Mother's intuition

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SuperTinkerham · May 2014

I am not sure what this baby's personality will be like. I just hope I'm there to enjoy watching it develop.

seells · May 2014

I knew DD would be feisty. She comes from a long line of women who don't take crap. (On both sides) So whether it's by nuture or nature I knew I would have an independent little thing on my hands. And I do.

I go back and forth with this baby. I don't think she will be as...opinionated as her sister. But time will tell.

bullybutt · May 2014

Whaaa?? Too deep, man!

runrinserepeat · May 2014

I think DD has a lot of the same personality traits DH and I have, which I suppose isn't really all that shocking. But a lot of her personality has surprised me. I really had no clue before she came along, and I have no clue what to expect with this next one.

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bullybutt · May 2014

LiteraChick said:

bullybutt said:

Whaaa?? Too deep, man!
My bad. Resume your talk about food and mancandy :-D

LOL, I just stuffed my face and can't process such things. DS blows my mind every.single.day with his brilliant mind and physical development. He has always seemed to be "ahead of the curve" compared to other kids. (Not that that means anything). I see traits of both his father and I, but I think he is made up of a WHOLE lot of me personality wise.

beff12 · May 2014

Interesting thoughts! I'm a FTM too, but when I think about little girl's personality, I just figure it'll be a combination of my personality and DH's. We're both very laid back and chill, and it seems logical that LO would pick up on that from us. It'll be interesting to see if that's true though! I know it wouldn't be the first time a firecracker was born to two chill parents if she does turn out that way.

shortstack930 · May 2014

I don't have any intuition about her personality, but the night before my 20 weeks sono I had a dream that the doctor told me I was having a girl and then the next day it came true. Had the same kind of dream the night before my best friend found out the sex of her baby--I dreamt that I called her asking how her daughter was doing. Could just be a coincidence though, after all it is only a 50/50 chance!

iris427 · May 2014

Well, I was completely surprised by pretty much everything about my first child's personality, and I was 100% convinced I was having a girl this time until we saw a very clear set of boy parts on the ultrasound so...no, I don't believe in mother's intuition. Or at least I certainly don't have it.

And idk, the idea that your baby will be sweeter than other children does sound kind of like FTM starry-eyedness.

TallMomma29 · May 2014

I have a feeling that this LO will be very feisty/stubborn and independent. Time will tell I guess!

ETA: I think "intuition" can definitely be a real thing but I don't think everyone necessarily has it. Since I'm a FTM I have no idea whether I'm experiencing intuition or not (i.e. I thought LO was a girl even when told LO was a boy, and it turned out she was a girl, but that could have just been a coincidence. I've had a strong feeling LO is going to be an early bird this whole time... so we'll see if that is intuition or just a guess!)

katnipeverclean · May 2014

Ummm I never got a deep sense that I knew her personality before she was born. I guess in my earth mom moments I decided I would let her be what she would be. I'm not saying that you are planning on forcing something on your babe. I'm saying that for me part of letting her be, was to have no preconceived notions. IDK if that even makes sense. And honestly even if I had preconceptions they would have been bombed back to the stone age when she was born and immediately showed us she was her own stubborn little person. Homegirl came out stubborn and already holding her head up.

So far Evie is a lot like me. She loves rules, schedules and plans. She doesn't care for change and is grounded in family. She's a people pleaser with type A tendencies, but she can also go with the flow. She's fiercely independent and very feisty with a bossy streak a mile wide. The joke is that she looks like DH and acts like me.

I often wonder if this LO will look like me and act like DH. I'll be interested to find out for both you and for me if we are right.

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kwh33ls · May 2014

I definitely have a sense of her already. I've sort of kept it to myself, because people tend to blow off FTM feelings in general, let alone those that are a little more nebulous. I think she's a bit stubborn, precocious, independent, and kind. I think some of what I feel about her comes from instinct, and some from how I see my husband when he interacts with others, especially little ones. I know that a lot of who she becomes will be from the two of us, and that being the case, she won't be able to resist being a bit like him in all of his nerdy glory. I'm curious to see how she turns out, but I've journaled a bit of what I'm thinking so I can compare after the glow of new motherhood fades.

TRS48 · May 2014

I definitely believe in this! Before we got pregnant, I had a feeling we'd have twins... Surprise, twins! As we began to wonder what their sexes were, I just knew they were both boys (even though many people said "they're probably both girls, you would've seen boy parts by now..." -sidenote: people are annoying)... A few weeks later we find out, both boys. After a few traumatic doctors appts/hospital stays, many doctors were weary about the babies staying "in", but I knew somehow we'd be just fine. Here we are at 30 weeks, still cookin.

