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Sex drive through the roof...

kaitlynms2014kaitlynms2014 member
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I'm 22 weeks along and my sex drive is insane. The only problem is that my husbands...is not. It used to be..and then he left for some military training in California for a month and now it's not. Before he left, mine was pretty low and we were only having sex 2 or 3 times a week. Now that he's home, we've had sex twice since May 8th. It's really kind of depressing. I've talked to him about it and he says he just isn't in the mood. That it has nothing to do with me or the baby. He isn't worried about hurting the baby while we're having sex. He said he just doesn't want to have sex. He doesn't know why and he feels bad that he can't please me in that way. We've talked about possibly trying anal and then later on I was just like "No that was just my hormones" but I'm back to kind of considering it. My question is, how do I go about telling him I want to and then what is it like? Another question is what are things I can do to turn him on. I used to just wear sexy bra and panties...but they don't look so hot with the baby belly. He says that there are things I can do, but I have to find them out on my own. -.-

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  • kaitlynms2014kaitlynms2014 member
    It's called asking for advice. If you think this is weird, then don't read it. Simple as that.

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    If you're not going to be helpful, then why comment?

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    I guess I am just trying to figure out if anyone else has had a similar situation. I don't think it's odd because I'm a very open person. I don't see sex as a taboo topic, even though a lot of people do. I know the things that turn him on and such, I just don't know how to catch his eye when I don't personally feel attractive. When it comes to the other, it's not something I have ever done before so I'm kind of like a girl asking her friends for advice. I don't really have people I call "friends" so I go to the internet when I need advice.  

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  • greeneyed_bridegreeneyed_bride member
    kaitlynms2014 said:
    I'm 22 weeks along and my sex drive is insane. The only problem is that my husbands...is not. It used to be..and then he left for some military training in California for a month and now it's not. Before he left, mine was pretty low and we were only having sex 2 or 3 times a week. Now that he's home, we've had sex twice since May 8th. It's really kind of depressing. I've talked to him about it and he says he just isn't in the mood. That it has nothing to do with me or the baby. He isn't worried about hurting the baby while we're having sex. He said he just doesn't want to have sex. He doesn't know why and he feels bad that he can't please me in that way. We've talked about possibly trying anal and then later on I was just like "No that was just my hormones" but I'm back to kind of considering it. My question is, how do I go about telling him I want to and then what is it like? Another question is what are things I can do to turn him on. I used to just wear sexy bra and panties...but they don't look so hot with the baby belly. He says that there are things I can do, but I have to find them out on my own. -.-
    This last sentence strikes me as odd. So there are things that would turn him on, and he knows what these things are, but he won't tell you?? That sounds like more of a communication issue than a sex issue.

    As for how to "go about" telling him that you want to have anal - just tell him. He's your husband. You're carrying his baby. I'm genuinely not sure why you would be more comfortable asking strangers about it than asking him, especially since you're a "very open person" who doesn't "see sex as a taboo topic." 

    What anal is like depends on you. Some women enjoy it, and some women do not. Use lots of lube and take it slowly.
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  • peanutbuttervibespeanutbuttervibes member
    Having sex 2 or 3 times a week is not a low sex drive. Also, if you have had sex twice since May 8th, that's still once a week.... I wouldn't be too concerned, it's pretty common to slow down in the bedroom during pregnancy.
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  • kaitlynms2014kaitlynms2014 member
    For two people who used to 2 or 3 times A DAY, it's low.

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