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New and old sleep issues now! Need relief!

susan10918susan10918 member
in January 2013 Moms
My LO was 16 months on the 15th and still does not sleep through the night and I am starting to go crazy. I never know what my night is going to be like. If i get one small wake up or one long couple hours loss of sleep. Last night I was fighting with her from 4-6 on sleep. Here lately she freaks out as soon as she sees me walk out the room. She wont fall asleep by rocking because all she does is fight falling asleep. I have never had such frustration with her willingness to fall asleep. Has anyone else dealt with this or is dealing with it now and possibly have any suggestions. I am just getting overwhelmed and loss of sleep is not helping.
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Re: New and old sleep issues now! Need relief!

  • spainy17spainy17 member
    Okay take what I say with a grain of salt because I sucked at my own advice and DD took a long time to fall asleep on her own.

    One is that our babies are now old enough to freak out when we leave the room to manipulate us. So you have to pouch a bedtime routine, such with it, tell her you love her and just leave. She might freak out the guest free times but then will realize that that tactic is no longer working. DD started sleeping way way better once she could calmherself. If she gets hysterical then she might not be ready, it is developmental like anything else and I refused to do true cry it out. The other thing that made a huge difference for us was we put a sippy of water in her crib. She was thirsty!
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  • susan10918susan10918 member
    I understand she is probably working me as well. She just started this freak out thing, so I thought maybe it might be seperation anxiety. Tonight she was sooo tired, put her in bed then as soon as I walked out she sat right up and freaked out. I let her cry for a little bit, but then she had a bowel movement so I had to change her and start all over. It took about an hour. She was just crying so hard and I have a hard time listening to it. At this point though, I think I just need to be consistant with my response to her . I think she is winning the fight so far.
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  • aklawrence1aklawrence1 member
    DD doesn't STTN either. I know how you feel. It's exhausting. I have been rocking her to sleep, and I'm ok with that because she is (and will be) our 1 and only... And quite frankly, its my favorite part of our hectic, insane, crazy days. It's an attachment thing with us I think. If DD wakes and I'm in the room, she will go back to sleep. If not, she will cry until I come in. I don't believe in CIO, and DD's stubborn anyway. She'll cry until she makes herself sick. Our pedi office has this positive parenting thing going on, but their suggestion was basically CIO... I don't know, I'm at a loss and running out of things to blame it on (teething, growing, etc).
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  • gagirl2004gagirl2004 member
    The past week has been a crazy sleep week for Jacey. She fights her naps until 3 oclock and she just passes out. Last night she was up until 10 then back up from 4-6 then back up for the day at 8. I think she is getting her canines and I think the pressure is irritating her.
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  • susan10918susan10918 member
    I feel like I am always blaming it on teething or stuffy nose or something because I just dont have an answer as to why she is being this way right now. One night she will sleep great then the next night will be awful. Last night after taking an hour to fall asleep, she woke up at 2 and I couldnt get her settled back down till almost 4. She just wants me to stand in her room and pat her back as she is laying down, but she doesnt fall asleep in the process. Stubborn little thing!
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  • Wild_flower25Wild_flower25 member

    She is not freaking out, she is tantruming to get her way.  You have to let her cry it out.  They are old enough that you're not doing any damage, just laying down the law.  If you don't do it now, it just gets harder and harder. 

    I usually rock DD before bed but as she gets older, the less rocking she wants.  She just wants to go to bed to fall asleep now!  If you are always soothing her to sleep, it will take so much longer for her to learn to sooth her self back to sleep during the night.   They need to learn.

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  • princessbmwprincessbmw member
    I know most are going to say they don't believe in cio, but it was the only thing that minimized wake ups for us. We went from being up every hour and a half to ds going to sleep on his own. Then I had to let him cio for night wake ups, and we are finally STTN. Had to do cio for naps too. It was worth it for all of us. We are finally getting sleep!

    FYI, we used ferber when he was under a year, but went with extinction cio when he got older because the checks just made things worse.
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  • spainy17spainy17 member
    I get the no cry it out thing and I'm not saying she us just manipulating you. That might be part of it but the reason I said it was developmental is that we are right on the cusp of the dreaded 18 month sleep regression and it is going to be hell for a lot of us right now. Add in teeth, colds, etc and there are so many reasons for them not to sleep. My advice is just to be consistent with whatever works for you avs your little one right now and if something has stopped working then try something else for a while. I just stick to what worked for us which was bedtime routine, nurse to sleep and nurse in the middle of the night. Once we weaned I added a little rocking so she still got the closeness we both loved. Eventually it just clicked that mommy is here if she needs me but she learned to put herself back down. Every baby is different, you are not doing anything wrong.
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  • spainy17spainy17 member
    Ooh yeah I forgot about that pp! DD went through a phase where she was up for HOURS on and off fussing but not crying. Sometimes she was just awake taking to herself! It drive me crazy and I was so worried about her sleep but I realized that me going in there was waking her up worse so I made a rule with myself that if she was crying for five minutes STRAIGHT then I would go in. I quickly realized that I didn't need to and it helped her learn to put herself back down also.
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  • spainy17spainy17 member
    Yeah, I am such a light sleeper that I already sleep without a monitor and both does closed so I slept in our guest room for like three weeks straight. The fan was loud enough to drown out the babble but not so loud that I couldn't hear her if she cried. Saved my sanity.
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  • princessbmwprincessbmw member
    I also had to turn off the volume on the monitor. Ds cries every time he changes position.
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  • susan10918susan10918 member
    Thanks for all the tips everyone! For some reason things are getting better these past two nights, not really sure why, but I will take it. I think I just need to stop giving in to her tantrums and let her get to sleep on her own.
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