what am I doing wrong???

Welshgirl12 · May 2014

Can someone come take a look at my life and let me know where on earth I am going wrong with the time in my day?? I keep reading about you all hitting the gymanddoing fun stuff like that and I am clearly failing at time management. A sleeps poorly, I'm up at 5:30 for work, home by around 4ish, then I play, feed, change A...then dinner for me and DH, clean up, then bed at 9. Where can I find time for fun???+

Here is my working mum, below average self esteem poking through

MangoMama82 · May 2014

My baby goes down at 6:30, so I could totally work out when he is asleep, but that would cut into my catch up with TiVo time, and mama ain't having that.

psychdoc12 · May 2014

I do all daycare drop-offs and pickups and work at least 8 hours with no official breaks or anything. Ain't no one going to the gym over here.

Jenball717 · May 2014

I don't work. If I did I know there would be no work outs for me.

Amjoy25 · May 2014

I get up and do morning stuff with the baby at 6am; I get off at 5pm and hit the gym or jog around the neighborhood. The husband hangs with the baby until I get home, and then I cook and we eat, and baby bedtime is around 9pm.

We are able to go out and do things, because Willa is a reg at all the cool places and the waitresses and bartenders know her. #moty

You just HAVE to make time for it. When I first went back to work, I wanted just to come home and see the baby, but now, I know I need to do gym time or alone time for myself.

psychdoc12 · May 2014

Amjoy25 said:

I get up and do morning stuff with the baby at 6am; I get off at 5pm and hit the gym or jog around the neighborhood. The husband hangs with the baby until I get home, and then I cook and we eat, and baby bedtime is around 9pm.

We are able to go out and do things, because Willa is a reg at all the cool places and the waitresses and bartenders know her. #moty

You just HAVE to make time for it. When I first went back to work, I wanted just to come home and see the baby, but now, I know I need to do gym time or alone time for myself.

Hard to make time when you have to be the one to pick the baby up from daycare.

LittleBabyG2013 · May 2014

I'm a SAHM and I don't have any free time. If I did I wouldn't chose the gym.. This momma lazy. Sofa, hubby and a movie sounds great. Don't remember the last time we watched a movie. Our LO demands attention all the time

tashad18 · May 2014

Could your DH watch LO on certain day/times for you to go do kid free stuff? Is it feasible for you to join a gym with a kids program where they will watch LO while you work out? Are you utilizing any help (family or close friends) that you have nearby that could give you a break? Like PP said, you just have to make time for yourself.

DH works 6 days gone, 3 days off so I am pretty much with baby all of the time. I try to utilize DH's days off to do at least one alone time thing (massage, pedicure, etc). We take Camden a lot of places (dinners with friends, festivals, zoo, etc) so he is used to being out and about. I try to write an "appointment" to myself for alone time on my calendar and treat it just like I would any other obligation.

ballygirl · May 2014

Nope, me either. Most nights I don't even eat dinner. The only exercise
I get is stroller walking with the girls and on the weekends DH will run with the stroller and I can get a run in beside them. Sometimes I do exercises with them when I'm playing with them. They also enjoy watching me do yoga as long as I sing and make funny faces the whole time.

MtnChickaD · May 2014

No workouts here. I work 3-11 so I am alone with the babe from when my DH leaves for work at 6am until I drop LO of at daycare before work. I could do some sort of workout at home but my motivation has been less than stellar.

megs1409 · May 2014

I get up at 5:30 to be at the gym from 6-7. DS normally wakes up between 7-7:15. I usually have enough time to get a shower when I get home from the gym (DH leaves for work as soon as I get home from the gym). I tend to him (change him, feed him) and then let him hang out with toys while I finish getting ready. I drop off at daycare between 8-8:30.

DH picks DS up from daycare between 4:30-5. I normally get home from work between 6-7. We all eat (I'm a big fan of making freezer meals, so prep for dinner is pretty easy). We play with DS and then start winding him down around 8:15. He gets his bottle at 9 and is normally asleep by 9:15-9:30. If we are lucky, we don't have a MOTN feeding and he sleeps until 7ish.

DH is amazing in making sure I have time to go to the gym 3-4 days a week. I have less headaches, have more energy and am generally happier when I have that time for myself.

jennlin · May 2014

Free time? Hah.

WhenInRome11 · May 2014

I know a guy named Jim. I don't see him much though.

blondolphn · May 2014

I am a sahm and sometimes I still have difficulty fitting it all in. Especially the weeks where dh is gone all week for business. As soon as he gets home I'm usually handing him the baby so I can clean. But a lot depends on your baby and figuring out how to get time management in. Or how to sneak in. If it is feasible maybe drop off day care a bit earlier or pick up late so you can get a walk in by yourself. Even if it's just in the neighborhood of work or the daycare. 15 minutes to yourself is a start.

babydoll22308 · May 2014

I am a SAHM and pretty much have time for 30 min a day to work out. Life is crazy with 2, but I make sure I do that 30 min 3-5 times a week. I go for a jog right out my door. I tell DH I absolutely need that time so he helps me or I take girls in the jogger.

ballygirl · May 2014

I don't understand how any of you have time to cook or eat a sit down meal. Even on the days in not working, I never get more than 15 minutes max before someone needs my attention and by the afternoon im so exhausted I can barely think. DH gets home at 5:30 and babies are super cranky and needy from then to 8:00 when they go to bed and by then we are so tired we usually just have cereal and go to bed before 9.

