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Increasing anxiety re: daycare

Amy DrinkwaterAmy Drinkwater
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I go back to work on Jan 9th, which is sucktastic b/c it's my birthday AND the first day Ian will go to daycare. ?The place we picked is clean and new-ish, the people appear to be nice and they don't have any serious violations (they had one for only having 2 emergency contacts for a child instead of 3, no big deal IMO) but I just feel like I'm going to have a total meltdown when I drop him off.

He has to go b/c we can't afford for either one of us to stay home right now; I have run the numbers every which way I can think of and just cannot make it work unless we cut back on our retirement savings which I'm too scared to do. ?I like that Ian will have the opportunity for socialization at daycare but he will be there for so long on the 3 days I drive into the city for work - like 11 hours! ?I'm afraid he'll feel like I just ditched him there, especially b/c he cries if anyone other than me or my dad holds him. ?On the 2 days I work from home I plan on springing him early if I don't have conference calls, but I feel like that doesn't make up for the 3 long days.

Maybe I'm losing sleep over nothing; I mean the place has cameras in the rooms so I can get online and see how they're treating him in my absence but still. ?I just can't shake the feeling that I'm doing him a disservice by leaving him at daycare for 11hrs a day 3x a week. Crying?

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Re: Increasing anxiety re: daycare

  • Linds&Chris777Linds&Chris777
    I know how you feel and you will probably feel this way until you get used to it.  I dreaded it so much but it ended up being a lot easier than I thought it would be.  I thought for sure DS would be tough to handle but he's only had a couple of not so good days in the two months he's been back.  It will be easier than you think, and you just have to remember that you are doing what is best for your family.
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  • BetchySproutBetchySprout member
    Where do you check for violations? I can't seem to figure it out.
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  • Amy DrinkwaterAmy Drinkwater

    imagePattypoundcake:
    Where do you check for violations? I can't seem to figure it out.

    The Texas Dept of Family and Protective Services has a listing of all registered daycares in the state and any violations w/ dates and what action was taken to fix the problem.

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  • smiling76smiling76 member

    ((hugs)).  It is tough but what I recommend is this----do some practice runs----the first day sit there with him for a couple hours and then that's it for the day.  Then the second day let him stay alone for a couple hours and then do the same the next day--just a couple hours.  What i did during this time was go and pick up a couple items I wanted for work (new clothes) since shopping for that type of stuff is tough.  And I also got a little cleaning/cooking done.  Plus it wasn't too much time for the little guy.  I found that this helped A TON.  Then the next day it was a full day for both of us--me back at work.  I also started on a Thursday to help with the anxiety. 

    I would LOVE if my daycare had cameras--you're lucky.

    The first day allow some extra time for crying/fixing make-up/etc.  Also, when you do drop the little one off make it fairly quick--don't spend too much time saying good-bye....it makes it harder.  And know that they will be so excited to see you!

     

     


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