FTM FTFO!

dawnangela79 · May 2014

I'm beginning to completely freak out! Can I do this? I have three months left, and sometimes I feel like I can't get through one more day! I'm so uncomfortable now, how am I going to get even bigger and even more uncomfortable? I want it to be over and be back to normal, but realize there's no easy way out. I'm totally terrified of labor and delivery, and the recovery, whenever I think about it I totally start to cry. The classes and the books have only made me more terrified. And then there's a baby to take care of after all of that! Which I have wanted for so long, we both have! We tried for a few years to get pregnant and could not be happier or more excited about it. I worry, what if the baby doesn't like me? Or we don't have everything we need? So basically I'm a FTM and I'm Freaking The F#ck Out! A hormonal freak out, so all logic has left the building!

shaylagirl · May 2014

"This too shall pass."

Promise.

I think that Mother Nature instilled in our primitive little brains this ability to forget (or at least diminish some of) the pain, all of the physical hurt and healing time required in order that we continue to procreate and make more babies.

You'll forget it all once you've got that LO in your arms. And all of those good moments wash over you; the first smile, the first laugh...and OH MY GOODNESS the first time those little fingers wrap around yours and clutch on. All of these moments of fear, concern, worry...they'll become distant memories as you make new ones.

Totally okay to FTFO though. This is the best place TO have your freak-outs. Because, trust me...this group understands. But, you already know that.

Raclla · May 2014

STM and I still have those moments where I don't think I can do it again. Small mini panic attacks are common.

After baby is here those small mini panic attacks will continue for different reasons. I guess that's just what being a parent is.

kiley820 · May 2014

Same boat. I have a high tolerance for pain but upon finding out I was pregnant I burst into tears due to my fear of L&D. (Pathetic and irrational, I know!) At times I feel like, I got this, I can do this. And other times, I'm freaking the F out! The other stuff I haven't really worried about. I think it's mostly fear of the unknown. I just keep thinking and telling myself, millions of other women have given birth. I'm not the first and won't be the last. We will all be ok!

Rannndi · May 2014

I'm definitely FTFO! I hit walls of extreme pain and question how I'll make it the next couple months. Then today, I measure at 36 weeks! Doctors say if I don't get a back brace, my hips could break! THEN when I think about getting through, I FTFO about delivering two! *sigh*
Then when I think I can do that, I FTFO about bringing two home! *bigger sigh*

MC03 · May 2014

I'm a STM but would still like to join the FTFO party. How in the hell am I going to manage two? We finally have a good routine and system with DD, and now we are going to screw it all up. And I look at her and feel bad because she won't be my one and only baby anymore. As much as I already love this baby and can't wait to hold her, I also freak out at least 50% of the day when I think about the realities. So I try not to think about it. Denial, that's how we make it through.

haliebabyx3 · May 2014

I think it's normal. Every time I feel him kick I feel a little weird. I know it sounds weird and I should feel so happy but there is a little bit of freak out and worry there. My biggest worry is if I'm actually ready for it all. H and I talked about it before trying to get pregnant and agreed we were both ready. Now that I am pregnant, I have doubt that im not ready for all this and I hate that.

I'm going to register now and I should feel excited but I'm sort of freaking out. I haven't had a freak out about L&D, but I know it's coming.

ungraceful13 · May 2014

It will get harder but it is worth it and goes relatively fast. Labor will go by faster than you think and in a year you wont even really remember. Taking care of a child is hard but it gets easier and becomes so much fun. You don't have everything you need. When you figure out you need something you just go buy it even if it is in the middle of the night.

lbonga1 · May 2014

When I found out I was pregnant with DD (unplanned and taking a relationship break), I felt completely lost. As time went on and BF (now FI) and I got back together, things got better. Then it got close to D-day, and the nerves shot up again. When the contractions started I was all "let's do this!" When my OB broke my waters at the hospital, and the contractions piled on top of each other, I was in more pain than I'd ever experienced. I have a high pain tolerance, and FI just looked lost because he'd never seen me in that much pain. Then I got an epidural and took a nap. Then DD came. Then the mini panic attack when it was time to go home and take care of her on our own. And the up and down roller coaster continues. It's ok to be afraid/nervous/happy/sad/whatever. There's going to be an up to every down, and there will be an answer for everything. Will baby love you? Of course! Do you have everything you need? Maybe not, but stores will still be around when baby gets here.

shaylagirl · May 2014

AshleyA032109 said:

DH's response is always "you wanted this." Yes, yes I do jerk. But I'm still allowed to freak out.

DH says this ALL the time when I mention that I'm in pain, or can't sleep, or, whatever my current issue is.

And it makes me want to stabbity him.

Because, while I agreed, and while I knew the potential changes to my body would be coming, it doesn't make it easier in the moment; because I'm focused on the long-term goal, not my short-term/current discomfort. I'm allowed to freak out and be concerned about this child. That's what parents DO!! We worry about things involving our children. Then couple that with the worry over coming through things ourselves, the stress doubles. Sheesh.

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