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I'm considering vinegar on nipples...

BloomingMommaBloomingMomma member
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Hello,

Our toddler is a little over two years old. Bedtime is a huge struggle for me that a few times a week I physically have to leave the house so my husband can put her down. It's sad since I would love bedtime if I were him. Books, cuddles,
Kisses sleep. Sounds nice! Same with baby sitter.

For me, she cries "momma milk!" And tonight she didn't fall asleep until 9:30pm, whereas she falls asleep at 8:20-8:30 for anyone else. One night she went to sleep on her own, with me, but tonight was unbearable. She makes me lay in toddler bed. It hurts since I am pregnant.

I have tired books about sleep showing kids sleeping on own, I've told her milk is all-done, and even told her they hurt, and she'll give a kiss then continue to latch. She is sweet as I can tell her latch is big. She's trying.

Last resort I have is to lie. I have read that "no bite" or vinegar can convince kids to stop. Is it cruel? I can't leave my house every night to have hubby do this, but tonight I can only describe as agonizing. She cried a lot, too, as I needed frequent breaks, so I know stress hormones are pumping in her body, which also affects her sleep the next day.

I'm pretty much done. I'm sort of OK at nap since it's easier to get her to sleep then,for some reason for me. She only nurses a minute. I had a hard time starting to nurse with her when born, so I feel so sad it is ending on a sour note. Anyway. Any advice is appreciated. I'm sort of attachment parenting-style, so this seems wrong to lie to her.
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Re: I'm considering vinegar on nipples...

  • franciscfrancisc member
    edited May 2014
    I had to resort to placing calamansi (equivalent would be lemon in the us). We were down to 3 feeding sessions by then but it was always hard for me to refuse him. He thought it was funny initially, and would say yucky each time he tried to feed.  Over the next few days, he acted a little angry towards me, would hit or throw things at me which he did not do before.  And then he started doing it to other people too (at which point I heard most kids go through a throwing stage, so at least I didn't feel like he was angry at me in particular).  Also around this time, I had to lessen the amount of interaction with him which might have led to his frustration too.  I'm pregnant with our second, and because I was considered high risk, doctor advised me not to carry him, and to try to wean him.  Also, I've had to lessen physical activity, whereas before I used to run and play with him all the time.  It was hard, but at the time, I didn't really have a choice.

    And to answer your question, yes I felt it was a mean thing to do (to apply stuff on my nipples) but it was also necessary. I'm coming off a loss (blighted ovum last Dec), and so I wanted to be extra careful this time around.  I tried to give him extra cuddles instead, whatever I can do to make up for the lessening of strenuous activities.  He got better after about a month. 




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  • HeeHee123HeeHee123 member

    Ahh, mom.... I feel for you.  It is tough making the break from something that you and your daughter have shared for two years. I used to tell my kids that "there was no more milk, it's all gone", but I'll lay and snuggle you for 10 minutes, and then I need to get up.  Maybe if you develop a very consistent bedtime routine reminding your daughter at the beginning and during that "we can't nurse anymore, but we'll get to read a story together" when you get in bed, will help her remember from the beginning that nursing is no longer part of going to sleep for her but you still want to spend time with her in a different way.  The first few night may be tough on both of you, but pushing through each night may give her comfort and security in routine with you.  Best wishes!

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member

    I had to wean off nursing to sleep for naps recently. He would fall asleep nursing then wake up when I put him in the crib and wouldn't go back to sleep. So one day I told him, "We're not nursing before nap anymore." and did the same routine otherwise, reminding him we don't nurse for nap anymore again. I put him in the crib and told him if he lied down I'd pat his back. He was mad and wouldn't lay down, so I turned on the video monitor and said, "OK, let me know when you're ready to lay down and I'll pat your back." and left the room. I went back in after 5 min, then 7, then 7 again, and then he was ready to lay down. (He cried a bit during this time but didn't throw a huge fit.) He finally laid down and let me pat his back and fell asleep. Now he still asks to nurse before nap but I say, "No, we don't nurse before nap anymore." and he's fine. We do our routine and he falls asleep in the crib. It's been like that since the first day I made the change.

    I hope that helps! GL!

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