People and their comments

phaarealwed · May 2014

I know part of my rage is hormonal but I'm sick of people at work pointing out every single day how pregnant or tired or swollen or out of breath I look. I don't even get a good morning or a hello anymore. It's always " wow you look so tired today" " wow you must be due soon" " are there two babies in there?" I know most people mean well and that some just don't know how to talk to pregnant women as if we were no longer normal humans, but I'm getting very annoyed lately and cannot wait to be left alone.... The other thing is the people who see me coming and immediately start to waddle like penguins imitating me, isn't that rude??? Sorry had to rant, otherwise I may say something mean at work to one of these people.

MandMLeona · May 2014

They are sooo rude.

In my life I'm ticked about the nice comments, heaven help the person who actually has something rude to say. I was called cute yesterday and wanted to take their head off. I'll be 40 this year...way too old for cute. I'm feeling huge...I was covered in food my toddler smeared all over me and you call me cute! Yeah, hormonal much?

phaarealwed · May 2014

MandMLeona said:

They are sooo rude.
In my life I'm ticked about the nice comments, heaven help the person who actually has something rude to say. I was called cute yesterday and wanted to take their head off. I'll be 40 this year...way too old for cute. I'm feeling huge...I was covered in food my toddler smeared all over me and you call me cute! Yeah, hormonal much?

Lol yeah the nice comments make me mad too, I just want to be treated like a normal person again. I dot know why people have to be so awkward with a pregnant women as if they have never seen one before.

Familyhugs922 · May 2014

I hear ya. This week I heard, "Wow, you are really looking pregnant now! Before I was thinking, 'Is she pregnant, I can't tell' "

My pregnant crabby response was, "Yep, I just looked fat before!"

Maybe next time you won't say anything.....GRRR!

marathonmommy82 · May 2014

"You're getting bigger!"

No shit. That's how it works

Ktorrisi · May 2014

People sure are something else...

jlynn62511 · May 2014

One of my students told me in the middle of reviewing for their test that I looked like I'm going to pop today. Then the class agreed because my belly button sticks out a little. Ugh...can't wait for summer break!

MamaBovs · May 2014

Someone told me I looked like a pregnant 1950s housewife today. I think it was supposed to be a compliment. Hmmm....

kiley820 · May 2014

Honestly, I thought it was just me. Thrn again, maybe it is because ALL the comments piss me off

The other day when I saw my aunt she would not stop touching my belly (I have made it clear how much I don't like it, but try to tolerate it because they are family and I know they are just excited for me) Then she continued to go on and on about the baby and my pregnancy and how I "don't walk like a pregnant woman" WTF does that even mean?! It just annoyed me that anytime I would try to talk about anything else she would brush it off and go back to talking about the baby. Now, please don't get me wrong. I'm extremely happy and excited about my baby too but I'm still a freaking person. With a life that involves things other than me being pregnant. Am I crazy or anyone else feel this way?!

tamarar5 · May 2014

Yep. I got the "you must be due any day now" comment today. Them the eyes falling out of sockets when I said not for 12 more weeks. It's going to be a long summer.

cblakin · May 2014

here everyone says something along the lines of "oh, man it's going to be a long hot summer for you!" i can't take it anymore. yesterday my assistant nurse manager said that to me and i just straight up asked him why he said shit like that, because i'm already pregnant and i'm tired of hearing how horrible my life will be. he looked like i slapped him and then said something along the lines of "..oh yeah i forgot you grew up in texas I bet oregon summers are nothing." and ran off

i felt bad afterwards but seriously. don't tell me how i will swell like a sausage in a couple months.

mikescutie7 · May 2014

Someone told me I didn't look pregnant, I just looked like I gained weight. Ummm that's NOT a compliment

kshare18 · May 2014

This morning I actually tried. I did my hair, make up, and put on a cute dress. One of my coworkers walked in and told me good morning. I smiled and said good morning back. He looked at me and said, "Wow, is it really that miserable to be you?" All I could say was, "just walk away". C'mon man, WTAF?? I SMILED.

HalseytoBe · May 2014

jlynn62511 said:

One of my students told me in the middle of reviewing for their test that I looked like I'm going to pop today. Then the class agreed because my belly button sticks out a little. Ugh...can't wait for summer break!

This same thing happened to me this week! I'm so eager to be on summer break so I don't have to tolerate their incessant comments and questions about my pregnancy! Nosy much?! I teach high schoolers, so they have no filter.

shaylagirl · May 2014

Sunday was the first time I'd seen DH's grandma since early this year.

