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lifesaverz · May 2014

I know this has been discussed here before, so just thought I'd share this thing I found today that I thought was interesting. (warning: potentially hot topic)

https://www.facebook.com/Radio1057/photos/a.595860203780031.1073741833.561624080536977/777197115646338/?type=1

What do you think? I tend to agree. Although dress codes in certain situations totally have a purpose obviously (to be professional, presentable, etc), I like the overall message this gives. Thoughts?

nofcksgiven · May 2014

osajia said:
Yes, men should pick their jaws up and close their mouths. Yes, women should be allowed to dress appropriately for the weather/occasion/etc. without worrying about "distracting" their peers.

All that being said though.........

There's a difference between this:

And this:

Other than that one is obviously being worn over a bathing suit, what's the difference? That each is appropriate in certain situations?

lifesaverz · May 2014

Meggie0421 said:

Yes, men should pick their jaws up and close their mouths. Yes, women should be allowed to dress appropriately for the weather/occasion/etc. without worrying about "distracting" their peers.

All that being said though.........

There's a difference between this:

And this:

Other than that one is obviously being worn over a bathing suit, what's the difference? That each is appropriate in certain situations?

this is what I'm thinking too. Obviously they are different, but they serve different purposes. To me one seems professional & one seems like it's a hot summer day or she is going to the beach, but neither one seems "inappropriate".

lifesaverz · May 2014

although if you go by what Herc is saying maybe there is no "inappropriate", lol. Interesting stuff to think about.

notkateanymore · May 2014

I agree with what Herc said 100% but there are times when certain clothes are inappropriate for the situation for both sexes.

tyedyeme12 · May 2014

KateMW said:
I agree with what Herc said 100% but there are times when certain clothes are inappropriate for the situation for both sexes.

This exactly. I don't believe that because of what you're wearing you have a right to get assaulted, however, I do think it's your choice as to what you wear and how you present yourself. I believe in modesty.

lifesaverz · May 2014

KateMW said:

I agree with what Herc said 100% but there are times when certain clothes are inappropriate for the situation for both sexes.

Totally agree. Dress codes in a workplace or in schools do make sense to me, because there is a certain image they want you to portray, so in light of that there are of course times when either sex can dress inappropriate for the situation. I do like the general idea though for just when out in public, of teaching boys/men to respect rather than teaching girls/women to cover up. I'm sure we all have our different standards of what we would wear, or what we would want a daughter to wear, but regardless of that guys should be respectful.

golfingdarwinfish · May 2014

KateMW said:

I agree with what Herc said 100% but there are times when certain clothes are inappropriate for the situation for both sexes.

Agree. I think one of the issues is that certain places are meant to remain relatively 'asexual' - such as work. There is no reason to bring sexuality or sexual provocative attire into a place it's just not appropriate. I don't see that as victim blaming or saying that we can't dress a specific way because all men are uncontrollable perverts just waiting to sexually assault a woman. I also don't think that when someone points out that someone is dressed 'inappropriately' that they are doing so because they are concerned they can't control their own sexual urges.

lifesaverz · May 2014

osajia said:

Yeah, while I'm at it, I wouldn't think a man should be without a shirt in certain situations, either. May sound obvious, but I think that's fundamentally what we're talking about here, right? It goes both ways. As individuals, we should be able to wear whateverthefuck we want and know that we won't be objectified, disrespected, or worse as a result. Not to a point, though, that it undermines the purpose of our situation or environment.

well said! and totally agree that there shouldn't be a double standard between the sexes either. If men were to bare it all we should be able to control our urges too, haha. or yes, that there may be situations where a man not wearing a shirt may compromise the purpose of the situation, like you said.

lifesaverz · May 2014

nursetrina said:

@osajia‌ the only difference I see is style. I don't see a problem with Audrina's outfit at all. Especially in CA people dress like that all the time.
I don't see a problem for adults but I definitely side eye when young girls are dressed this way. UO?!?

@nursetrina, why?

lifesaverz · May 2014

I guess the fact that teen girls want to "show it off" or whatever actually makes sense to me though. They are just getting this new body basically, as well as having all the changing hormones & blah blah blah, so I think it's normal for them to want to show it/be proud of it. Now, if parents want to censor that/how much they show, & put restrictions on how they dress, I think that is totally appropriate to do, & is the parents' choice. But as to the desire itself from teen girls to dress this way, I get it. I was pretty excited about my new body as a teen & wanted to show it off too. Now my mom didn't let me, haha, but hey I guess it all works out

lifesaverz · May 2014

nursetrina said:

I guess the fact that teen girls want to "show it off" or whatever actually makes sense to me though. They are just getting this new body basically, as well as having all the changing hormones & blah blah blah, so I think it's normal for them to want to show it/be proud of it. Now, if parents want to censor that/how much they show, & put restrictions on how they dress, I think that is totally appropriate to do, & is the parents' choice. But as to the desire itself from teen girls to dress this way, I get it. I was pretty excited about my new body as a teen & wanted to show it off too. Now my mom didn't let me, haha, but hey I guess it all works out
Maybe that's where I get that side eye feeling. My mother would've smacked me into the next week if I tried to leave the house in such outfits. We had a bare midriff policy at my school and I think maybe spaghetti straps were banned too. I probably pushed those boundaries as much as I could so I get it too. However I understand the dress code policy.

yeah my mom's biggest rule was no stomach showing, haha. Which actually used to be pretty difficult because I'm tall, & that was when it seemed like everything was made cropped, so we actually had some trouble finding things. Now thank goodness there are all kinds of long shirts.

Caitlinh27 · May 2014

I feel like we had this discussion not too long ago.

lifesaverz · May 2014

Caitlinh27 said:

I feel like we had this discussion not too long ago.

yeah we did, although the way it came up was not the best, & it felt a lot more like people yelling & fighting than a discussion. I kinda felt like this pic summed up a lot of the bumpies' feels on the topic though, which I why I put it here. Plus it's nice to actually discuss, not yell

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