my daughter is now clingy...

Re: my daughter is now clingy...

• mamatohne member

  May 2014

  My son has also been very clingy. I have had a lot of people say it's the age. But so clingy!!!

  
  

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• MommaKb710 member

  May 2014

  How old is your DD? My son is going to be 3 at the end of July and is totally going through a daddy phase. Everything is "where mine daddy at?, me need mine daddy., call mine daddy please." While it started off cute it's starting to DRIVE. ME. CRAZY!!!
  
  I'm thinking it's just the age though. Just remind her where your SO is and that he'll be home later. Eventually she'll learn that he always comes back.

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• thedjinn88 member

  May 2014

  She turned 5 last month. He adjusts tree's her before he leaves that he will be back before dinner. She is fine while he is gone, it's that initial try on getting him not to leave. Then he gets the biggest hug when he gets home. I'm a stay at home mom so she has never really been that clingy with me lol 

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• MommaKb710 member

  May 2014

  SAHM here too. Since she is old enough to understand her biological father bailing on her I'm sure it has to do with that. I grew up like that only it was my mom who always bailed. Certainly took a toll on me but having a constant mother figure in my life (the greatest step mom ever) I found security in her. Sounds like your SO is doing what he can to comfort her. His consistency will help alleviate her feelings soon enough. Maybe he can even make a plan with her to do something with just them two over the weekend. Have him announce this plan to her a few days prior. So when he actually follows through she can see that he is always there for her and will not bail like bio dad did.

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• thedjinn88 member

  May 2014

  They actually have father daughter time once a week, it usually is the hot tub, since that is what they ask for. They are going to go to a movie soon so I can get some relax time. He is an amazing father, I'm just afraid her bio father is going to ruin her security of what we have since he owns tho move closer and is optimizing time to her. 

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• minniemom112 member

  May 2014

  DS and DH have been the same way. He's not his biological father, but DS (also 5) says he's his son too. They spend so much more time together now, like they gravitate towards each other.
  I think both things affect them. The knowing someone else is on the way might be scary for them in some way since our SO's have been the constants in their lives (my ex comes and goes as well).
  The other day DH and I were talking about the baby and DS walked in and said "but I'M your son". It was clearly directed to DH, not me. I always try to tell him what a great big brother he's going to be and make him feel included. DH has stopped calling him his stepson and just calls him his son and even though I'm sure he doesn't know the difference, it makes my son happy and he goes back and forth calling him his dad and stepdad.
  I think it's a security thing. At 5 years old they're old enough to understand if we reassure them that the baby will not change their relationship with their dads a little talk every now and then might ease the anxiety when your SO leaves for work. Good luck!

  
  

  
  

  

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