She looks at me, touches my belly, and asks if I'm carrying triplets. When I blinked, said "What?", she asked it again. In all seriousness. When I told her no, she asked if it was "Twins."

"No, Nanny, there's just ONE in there."

Then after everyone left our house (this was during an unwanted party), I cried. Up until that moment, I honestly thought I wasn't large.

I forgive her because she's got some dementia and is in her 80's, but gawddamnit woman...way to make me feel shit-tastic about myself.

herecomesthesun · May 2014

brlocklear said:

In the last two weeks I've had all sorts of people come up to me at church and say, "I didn't know you were expecting!" Seriously? I've been showing for a good 10 weeks now. I guess they thought I was just gaining weight...in the shape of a basketball...

Ha! This, though I think most people aren't paying attention enough to realize there has been such a change. Especially those at church that I might see once a week.

At first, some were telling me I was "really getting big". Now, they have switched to, "You are so tiny." I'm not sure when that point was that this changed because as far as I can see, it's been a gradual getting bigger every 2 weeks or so.

bcbuzzafsu · May 2014

cblakin said:

here everyone says something along the lines of "oh, man it's going to be a long hot summer for you!" i can't take it anymore. yesterday my assistant nurse manager said that to me and i just straight up asked him why he said shit like that, because i'm already pregnant and i'm tired of hearing how horrible my life will be. he looked like i slapped him and then said something along the lines of "..oh yeah i forgot you grew up in texas I bet oregon summers are nothing." and ran off

i felt bad afterwards but seriously. don't tell me how i will swell like a sausage in a couple months.

I get this too. I don't know where they think I will be though, my office is air conditioned as is my house and car. Where am I going to be hot?

dawnangela79 · May 2014

Why do strangers feel the need to say anything?!?! To go out of their way to say anything at all!

Sunday at the beach this lady walks over to me and asks how far along I am, I tell her we are due in August, and she says 'wow you're so big! It's going to be a hot summer for you!' We live right across from this particular beach and are regulars, so was this lady. She told me she's been watching me get bigger and wanted to say hi and give us her best. Weird! I have a stranger stalking the growth of my belly.

The man in front of me at Starbucks looked at me and said "my wife told me the only appropriate thing to say is you look beautiful, and you do look beautiful." I thought he has a smart wife! And I appreciated the compliment. But then I thought, why say anything at all!

The worst though has to be when a close friend tells you how big your getting! My friend told me that the other day 'you're getting so big' I wanted to slap her! We normally work out and run together, I've cut back on my runs lately because it's become so uncomfortable. So when my workout buddy tells me I'm getting SO big I wanted to cry a little. Why can't strangers keep their mouth shut and friends just say nice things?

waitingformay · May 2014

I hate the comparisons with other pregnant women. "You are bigger than so and so", etc. you would never compare the body types of 2 non pregnant women so why is it ok now?

pmpkn219 · May 2014

Incredibly rude! I would have to refrain from saying snarky things back at them. even if you do LOOK tired/swollen, can't they not come up with something else to say?

AngieGrace07 · May 2014

I agree with all of the above! I swear the same people ask me how I'm feeling every. single. day. Seriously?! I just want to respond with "same as yesterday". I don't want to have to complain (out loud) about being tired, lazy, back pain, etc every day. I finally started answering with "fine". And now what do I get? "Oh you make it seem like a breeze! You don't have anything negative to say!" How about you just stop asking me!!

AngieGrace07 · May 2014

LOL my comment and the first half of your comment are similiar!

forevermyfenix · May 2014

kiley820 said:

Honestly, I thought it was just me. Thrn again, maybe it is because ALL the comments piss me off The other day when I saw my aunt she would not stop touching my belly (I have made it clear how much I don't like it, but try to tolerate it because they are family and I know they are just excited for me) Then she continued to go on and on about the baby and my pregnancy and how I "don't walk like a pregnant woman" WTF does that even mean?! It just annoyed me that anytime I would try to talk about anything else she would brush it off and go back to talking about the baby. Now, please don't get me wrong. I'm extremely happy and excited about my baby too but I'm still a freaking person. With a life that involves things other than me being pregnant. Am I crazy or anyone else feel this way?!