A couple nights ago I cooked up some raviolis and DH and I stood around the strainer in the sink and ate them with our hands while we held crying fussy babies. That's dinner in my house.

hartsl01 · May 2014

Charlie1178 said:

I'm in the same boat, I feel like I have no time for anything that's not baby/work/cleaning/food related.

Yep... same here. My house is a wreck because lately at night I've been focused on getting stuff together for my SIL's baby shower coming up. I get up with DS in the a.m. and that is when we have time to play. I work until at least 6 every night and he's in bed by 8. DH and I get stuff done around the house after that and am totally spent by 9:30.

Working out...

deedee1017 · May 2014

ElleStaxx said:

Up at 5, work 8-4, pick up baby at 530 home by 6, then dinner, bath, bed, prep for daycare and the next days lunches and dinner it's 9pm. No time for gym or fun for me either. fail.
But you always make time for me. #ilurveyousomuch

And me too!

MissLauraPants · May 2014

If I didn't work out twice a week I'd lose my mind....my boyfriend just watches him when he comes home from work and I have him ready for bed or atleast halfway ready. Then I go to my pole class and come home.

deedee1017 · May 2014

I think if we all took pole classes our husbands would be much more willing to fix their work schedule to revolve around our work outs.

TXswissmiss · May 2014

DH and I try to do insanity together in the morning before he leaves for work/LO wakes up for the day (from around 6:15-7) we also live in a walkable area so any errands require walking -groceries etc

MangoMama82 · May 2014

quartermisses said:
I agree with @Amjoy25. You just have to make time for it.In the spring/summer/fall months we tend to make exercise a family event. For example, we went on a 4 mile walk--2 miles to a park to let DD1 run around and then 2 miles back. That's pretty standard, but once my new stroller gets here, the girls and I are going to be doing a lot more on our own.

My son would lolz at me if I tried to keep him strapped into his stroller for 4 miles round trip. We did a 5 mile walk once, but that was because he slept for the first half, cried for a mile, and had me hold him the rest of the way.

germanpickle · May 2014

It sounds to me like you are taking care of yourself in a stressful period of time and making sure you get some sleep, so I wonder what is really "wrong" here.

I'm also interested in your support network: who is on team take care of baby?

ncase2 · May 2014

dknight413 said:

What is DH doing to help you out? Eta: because if I worked full time, was up all night with LO and took care of all the cooking/cleaning etc , I'd probably slice a bitch.

You'd be slicing my DH then. He normally takes DS for about a 1/2 hour a day, usually while I'm trying to eat something.

ETA: I'm in the same boat. I get up around 6am, sitter comes at 7:30am, but lately DS has been waking up at 7, so I'm trying to cram getting myself ready and things for the day into that hour. I work 8-5pm, get home around 5:30pm, then it's dinner, playtime, baths, and DS goes down around 8pm. I then have about an hour and 1/2 to cram in laundry, dishes, prepping dinner for the next day, lunches / bottles, etc. DS is still getting up at least 2x a night, so I try to get to bed at a decent time.

On the weekends I try to take walks with DS, and clean the house with him in the Ergo - that's all the exercise I'm getting these days.

ncase2 · May 2014

deedee1017 said:

I think if we all took pole classes our husbands would be much more willing to fix their work schedule to revolve around our work outs.

Dead.

stephl3055 · May 2014

DH and I wake up at 6:00 and LO is usually up around 6:30. We leave at 7:00 and I do daycare drop off. He picks her up 2 days a week and I pick up the other 3. On his pick up days, I do a P90X DVD before they get home. On the days I pick up, I only do the Ab Ripper X (but why are my abs still not ripped?) when we get home.

DH gets home around 5:45 every day, showers, and he watches LO and washes bottles/dishes while I shower. We only do baths 2x a week due to her eczema. He works on getting something prepped for dinner, salads at least, and then I help out when I get out. We eat around 7:00 while I sit on the floor and play with LO. We don't eat at the table. I make her formula for the next day after eating and wash whatever dishes we used. She eats around 8:00 and is in bed by 8:30. We enjoy a sweet treat after she's in bed (maybe that's why my abs aren't ripped?) and we are in bed and asleep by 10:00 at the latest.

Laundry and cleaning is done on Sundays, when we are both home and one of us can watch LO while the other does the chores. I can't imagine trying to do all of that during the week in addition to everything else on our plates.

Welshgirl12 · May 2014

dknight413 said:
What is DH doing to help you out?

Eta: because if I worked full time, was up all night with LO and took care of all the cooking/cleaning etc , I'd probably slice a bitch.

DH takes baby to his parents in the morning, then doesnt get home til 7pm, and w are lucky to have his parents watch her so I feel guilty asking then to watch her more.

I like @tashad18‌ idea of making an appointment with myself

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