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irrational fears....

bkcgrahambkcgraham member
in August 2014 Moms
So I constantly get stuck in this loop that something will be wrong with the baby - genetic disorder, autism, etc.  I know a big part of it is because DH never wanted a second child and is still not happy with pregnancy.  I am also 90% sure that if there is a significant problem with the baby our marriage would not survive it.  So I constantly get stuck in this loop and freak out, can't talk to husband about it because that will not go over well and just end up even more freaked out.  Not much anyone can do to help but wanted to vent to someone. 
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  • lookame3639lookame3639 member
    He might not be happy but he did help create it. You didn't make the baby by yourself. Anyway once he sees his child he may change his tune
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  • kshare18kshare18 member
    Man, that is a really tough situation. Your H is the one person you are suppose to have to be your rock and support system, when you can't rely on them for whatever reason, it makes everything so much harder. I am sorry.
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  • ASecretChordASecretChord member
    Freaking out over hypotheticals is so me! I've learned the hard way not to worry about things until you have an actual diagnosis or cause.

    One way I cope: Google birth photographers and check out their portfolios. Think, that's going to be me in three months!!! Smile.
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  • MandMLeonaMandMLeona member

    Hugs!  I freak out like this, too.  The unknown can be so scary.  I can't talk to my DH because he cuts me off.  He thinks that thinking about or speaking about things will make them happen.  I try to explain that not talking about things doesn't change my feelings. <sigh>

    I fall back on my old stand by...day tight compartments.  When I get overwhelmed I limit the things I'm allowed to think about to things I can do something about today.  Sometimes I have to go to smaller compartments...this hour, this minute...whatever works to focus me back on the things that are in my control.

    Once I'm focused on what I do something about I feel much better.  I hope you can find a technique that works for you.

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