I do have a guess of what their personalities will be like but that's only from how I see them act on ultrasounds (one is super active & not cooperative while the other is so easy & more calm) so I'm excited to see if that's how they are when they arrive. I really do believe in mothers intuition/gut instincts and that they are usually correct.

jensavicci · May 2014

Wow that was deep lol. But I get what you're saying.

I don't think I would call it Intuition (for myself at least) so much as guessing what my baby's personality will be like. He's very active and all over the place in my belly so I just kind of guess that he'll be like that when he's out. Both of my older boys were very calm and gentle in the womb. And to this day my 7 year old is such a calm sweetie pie. lol My youngest still has some growing to do. But, I do feel a very strong connection with Max as I did with my older children. When my older children were brand spanking new, I would just sit there and rock them. There would be times when they just looked up at me and kept eye contact. It just felt like they knew I was their mother and knew how much I loved them. Like they could feel my heart beating for them. That's as best as I can describe it.

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JayBzo · May 2014

I don't know much about what his personality will be like and I am totally obsessed about what he will look like, I have NO idea and I wonder about it all the time. What I do "feel" are odd things - for some reason I can see myself being old and sick and my two sons there with me (and here I am wishing for a girl and contemplating only having one child) and I have no idea why. I also have an odd feeling about the exact day he will show up. Again, no reason, and I haven't bothered to look at the calendar day of that date until typing this out - it is not even what I would deem ideal, so I do not think it is me wishing for something either.

Again this could all be hogwash, only time will tell. I also get the feeling that I know things sometimes, so I understand where you are coming from.

helloblueeyes · May 2014

I kinda get what you're saying.

DH and i both have the same feeling over this baby, and i guess the best way to describe it is lively. She just seems determined to be. She has been very active the whole pregnancy, she just seems so full of life and energy. I told DH once that if she has an aura it must be as bright as the sun.

The name that we have as a front runner, means forest/woodland- a place teaming with life. I think she's going to be that way when she comes out, just full of energy and life. We are both hoping she will get a love and curiosity for all the science and nerdy stuff that DH and i love, but i think she's going to run more in line with natural sciences and all things outdoors. Maybe it's because of that we feel pulled towards the name we do. It will be interesting to see if we're right.

AMcLaws · May 2014

I knew DD1 would be stubborn, and do things in her own time. That's how she was in utero. I had no idea how fiercely independent she'd be...or how smart!! She amazes me every day with how smart she is.

This one is WAY more active that DD1 was. She knows just what to do in order to get my attention. I think she may be more of a firecracker.

Only time will tell. I'm so happy I was chosen to be their momma though

Artistmom30 · May 2014

I didn't really have a sense of what DD would be like but my guess was like her dad. She's actually a good mix between the two of us; feisty and independent like me but sweet and sensitive like her dad. With LO, I'm guessing he'll be about the same; although he is super active,most of the time, and may end up being quite independent and rough and tumble. If he's exactly like me, I'm in trouble!

lindslalala · May 2014

DH and I both "knew" DS would be feisty and full of energy, and he is. He gives us all we can handle! With DD I just assume she'll be calmer, but also tough. Calmer, because I really can't handle another whirlwind child so I'm probably just wishful thinking here. And tough because she's going to have to learn to protect herself pretty early on from DS's antics.

shanaynerz · May 2014

I really didn't know what to expect when pregnant with DD. I don't remember having any intuition at least. I guess I hoped she'd be social and kinda goofy, like we are, but I never got a vibe. Now that she's 19 months (where does the time go!), she has this amazing little personality and I just can't get enough of her. She's a little entertainer with this goofy, spunky side. She's mischievous and tries to be independent, but still wants us near. I hope she always stays that way.

With these guys, they've been super freaking active, so I'm thinking they could be the same as their sister, or maybe they'll be more shy. I really have no idea. I just hope they're a bit more cuddly! hehe

Your intuition could be right, it'll be neat to see what your LO is like!

Nichole8787 · May 2014

I believe some people are just more aware or in touch with their intuition. My grandmother and I are both this way. On more then one occasion I have had a sense to leave a place to find out soon after something horrible happened and so has my grandmother. We both also get very distint feelings about people and I always listen to them. On more then one occasion I have been right about a person and have been glad I followed my intuition. That being said i completely understand what you mean by this. I have a verydistint feeling of what my lo will be like and the only way I could describe it is a mothrrs intuition. I choose to believe I am right but only time will tell. I always think it's best to follow your instints /intuition.

marsalisails · May 2014

I don't get a feeling for her personality, but i feel like I know what she's going to look like somehow.

For my son, the reason I knew that I should pee on a stick was that I dreamt that I was pregnant. It should have been too early to test, but I got a FRER the next day and it was positive.

