Tense Moments

dogperson11 · May 2014

It's a nice day so I'm sitting with my patio door is open and I can hear the neighbors next door bickering while they put together their kids' play structure. Kind of funny.

The lady: I'm not trying to make it perfect. I don't want to be out here all day on this.
The guy: And I don't want to be out here every weekend fixing it so lets just do it right.

Fast forward a few minutes and the lady actually just said "is that to your liking, sire?"

I was surprised my husband and I made it through putting the crib and table together last weekend without someone being annoyed by the end. Projects always bring out the best in couples. What's your latest tense couple moment? Do you and your S/O have anything that you know will end with someone annoyed?

lookame3639 · May 2014

Fi and I don't really have issues with putting stuff together. It's where we really connect...However it's usually i tell him what to do and hand him the screws/tools while he does the putting together.

Our tense moments vary..Usually when I'm moody

BlckRoses · May 2014

DH is in his head a lot, so we'll have an issue with a project and I'm throwing out ideas and suggestions and he just sits there thinking. When he finally does talk it's usually totally the opposite of my ideas and I get annoyed because I don't think he's listening to me. I typically will just leave him to it and let him do project on his own. Or, I'll remind him to verbalize when I see him in his head too much.

SoSayWeAll · May 2014

I am such a control freak and cannot stand watching DH assemble anything. It's better one of us does it alone if possible.

BeachM · May 2014

We have a 3.5 year old who keeps getting constipated because he is stubborn and holds in his poop. So yeah, it's pretty tense over here.
:-<

kcatboston · May 2014

DH refuses to assemble baby things unless I leave the room (preferably the house). I'm a control freak & hover over him & he thinks directions are for people that don't know how to use tools. It never ends well.

tamarar5 · May 2014

Our tense moments always occur over DH cooking. Not that he can't cook- he's a chef. More like he had no sense of time. The kids need to eat around 6pm. Yet last night he didn't even light the grill bottom 8:30. Grrr! It makes me so mad and I've tried pointing out things like schedule and mealtimes, but then he just sulks and doesn't want to cook.

It's a lose lose situation since I hate cooking with a passion.

mikrinikki · May 2014

When he works over time he gets crabby. So...when I need help on making decisions- it gets tense. The latest moment was last night when I asked him to help me find a pediatrician....

Erika101076 · May 2014

Projects don't cause tension for us because I relinquish all control over to him. I am incapable of following directions and can never get things built right while my H is amazing at it so I have no problem just watching.

What does cause tension is our dog. H likes to give the dog too much freedom and the dog thinks she has the same luxury with me, only problem there is she doesn't listen as well to me as she does to him even though she's technically my dog.... And when I'm hungry I can be a bitch so anything bothers me at that point lol

Jolaine83 · May 2014

We don't mesh well when it comes to putting things together or following instructions. If it's a project where we can work on separate parts at the same time, than it works, but the two of us together doesn't work for long. DH does a lot of internal planning and has trouble communicating those thoughts. A lot of times one of us does it or the other, rarely is it a two person job. If it requires two people, he does better with one of our dads for big projects because their brains work the same. lol

Jenrileysmom · May 2014

We fight every year when we put the Christmas tree up. Every freaking year.

Rosebean · May 2014

Ours was during my last pregnancy. I wanted to clean out the nursery and get the crib set up and DH started arguing about where I was putting everything in our storage room (which he needed to clean up anyways). I ended up throwing a huge tantrum that involved me kicking our stove with both feet, then ripping off my slippers one by one (my feet got hot, dammit!) and throwing those on the floor to enunciate my loud words. He was actually laughing at me in the next room. Quietly. Smart man.

meggyski · May 2014

We're in the middle of remodeling our house, and the timeline is getting tighter as the baby deadline gets closer. My husband is a contractor and he's trying to juggle finishing our place with other jobs. We generally work really well together on getting the work done, assembling things, and solving problems that arise along the way, but we definitely have some tension over timing and schedule- delays due to his work schedule, etc.

We also have disagreements on when to buy materials. In general, he would prefer to wait until he's at the right time in the construction process and pay for whatever we can find at that time, but I like to buy things when I see good deals (specifically appliances). I'm the one managing the budget for the project, he's the one managing the timing/ details, so it makes sense that we each prioritize what we do. This weekend we had a minor blow-up over our new refrigerator, but we found a good compromise. I got the lovely bottom freezer stainless Samsung I wanted (great deal on craigslist), but it's being stored in the basement until he finishes installing the new beam in our kitchen, hopefully by this weekend.

shaylagirl · May 2014

JoShan1719 said:

Lately him breathing causes tension. I am such a bitch lately, everything he does is pissing me off. And I can't tell which things are legitimate and which are silly things that I should get over.

You too?

Nothing makes me more stabbity than him breathing. Or snoring at night. His loud and explosive farts that jolt me awake when I've FINALLY managed to fall asleep. Him touching my swollen feet. Him calling me "Preggers". Yeah, really, just the act of him LIVING is enough to make me rage-y.

Honestly though, we've never assembled anything together, so I don't know how that's going to go when we finally try and piece together the crib. I may just leave the house so I don't have to see it.

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