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Got dissed for having a csection...

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in August 2014 Moms
My best friend had a baby not too long ago, and naturally I went to the hospital to see her. Her mom and dad were there, who are like a second set of parents to me. When we were about to leave her mom says (looking straight at me) "I don't care what anyone says, having a vaginal birth is way harder than a csection." (I had a csection with my twins due to preeclampsia.)
Luckily someone came to my rescue and said something about having to recover from being cut in half while caring for an infant. BUT that comment really got under my skin!!! I know she was emotionally wired from just helping her daughter labor and being up all night, but there is no reason for anyone to be so judgemental and rude!
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  • kshare18kshare18 member
    I usually am pretty laid back about everything, but that statement is just not okay. I really don't understand people sometimes.
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  • ehpopeehpope member
    I knew you ladies would have the best comments to that situation!
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  • shevaCCshevaCC member
    Yup, totally not appropriate. If she's usually a sweet person, I would maybe give her the benefit of the doubt between sleep deprivation and adrenaline just due to the situation. But her comment was certainly not ok.
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  • aelhuntaelhunt member
    C/S shaming at it's finest. I would much rather not have my baby sliced out of me! But hey- preeclampsia is a bitch!




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  • MandMLeonaMandMLeona member

    Totally inappropriate. 

    Was your friend having a hard time recovering?  Maybe your friend had said something like I don't recall @ehpope being this wiped out after a C-section for TWINS!

    I know I felt absolutely exhausted for almost two weeks with my first.  I was really down on myself.  I'd seen my SILs bouncing around after giving birth.  I'd seen my aunt have an old style C-section and get up and support her baby in the NICU.  In those days, I just couldn't imagine how they did it.

    Maybe she was just in momma bear mode trying to help her daughter feel better and didn't think about what it would cost you.


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  • rockyrollgirlrockyrollgirl member
    She gets a huge eyeroll from me.
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  • audreylaine510audreylaine510 member
    My mom had a C section with my brother due to preeclampsia and was judged really harshly her whole life based on a situation that was out of her control! People have actually told her that she was a failure because she wasn't able to do a natural birth. It makes me so made when people are so judgmental like this. Get over yourselves! 
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  • BabyM82714BabyM82714 member
    That's rude. I personally have no experience.  I do know moms who have gave birth both ways.  I do know some say they personally recovered easier from one or the other.  But it's really each individuals experience.  And C sections typically aren't demanded or wanted, they are most usually medically nessacary for safety of mom and babies, so that lady can shove it!
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  • lizztheolizztheo member
    So rude! I had a natural vaginal birth and it was definitely difficult but I was terrified of a csection! I am high risk this pregnancy and have a good chance of a csection and I'm so scared. It's major surgery AND you have a baby to care for afterward. How is that easier?! A vaginal birth MAY be more work/more difficult for the labor but I imagine that a csection is way harder during the 6-8 week recovery.
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  • Erin0303Erin0303 member
    Some people have never learned how to say appropriate things. That's idiotic what she said and downright rude. I'd have a hard time keeping my mouth shut after hearing something like that...
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  • alphaxi614alphaxi614 member
    Uncalled for! My mom had c-section with me because I was double footling breach and she had one "friend" tell her multiple times that she wasn't a real woman because she didn't give birth. She even asked her once if she would have a second child so she could experience child birth!

    I would have gone off on the lady, at the end if the day you have a healthy baby and that's what matters
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