My mom and I do this all the time with each other too. Once I felt (from college three hours away) that she needed me, and it turns out that she had gotten into a car accident at that exact moment. (It wasn't serious or life threatening). She also had a dream that my dead grandmother came to her and told her that my baby is a girl before I had my AS.

Some people are just a little more intuitive with each other or what's going on around them. Maybe that's how you'll be with your son!

iris427 · May 2014

LiteraChick said:

iris427 said:

Well, I was completely surprised by pretty much everything about my first child's personality, and I was 100% convinced I was having a girl this time until we saw a very clear set of boy parts on the ultrasound so...no, I don't believe in mother's intuition. Or at least I certainly don't have it.

And idk, the idea that your baby will be sweeter than other children does sound kind of like FTM starry-eyedness.

Not really what I was saying there, should have elaborated. What I should have said, was that I get the feeling he will be more inclined to find joy in things (like I do) like he'll be more into the sweeter things in life. All kids freak over bubbles, but I feel like this guy is so interested in things he will demand a bubble wand, bubble paints, bubble machine, etc. He'll be super passionate about his interests to an almost fanatical level (something he'd share with me)

I have spent 20 minutes time after time feeling his little fingers moving around on my uterus, just feeling him. I get a definite sense of him exploring. It's not a quick, reflexive jerk or random movement, it's more deliberate.

Looking back, I can definitely see my kids' personalities reflected in how they moved in utero. OTOH, my mom says I was wild and crazy in the womb, and I was the most mellow child. So who knows. I think many moms have some ideas of what their baby will be like, and that's fine and normal--as long as one can accept it and go with the flow if their child turns out different.

knitsandgiggles · May 2014

I didn't have a sense of DD at all and I have no sense of Sir W either. I couldn't even imagine what DD would look like. DH told me somewhere in the halfway point during my pregnancy with DD, what she looked like. She looks very similar to the way he described her. About two months ago he tells me of another dream he had when Emme was a little older and Wes was the age she is now. He said Wes had curlier hair and was a darker complexion.

Let's see if his father sky(?) skills are still up to snuff, haha.

One trait that has emerged is that she is a tinkerer. So while other kids are playing on the slide, she is underneath it playing with the bolts, trying to figure out how it was put together. She likes to know how stuff works. That is all DH. It is still so early in her development, so we'll have to see.

BoraBoraBaby · May 2014

I'm of the kind that while it doesn't make anyone a better mother, intuition can strike some and not the others with this kind of thing. I think the intuition of a mother is just human nature, but maybe we each hold a different kind of intuition. My mom has sensed my roughest days and she lives 3 hours away. I would be surprised if she "just knew" that I was going to be a girl. Just my two cents.

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January Bride · May 2014

I don't have a sense of intuition with my baby yet, but I believe it can happen with others. I actually feel kind of bad over how I don't feel uber connected to this baby yet, but I'm sure it will all change once she's here and I know she's healthy. I think it's a bit of a defense mechanism right now for me to keep my distance a bit, even though I'm so excited to meet her and be her Mom.

My sister and I definitely have some type of connection that freaks us out. We will often call each other on the phone and the other person will already be there - no need for the phone to ring, since we did it at the same time. Or one of us will be humming a song and it was already running through the other person's head. Lots of creepy stuff like that. I think it's cool that we are so in tune with each other, but I definitely don't feel that way with my baby yet.

zellatrix · May 2014

I can't say that I remember having any intuition about his personality with my first. I am extremely pleased with how he has turned out and I am so thankful he got his father's sensitivity and my good looks. (hardy har har :-p)

Anyway, I feel like this one is going to be a snuggler. He likes to burrow down into a tiny space in my pelvis and has for weeks. He doesn't move as much as DS did. I feel like he is going to be a rather chill baby with maybe a more mellow personality. So, we shall see if I am correct.

Wrights22 · May 2014

I'm a very intuitive person, and I believe 100% that you can have feelings/premonitions about something like this. I can't tell you from experience bc I didn't really let myself go there with DD. It had taken us so long to get pregnant, that I didn't want to open myself up to thinking about the future to much in case something horrible happened and I lost it. But if you are intuitive and have honed in on these types of feelings before, I can completely see that you could be in touch with your child's spirit at that level. I've started to think about it with this 2nd lil one, and I feel like she will be more artsy and sensitive, whereas DD is going to be the more 'popular' less studious ....eh...troublemaker. We'll see!

AKB090609 · May 2014

DD has ended up being much like I expected so far, so I don't think it's all that far-fetched to have a feeling you know how their personality will be. So far I think this one will be a lot like DD but a bit more mellow (wishful thinking perhaps).

reecespieces714 · May 2014

I do get what you are saying. My first was 9 years ago and even now I say that there was some foreshadowing of his personality while he was in utero. "Busy-ness" - he was nonstop in utero and he was nonstop as a baby/toddler. That has tempered as he has grown up, but in general he is a busy kid.

