Moms of infants, WWYD

jf198400 · May 2014

Ok so it's been awhile since I've had a newborn and I don't know what to do in this situation. I just got an email for presale tickets for Disney on Ice: Frozen. We went the past 2 yrs and the kids Loved it! I know they would like to go again. I will have a 4-5 week old baby when the show comes to town. Would you:
1. Take the baby to the show and just be prepared to discretely nurse in public
2. Leave baby at home with Grandmom (would involve being gone about 5hrs between the show and travel time and I plan to EBF)
3. Send the kids with DH, and stay home with baby
4. Don't make a decision, and hope you can get tickets at the last minute

CarrieB. · May 2014

Have your husband take the kids.

It's really hard to know what your baby will be like. My DD1 was really chill and I could have possibly left her with a baby sitter at 5 weeks, but DD2 had colic and we basically didn't leave the house for the first 6 weeks at all and even at 6 months she will scream like she is being stolen when I leave her with a babysitter.

Plus at 4-5 weeks, you are still recovering and probably not sleeping and a 5 hour trip could be really tiring.

jlaOK · May 2014

I would leave the baby with grandma. Disclaimer that I had easy recoveries with both my kids and was able to pump well early on. I'd just plan to pump in the car before/after the show.

Back up would be to get a ticket for 1 parent to go and if you feel up to it go w/o DH and if not send DH.

TheBorg7of9 · May 2014

I would take the baby and openly nurse in public.

Pips09 · May 2014

I'd send the kids with your H and stay home with the baby.

dashofreality · May 2014

I would probably sit it out. I know it is hard when they will be so excited, but I think it would be less stressful in the end. NIP is no biggie to me, but I would be concerned about how loud it would be for an infant. Also, I think it would be nice to have 5 hours with just the new baby to relax while the other kids were super excited to not have mom's attention. And you could maybe even nap:)

BTW this immediately made me go check the schedule because my DD would love this. They aren't coming near our town until DH is gone though, so I'm not sure what I will do.

litzo27 · May 2014

I would send DH. DD was born in the height of flu and pertussis season so I preferred to skip big gatherings as much as possible when she was that tiny. And it's a great dad bonding opportunity.

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sweetsunnyc · May 2014

I would stay home with baby and have grandma/DH take the kids. When DD2 was about 4-5 weeks, we had tickets to take DD1 to a children's production of The Christmas story. My mom ended up taking DD1 and they had a great time. Even though baby was very, very chill, I thought it would be better for my mom to take my older one just in case baby had a meltdown or something

jf198400 · May 2014

Thanks for all the different perspectives. I don't mind the NIP, but hadn't thought about the noise or it being flu season. I probably should keep baby home. I think both grandmas will want to go with DH and the kids.

mexicolombiana · May 2014

SweetSouthernMomma08 said:

I'd go and take the kids as a family. But, i'm VERY lax on the whole nb in public thing....B went to SAMs when he was like 2 days old.....Life goes on. I had a dog to feed who needed food. B went to church at 1 week old. As long as you keep people out of LO face...I see no reason not to go as a whole family. If you babywear, LO will warmer and away from inquiring eyes/fingers/crazy strangers who touch LO...

I would probably take the baby, wear him/her and BF and snuggle during the show. A 5 week old will probably just sleep through it. BUT I had good babies and most of the time when we went out with them as tiny babies they just slept or nursed.

I wouldn't want to pump enough for 5 hours at 5 weeks.

bethughknee · May 2014

I'm a home body and DD has been high needs since the second she was born so I would send H but I know I'm a sissy when it comes to taking her out in public. Sometimes I so want to be the mom who just goes about life attending things like it's just that easy. NIP has never bothered me either, but DD was blessed with a good latch. Who knows what can happen with that, from kid to kid.

Why can't we just know what LOs will be like BEFORE they're born? There are plans to be made! Sorry you have to miss Frozen.

jf198400 · May 2014

I felt so confident with baby2, took him everywhere with DD, so as a third time mom I'm feeling really laid back. Both my kids were really easy. I'm probably taking for granted that #3 will be just as chill. I certainly hope this baby is good b/c im going to be on my own with 3 kids and don't want to be home bound.

Mustardseed2007 · May 2014

I would have DH take the other kids. At 5 weeks I didn't really want to take the baby out, and you don't know where you will be with nursing or really anything.

bethughknee · May 2014

If both Gmas would go with YH, can you just ask your mom if she can be a pinch hitter? See how things are going a week or so out from the event and if you want to go, GO! If you aren't feeling it, she can go.

Sorry if I am mixing something up, it just seemed like you would have enough tickets to maybe make a game time decision?

