MIL Vent

misscarter87 · May 2014

I gave birth (emergency c section) monday 4 weeks early to my baby boy 5.12.14 he was born at 825 am 4lbs 13 oz..this was very unexpected but i thank God i did get to the hospital when i did cuz doc said if i had waited for my ob appt with her that afternoon at 1 pm i would have gotten a seizure..i had pre e and my blood pressure was thru the roof..i had to stay in the hospital 4 days because of my blood pressure..i am so hurt that DH mom didnt come to visit the baby in the hospital or even after he & I got discharged on thursday..he called his mom monday soon after the birth to let her know the baby was just born &he was doing well..he didnt need to be in the NICU or anything. It just upsets me that he's a week old and she still hasnt come to visit him..called..or even texted us at all..she lives 10 minutes from us. His sister came visit us monday soon as she got the news that we had the baby..i was supposed to have my babyshower may 17th but since baby was born before that i had to make change of plans..we only have a few clothes items for him since he is a preemie so we are working on getting more things for him!

snowpants · May 2014

First off, congrats on your little baby boy! So glad you are both doing well.

I'm sorry your MIL isn't responding how you would like her too. The only advice I can give is to not dwell on it. You can't control her or her actions, only yourself. Enjoy all these precious moments with your LO and focus on him and your family. She's missing out, clearly, and hopefully will come around soon. In the meantime enjoy the fact that you don't have to share the baby snuggles.

lest12 · May 2014

I'm sorry she is acting this way... but like @jmar2011 said, don't let it take away from what you're experiencing right now. Focus on your little family unit!

I will share a little story if it makes you feel better. My MIL is planning a vacation for the first week or so of June and he made no attempt to make plans for when she will come up (When I'm in the hospital? Afterwards? No mention of it). It bothers me that she seems so nonchalant about the whole thing, especially for my husband's sake. But whatever. We can't control anyone else's actions, right?

Pepper6 · May 2014

Not sure where you are going with this post, if it's just a vent or if you had a question, but either way I can understand being upset. Just try to not let it get to you and enjoy your time with your LO.

misscarter87 · May 2014

Yes This is a mil vent of how im feeling right but thanks for everyone who did give advice on it it has been bothering me ever since i was in the hospital last week but i just tried to not think so much about it because i was trying to get better to get out but just hurts even more that we are home now &mil still hasnt came visit or even called us or anything smh but i will def just try not to dwell on it at all and just focus on my fam