I also got an idea about a physical element. He was a constant hiccuper. And I mean constant. It drove me crazy. When he came out he was the most spit uppy baby that I have ever come across. (all was explained when he was diagnosed with pyloric stenosis at 2 1/2 weeks old).

I have some thoughts on this second one too. Clearly however, most of the conclusions I draw are based on the how, when and nature of his movements. So most of the "personality" traits I lean towards are more physical in nature....

jcartz · May 2014

I get what you're saying, and I have a lot of premonitions, intuitive feelings, foresight, or whatever you want to call it in my general life. Not saying I'm clairvoyant lol. DH has learned to trust my gut feelings, my instincts, or my pseudo-visions because I'm almost always on target.

In both pregnancies, I didn't really have too deep of a feeling of who my child would be, what they'd look like, etc. I mean, I'd imagine life with them but didn't have the premonitions or anything. I did have a dream the night before my DD1 A/S that she was a girl after strongly feeling she was a boy for the first few months. However, since DD1 was born, I absolutely have mama/baby-dar. I wake up moments before her, only to hear her cry out after a bad dream now, and the same when she was a baby - I'd wake up before she started crying to be fed/changed/whatever, or get up to check on her randomly to find that she had rolled over or uncovered herself or something. I have had the moments of some foreboding feeling coming on, or just a sudden need to be with her - only to find out later that something happened at daycare at that moment - a fall, getting sick, etc. My daughter and I are in tune to a level I never thought possible, and it is an amazing feeling. I hope DD2 and I have that connection as well, though I admit I have fear that it won't happen.

I will agree with a pp who said she doesn't want to push her views on her child, what she expects them to be or act like or feel, but I think it's all part of the nature vs. nurture debate, and IMO, there's a something to both sides of that discussion.

TurtleMonsters · May 2014

I looked at horoscope type things about birth month a lot and thought those would play out for DS and they do for me mostly. they kind of did for him, I should go refresh my memory on what it said. I had a feeling Ds was a boy, and he was. I thought he might be active, based on kicking...but the rest I didn't have feelings on- I also didn't bond with him right away. It was a totally different pregnancy then this one. I was mother earth enjoying it, but disconnected feeling. This one, I'm less mother earth basking in the wonderous joy of carrying a human, but feel more bonded to the pro wrestler in there;) and thankful he hasn't punched a hole in my ute. I hope he's more chill then his bro, and likely will be as we're likely to be more chill as parents at this point.

DS went through a lot as a baby that likely shaped him, and continues with his medical stuff. He's not as layed back as I envisioned, but rolls with some punches - medical ones- for the most part, and has amazing empathy, for a 4 year old. He's very obstinate and tests boundaries with me ll the time- didn't expect that, but dad is like that i guess. He had a rough infancy, pain from allergic conditions, and needs to have the utmost patience with doctors and tests, has life threatening allergies and chronic allergic disorders that effect him (and me) daily. I never dreamed this would be his/our life- so any intuition is out the window on that. I know it's shaped him.

I also didn't realize how much a parent does shape but doesn't shape a child. Like he's 100% boy (I'm an only child, not girly with hair and nails, but a girl none the less- more gentle, calm...don't beat trees with "swords" fighting the bad guys and blowing up the universe.) However there are some other things I see in him I KNOW are me, he's just picked up- usually negative stuff I want to change about myself! Then other things I've tried to instill, don't stick.

So I haven't answered anything for you but rambled on and on. Record what you think/journal, and let us know how it turns out. It will be a great thing for you to look back on and reflect regardless:) ALSO I'm always a fan of following one's gut, if you feel that way, it likely is significant.

Our gut knows A LOT more then we'll ever understand.

email2ash · May 2014

Pregnancy has had this huge calming effect on me. I'm usually always happy and I'm very excited. I'd like to think that he will be easy going and loving that's why I feel this way.

I will have to wait and see.

Myanswer true · May 2014

I've had strong feelings for quite some time that LO is going to be very, very much like his daddy. I even swore to my husband pretty much since my BFP that he was going to be a boy, and that he would have his daddy's smile (I got to see that on our 3D ultrasound, it made my day). I feel like he's going to be a tough but sensitive little guy, not a whiner, but not too "hard" to show when he's hurt or to understand when others are hurting. I have a feeling he's going to be his daddy's shadow, and that even though he'll love me like every little boy loves his mommy, his daddy is going to be his biggest hero. He already responds so much more to DH's voice than to mine or anyone else's, I have a feeling it'll be quite the guys' club in my house.

Of course, some of this may be wishful thinking on my part, since I've said many times that if this little guy turns out just like his father, I'll be a very happy woman.

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