Seriously, could I fit anymore sports metaphors in there?!

jf198400 · May 2014

bethughknee said:
If both Gmas would go with YH, can you just ask your mom if she can be a pinch hitter? See how things are going a week or so out from the event and if you want to go, GO! If you aren't feeling it, she can go.

Sorry if I am mixing something up, it just seemed like you would have enough tickets to maybe make a game time decision?

Seriously, could I fit anymore sports metaphors in there?!

I can definitely do this. I might even get myself a ticket and if I don't go then one of the grandpas will go or DHs sister.

bethughknee · May 2014

jf198400 said:

If both Gmas would go with YH, can you just ask your mom if she can be a pinch hitter? See how things are going a week or so out from the event and if you want to go, GO! If you aren't feeling it, she can go.

Sorry if I am mixing something up, it just seemed like you would have enough tickets to maybe make a game time decision?

Seriously, could I fit anymore sports metaphors in there?!
I can definitely do this. I might even get myself a ticket and if I don't go then one of the grandpas will go or DHs sister.

EVERYONE WINS.

VegasGal1978 · May 2014

I would have hubby take the kids.

I was pretty easy going about taking LO out as a newborn, but wouldn't have felt comfortable at an event that size. And I wasn't ready to leave LO at 4-5 weeks.

ss+el · May 2014

bethughknee said:

jf198400 said:

If both Gmas would go with YH, can you just ask your mom if she can be a pinch hitter? See how things are going a week or so out from the event and if you want to go, GO! If you aren't feeling it, she can go.

Sorry if I am mixing something up, it just seemed like you would have enough tickets to maybe make a game time decision?

Seriously, could I fit anymore sports metaphors in there?!
I can definitely do this. I might even get myself a ticket and if I don't go then one of the grandpas will go or DHs sister.

EVERYONE WINS.

This is what I would do, too. We declined a wedding invitation and a concert (unrelated to each other) for a few weeks after DS was due and when the events came, I realized I could have handled going to either one.

Katelobster · May 2014

I didn't have a good baby, so my response is stay home.

My colicky newborn had a regularly scheduled 3 hour cry session every evening around that time. I couldn't imagine taking her to something like that. Andplusalso fussiness tends to hit it's peak around 6 weeks- if you do end up with a fussy baby, it could be a nightmare.

rockychryslerb2010 · May 2014

DH and I just had the same discussion last night. Our finalized plan was to get tickets for two adults and E. New baby will be around 4 weeks when it is by us. Our plan was that either we all go, or DH takes E with one of our moms.

jf198400 · May 2014

PrivacyWanted said:
Can i just say I am super jealous of all of you who are getting this show coming near you. It's not going to be anywhere near us and I know DD would love it

If you feel like spending Christmas in Philly, I've got an aerobed, you're welcome to visit

jf198400 · May 2014

PrivacyWanted said:

jf198400 said:

Can i just say I am super jealous of all of you who are getting this show coming near you. It's not going to be anywhere near us and I know DD would love it
If you feel like spending Christmas in Philly, I've got an aerobed, you're welcome to visit

I'm afraid I'd freeze to death getting off the plane

Only if it's another polar vortex winter. December is usually a lovely 32 degrees

DiveFrog · May 2014

This totally would not have worked for me. The NIP no big deal, but there is no way I would have wanted to be out in public with DD when she was that little for such a long time. Sounds like a nightmare personally. She would have done great for the evening of the show, but I would have paid for it for the next 3 days with her "recovery"

BUT DD was evicted due to pre-e 5 weeks early and was just an extremely high needs baby.

I think your current plan is a great idea. It gives you the option to delay the decision until you can make a more educated decision.

Maybride2 · May 2014

While NIP wasn't a big deal to me as my babies got older, at 4 weeks we were still messy and unpredictable, nursing required lots of pillows and burp cloths and usually a change of clothes for them and new shirt for me. I was ok making quick trips out at that time, but no way would I (or they) have been able to handle being out in public for that long.

Reilly626 · May 2014

I'd leave the baby with grandma or send the older kids with hubby.

aiden0621 · May 2014

My mother and I are very close and I trust her completely. She baby sat my first as an infant and she is the only person I could imagine leaving my newborn with other than DH.

That being said, I also don't think the kids would hate you if you skipped the trip, of if you are comfortable breast feeding in public, GO FOR IT!

Curls218 · May 2014

I'd buy the tix now and then do option 2 or 3, depending on how nursing is going. I left my 6 week old home with DH for a 6 hour period to go to my BFF's baby shower. I had been pumping and knew we had enough in the freezer for me to go (though I did have to pump halfway through the shower). I wouldn't bring a one month old to the show.

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