^^^THIS!^^^

I can't even talk to my mother right now because of this. and my siblings are getting really annoyed that they can't even talk to her without her bringing it up and dominating their conversations with it.

marathonmommy82 · May 2014

If you choose to talk to a pregnant woman about her pregnancy, the following are acceptable:

1. You look great!

2. You are all belly!

3. You don't even look pregnant from behind!

jlynn62511 · May 2014

HalseytoBe said:

jlynn62511 said:

One of my students told me in the middle of reviewing for their test that I looked like I'm going to pop today. Then the class agreed because my belly button sticks out a little. Ugh...can't wait for summer break!

This same thing happened to me this week! I'm so eager to be on summer break so I don't have to tolerate their incessant comments and questions about my pregnancy! Nosy much?! I teach high schoolers, so they have no filter.

I teach high school also! The end of the year is so crazy and they keep blaming my so called moodiness on the baby. 11 more days!

rainbowwillow · May 2014

Today I heard, " You have gray hairs already & the baby isn't even born yet."
I was so irritated!

BlckRoses · May 2014

I had a coworker tell me today that I shouldn't be wearing heels and then tells me this involved story about his sister and all her foot problems. I told him that if I was allowed to wear flip flops everyday I would, but my wedges are more comfortable than my flats that make my feet sweat.

HeatherHam10 · May 2014

I get so annoyed too! Its all people talk about to me and they are always commenting. They always like to tell me I waddle or I shouldnt drink so much coffee or how I must be hungry because Im pregnant. Literally every time there is food in the lounge they make a fuss about me getting it.

phaarealwed · May 2014

cblakin said:

here everyone says something along the lines of "oh, man it's going to be a long hot summer for you!" i can't take it anymore. yesterday my assistant nurse manager said that to me and i just straight up asked him why he said shit like that, because i'm already pregnant and i'm tired of hearing how horrible my life will be. he looked like i slapped him and then said something along the lines of "..oh yeah i forgot you grew up in texas I bet oregon summers are nothing." and ran off

i felt bad afterwards but seriously. don't tell me how i will swell like a sausage in a couple months.

Omg yes!! I get the "wait, it's only going to get worse" all the time like thanks for the encouragement

Russiandea12 · May 2014

Agreed. I am sick of being told how huge I am by my co-workers. I still have 12 weeks left to go!

PinUpMommy · May 2014

At least 4 out of the 5 days I work I hear:

When are you due? You look like you're ready to pop!
Poor thing you look so tired! (DUH! I WORK 10 HOUR DAYS PLUS 2 HOURS DRIVE TIME!)
You're not afraid of losing your job? (UM, NO! I'M A CITY EMPLOYEE JUST LIKE YOU!)
Your'e really starting to show! You used to be so thin. (-_-)
Oh you're having a boy? Good luck, boys are hard to raise. (YOU DONT HAVE KIDS, YOUR ARGUMENT IS INVALID.)

I used to laugh off the questions and remarks... but seriously... sometimes I just want to yell LEAVE ME ALONE! Uber bitch mode -> ACTIVATED!

CrystalsBaby123 · May 2014

waitingformay said:
I hate the comparisons with other pregnant women. "You are bigger than so and so", etc. you would never compare the body types of 2 non pregnant women so why is it ok now?

OH yes. Gotta love this. I get compared to Snooki because were both short. Only she's anorexic

notacleverusername · May 2014

My coworkers are total jackasses. One girl on my team tells me EVERYDAY how big I'm getting. EVERY SINGLE DAY. I have no idea how to respond without causing an issue because it bugs so much but say Oh yah? And when I just glare at her because sometimes I just can't even pretend- she then proceeds to ask what's wrong????!!!! Am I in a bad mood?! She's just one of those, you want to tell to shut up. My nurse practitioner is a misogynist to begin with and so I purposely didn't tell him I was pregnant for nearly 5 months and I swear the first day he knew he claimed I was being hormonal. Interesting that you failed to mention I was hormonal for 5 months, the day you find out I'm pregnant suddenly I'm raging with hormones?! I responded by saying "Ed, you're the most hormonal person I've ever met" and then rolled my eyes. Coworkers are the worst. Second only to annoying family members and then idiot strangers. Haha! Everyone stop talking to us!

phaarealwed · May 2014

I have reached the point where I no longer care to be nice. I will gladly be the bitch from now on. I am 30 weeks, I am swollen, I am tired, I am HUNGRY, and I look like I am about to pop, and anyone who needs to point it out to me is going to get a nasty comment back. Sorry no longer Sorry.

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