should ttc again? I recommend going by what he or she says. I am so sorry for your loss, it is not easy. Good luck with what ever you decide.

Hope you do not mind my story, I know i cant answer the questions you were asking but thought I would let you know what happend to me.

carlsonbaby2014 · May 2014

mlal78 said:

You need to follow your drs orders, they are given for a reason and no one here will tell you to go against dr orders.

ETA: Most of the ladies here have been members of ttcal. The rules are not scary. They are there to protect the women of that board. It is a great board full of very supportive women, with a lot of information to share. But please do not bring this question there.

All of this. Please check with your doctor about when it is safe to TTC again and if you re-consider joining TTCAL please read their blog, sticky post, lurk, and get a feel for the sense of community there. You will learn a lot and build amazing friendships, trust me.

kalynn12 · May 2014

What has your doctor recommend? I would follow their recommendation.

After my first loss my doctor told us wait one cycle so we did, we got pregnant that following cycle and suffered another miscarriage. We don't know if it was because my body wasn't ready again or for another reason.

luciddreamer106 · May 2014

I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for not posting this on TTCAL. What did you doctor say? Many will advise waiting at least 1 cycle before TTC again. No one here will tell you to go against doctors orders. Not to be harsh, but how would you feel if you got pregnant again and had another m/c? You should give your body time to heal, it has already gone through a lot.

P.S. A lot of us here are grads from TTCAL. The rules are not "scary," just etiquette guidelines to protect the hearts of other grieving women. Take the time to lurk and get a feel for the board, read the sticky post at the top, read the blog. It's an amazing group of women there.

LittleMsLewis · May 2014

You need to ask your doctor. There are so many factors and reasons that go into the different wait times. Too soon and you could be right back to where you started. If your body isn't ready you could set your trying time back even further. I get wanting to rush to try again, but you need to think with your head and not just your heart.

Eliz77 · May 2014

I am so sorry for your loss and I totally understand the desire to want to try again ASAP. As everyone said, listen to your Dr's recommendations. If you have any questions, ask them. I imagine you will have a follow up soon and that is the perfect time to discuss when to try again.

To share my experience-my 1st loss resulted in a D&C and I was told to wait one normal cycle. I was very impatient and even before the D&C, was only thinking of how long it would be before we could try again. We waited two cycles, got pregnant and had an ectopic. Obviously this is speculation, but the RE I saw said it could be possible my uterus was a "hostile environment" so embryo had implanted elsewhere. He said he would've recommended at least 3 cycles to allow lining to build up following a D&C. When I had an early natural MC, I barely had more than a heavier and a couple days longer, but otherwise normal for me, period, and AF returned 22 days later, my new RE still recommended waiting 2 cycles to allow my body to heal and be ready. This time, I wasn't as impatient or rushed, and I felt more at ease listening to my Dr.

One extra month or two is not long in the bigger scheme of things. I could be the difference for a heathy pregnancy. If your Dr says to wait, I hope you listen.

When you are ready, lurk over on TTC. Read the blog. Get a feel for the place. Post an intro. I'm sure you will realize it is a valuable place for support, to learn a lot and make friends.

Best of luck to you!

RayRay007 · May 2014

Ditto PPs.

In my experience, I waited for one period after my missed m/c to try, got pregnant that cycle but it ended in a CP. I believe it was because my uterus wasn't healthy yet from the miscarriage.

longcat07 · May 2014

you've gotten the best advice there is already.

in my case, when i asked, my doctor told me that with my particular situation, there was no medical reason to wait, it just made it easier to date. he actually gave me very little guidance in general and i switched OBs because of it. we did the NTNP thing and i conceived again right away. my new OB says that he would have advised me to wait one cycle to avoid a couple of specific rare complications to play it safe, but what's done is done and we can only move forward from here. in retrospect, i'm wondering if i'd be less of a basket case if we'd waited, but like my new OB says, what's done is done. please listen to your doctor's advice.

regarding the rules on TTCAL, they're not there to intimidate, but to protect the members. it's structured there to be safe from the heartbreaking crap ladies who have lost babies have to deal with IRL on a daily basis. the ladies there are all wonderful and supportive, and i wasn't there long but i miss them. many of the members here started off there. i'd recommend lurking for a while to get a feel for the culture there and then intro'ing. give support to get support.

[Deleted User] · May 2014

I agree with all previous posts, and I'm so sorry for your loss.

I completely understand your desire not to wait and to ttc right away. I remember feeling the same way after my first loss. I wanted so badly just to replace what I had lost. When I found out I miscarried, the doctor who was in the office at the time (not my doctor), told me I should wait 3 cycles before trying again. When I got to meet with my doc the next day, she advised me I could try again after one cycle. I was so happy she told me not to wait 3, that I did go ahead and try after my first period post-D&C. That ended in a chemical pregnancy. After that CP, my doc gave me the green light again to try right away, but DH and I decided to wait a few months to heal physically and emotionally from back-to-back losses.

So my own personal advice would be to please wait AT LEAST one cycle. I sometimes wish I would've listened to that other doc who suggested waiting 3. I don't know what caused the chemical pregnancy exactly, but it could be that my uterine lining didn't have enough time to rebuild nice and thick after my D&C. Most importantly, please listen to your doctor. I know the idea of waiting is hard, but trust me: having another miscarriage that could have possibly been prevented is so much harder. Good luck to you!

JCM285 · May 2014

I am so sorry for your loss and it is totally natural to feel that way after a miscarriage. I did get pregnant this time right after my last MC without having a period, but I wouldn't recommend it to anyone. We weren't TTC and I wanted a break, but it happened and I'm so anxious all the time about MCing at any time. I think it would have been much better for us to have waited a little longer and be more mentally prepared for this pregnancy. Also, as other PPs have said, be sure to check with your doctor on what is an appropriate wait time. That is very important.

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