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One & Done: Only child
KelseyFoster1991
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My intro
KelseyFoster1991
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My name is kelsey and I just joined.
Dh is 28 and I'm 22 and we have been married for a year on June 1st 2014.
My DH is an only child. Says he never really wanted a sibling. He understood why he didn't have one. He did say he was lonely sometimes though.
I have 3 siblings ( grew up with one of them)...I myself with Siblings was at times lonely. I was very very shy and very independent.
We are at a point where it's time to think about starting our family. I've always pictured myself with several children and never considered being O&D until my sister and her husband had a baby and have decided to be one and done.
I never considered it before because it's foreign to me. I have siblings so I always assumed one baby would not be enough and can't imagine my live without my siblings because I don't know any different. I couldn't picture what an only child life could be like. But that said I never thought it was bad.
My 5 month old niece Aria has changed thjngs for me. I love her so much, how could I ever think that she alone is not enough? That's what went through my mind. Aria is going to have an amazing life with or without siblings. She is such an amazing baby. I think about how my sister will get to devote everything she and her husband have to little Aria. I'm feeling envious of that possibility.
I've always pictured myself with several kids but I'm taking the time now to really truly consider being one and done because my baby will definitely be enough for us I think emotionally and financially.
My husband drives a tow truck and I work in grocery at safeway. We aren't rich and recently I've been thinking about what if we had 2-3 children like I have always (until recently) pictured us with and then we can't afford to go places and do things together. Examples are:
Travel by air plane to Disney land.
Go to sea world
Travel to Florida and California to visit family
Wild waves
Camping/hiking
Summer camp
Go to the theatre regularly
Go out to dinner and lunch
Throw fun birthday parties
Sleep overs (if we had multiple kids each kid would want to invite a friend. And I wouldn't blame them. We don't/won't have the space or money to provide for that many people
Trips to the fair
A gym membership
After school activities.
Plenty of social opportunities - social anxiety runs in my family. I want to give my baby every opportunity to thrive socially as I possibly can and with multiples this will be much more challenging time wise and money wise
I hate the thought of children sitting around bored all summer.
I'm sure there is more reasons I'm forgetting...
Nothing is set in stone. We are not even pregnant yet. I haven't shared these thoughts with DH. I'm not sure how he will take it. He usually agrees to however many I want.
I think about having one and then a second and then realizing I won't get to experience having one child. That thought makes me a sad panda.
Dh is 28 and I'm 22 and we have been married for a year on June 1st 2014.
My DH is an only child. Says he never really wanted a sibling. He understood why he didn't have one. He did say he was lonely sometimes though.
I have 3 siblings ( grew up with one of them)...I myself with Siblings was at times lonely. I was very very shy and very independent.
We are at a point where it's time to think about starting our family. I've always pictured myself with several children and never considered being O&D until my sister and her husband had a baby and have decided to be one and done.
I never considered it before because it's foreign to me. I have siblings so I always assumed one baby would not be enough and can't imagine my live without my siblings because I don't know any different. I couldn't picture what an only child life could be like. But that said I never thought it was bad.
My 5 month old niece Aria has changed thjngs for me. I love her so much, how could I ever think that she alone is not enough? That's what went through my mind. Aria is going to have an amazing life with or without siblings. She is such an amazing baby. I think about how my sister will get to devote everything she and her husband have to little Aria. I'm feeling envious of that possibility.
I've always pictured myself with several kids but I'm taking the time now to really truly consider being one and done because my baby will definitely be enough for us I think emotionally and financially.
My husband drives a tow truck and I work in grocery at safeway. We aren't rich and recently I've been thinking about what if we had 2-3 children like I have always (until recently) pictured us with and then we can't afford to go places and do things together. Examples are:
Travel by air plane to Disney land.
Go to sea world
Travel to Florida and California to visit family
Wild waves
Camping/hiking
Summer camp
Go to the theatre regularly
Go out to dinner and lunch
Throw fun birthday parties
Sleep overs (if we had multiple kids each kid would want to invite a friend. And I wouldn't blame them. We don't/won't have the space or money to provide for that many people
Trips to the fair
A gym membership
After school activities.
Plenty of social opportunities - social anxiety runs in my family. I want to give my baby every opportunity to thrive socially as I possibly can and with multiples this will be much more challenging time wise and money wise
I hate the thought of children sitting around bored all summer.
I'm sure there is more reasons I'm forgetting...
Nothing is set in stone. We are not even pregnant yet. I haven't shared these thoughts with DH. I'm not sure how he will take it. He usually agrees to however many I want.
I think about having one and then a second and then realizing I won't get to experience having one child. That thought makes me a sad panda.
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Re: My intro
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
Hi and welcome.
Having a child really does change your perspective. I hope you'll hang around here!
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DS - 2011