How do you get over pregnancy rage?

shevaCC · May 2014

Ugh, today is one of those days where everyone and everything seem to be ganging up to piss me off. My boss was being a jerk then DD stalled for 30 minutes after daycare today between slooowly putting on her shoes and refusing to sit in her car seat/running away from me in the car. DH worked late for no reason and left the kitchen an absolute disaster so dinner prep was a nightmare. Also he wasn't home to help so DD was getting into everything in the kitchen while "helping" me. When DH finally got home he was dragging his feet toddler-style when I asked him to unload the dishwasher so I lost it and chewed him out. He pissily did it then refused to eat dinner with us and now isn't talking to me. At this point I am having trouble caring.
Normally I'd go for a run to destress but haven't been running this pregnancy. I feel like this rage is at least partly hormonal and I haven't yet been able to snap out of it today. I'll probably end up just going to bed and hoping tomorrow is a better day. Still not sure how to deal with the pissy unhelpful husband situation. Anyway, how do you get over pregnancy rage? Any tips?

shugirl76 · May 2014

It's really hard. Today, it was like pulling teeth to get my husband to carry in the groceries. I usually get really mad (sometimes saying something to him I regret, sometimes just erupting into tears!

PecanSam · May 2014

When I feel my buttons are getting pushed by my toddler, I tell my husband I need a break b/c I'm losing it. So I normally go to our bedroom alone and he takes over.

Even if my husband leaves the kitchen a mess or whatever, I never lose it on him b/c I'm not perfect everyday either. If I yelled at him, he would not take it well, I'm sure. I would just ask nicely.

When I'm having a day that everything annoys me, I constantly remind myself that it's a me problem.

Allison7 · May 2014

I give myself a good cry in a hot shower. Then I eat some chocolate. When I feel better, I talk to DH, but I don't apologize - he gets a bad attitude too some days and he does not have pregnancy hormones to blame. He never apologizes for when he is like that (although sometimes he does call or text me ahead to let me know he is in a bad mood) and he is smart enough to know why I am irrationally upset over things, so no apology needed. I am not being a dick about anything, but we are all entitled to a bad day.

summerfunxo · May 2014

I'll almost always take my dog and go for a hike. The fresh air, exercise and nature always make me feel better. A lot of times my husband goes with me, which is also a great bonding time/ time to de stress about everything.

BeachM · May 2014

I have to go to our bedroom and shut the door and stay in there alone for a bit. I have usually lost it by this point and after slamming the door (mature, I know) I need some time to calm down. This apparently involves a good bit of sobbing right now. Ugh. DH knows to just leave me alone and then I deal with massive guilt over the example I'm setting for DS. Luckily the rage is not quite as bad this pregnancy and DS is not currently in a bad button pushing phase.

mislogis · May 2014

This is me. My FB status Sunday was "I'm feeling stabby today"

Yesterday wasn't much better. Ive decided I need to get my butt moving. Go for a walk, schedule a pedicure anything bc I am just a raging bitch right now. Im very short tempered as it is and these hormones are pushing me way over the edge.

10.5 weeks left (some a few more) we can make it ladies!

MandMLeona · May 2014

That was me yesterday morning. I just woke up mad. No ideas, just commiserating.

haliebabyx3 · May 2014

I definitely feel you. I'm by myself this week at work, my other co-worker is on vacation and my boss has acted like I can't do a single thing. He freaks because he thinks the place will shut down without her. I'm very capable of keeping things going. I understand she has way more time under her belt her, where as I have only two years, but the company is not going to hurt severely with her gone for one week. I just hate when my boss makes a big deal and makes me feel like I am nothing to this place.

Last week, it was so bad it was taking all I could not to walk into his office and tell him I was gone. Things have been pretty bad for a while though. So my pregnancy rage as been flaring for a while. When I get home I always just plop down on the couch and rest and put my feet up. It's not much, but it helps. As crazy as it seems I sometimes just have myself a good cry. It does sometimes happen at work, so I go to the bathroom for a little bit, they probably think I'm taking a massive dump. I also vent to H, he's been really helpful.

aelhunt · May 2014

I hear you! I could have written this! My toddler was being all sorts of fun when she kept kicking me in the belly as I was changing her to rush out the door to swim class. We waited until the last min so DH could get home and change and go. Running late is a hot button for me.

I just need quiet time to get over it and for DH to know to just leave me be and it will be better.

bcbuzzafsu · May 2014

A big cup of decaf and a donut usually make me feel better.

Or sending the toddler to the park with DH so I can nest in peace.

teachermommy2014 · May 2014

I totally get it! We are moving right now and last night MH packed up his side of the closet. When I asked him when he was going to move the boxes to the "box" room he told me when he had time and proceeded to go watch TV. I think most men are just idiots most of the time...END RANT!!!

torooji · May 2014

I've noticed I ask myself "Would this have made me mad last year?" an awful lot. My tolerance level has declined so significantly.

For one thing, I've stopped asking nicely. Before I was the polite, "Would you mind?" or "Can you please?" type. Now I just ask for what I need. Luckily H always thought I was too polite, so he thinks me just ordering him around is normal wife behavior. For example, if I were in your shoes with the dishes... my pre-pregnancy reaction would be to ask nicely for H to do the dishes. My pregnant reaction (and I've done this many, many times while pregnant) is tell him I can't cook dinner until dishes are dealt with, so I need him to either deal or go find something for us to eat. My willingness to compromise has really, really diminished

Sometimes getting out of the house helps... other times sending H out to run an errand is also pretty helpful lol.

phaarealwed · May 2014

I'm on the same boat. I know it's my hormones but I can't help it. So I sit and cry, then I focus on breathing and then log on to the bump to hear from you all, it really helps to know I am not alone and it takes my mind off the rage.