Naming your baby

GracefulStar · May 2014

I was just wondering if any of you gave your baby a name, what it means and why you chose it? I found it comforting to give my baby (due in september but lost in February of this year) a name. I didn't get to find out the sex but I chose a name for either. I chose Andy Noel. Andy as it has letters from my name and my husband's and means brave (manly or courageous also) and Noel for Christmas because I had a feeling I was pregnant at Christmas, and I was (found out on New Year's Eve). Wishing you ladies all the best, you are all so strong.

meredithcarole · May 2014

I didn't, but it think that is a very nice name and sentiment.

biojess · May 2014

I have a private name that I use. It came to me during the miscarriage while I was praying to my goddess for guidance, strength, and the ability to trust in my body. It's comforting to have the name for spiritual practices.

Cocoasushi · May 2014

I did name my son. He was miscarried at 19 weeks. All throughout my pregnancy my 4 year old would give her baby brother nicknames. They would change every other day, but always went back to Link. I wanted to give him a name after he was born, but no other name seemed to fit him because it's what we had always called him. She chose the name from the hero character from The Legend of Zelda games. My favorite of that game series is The Wind Waker. In it, The hero, Link, is a child, never says a word, and saves the world even though he's little and quiet. She said it's perfect for him because he was so little and will never get to talk, but he's changed her whole world. It's just too perfect.

gabbagal · May 2014

I usually refer to my first as baby Olive(r) b/c I made it to 9 weeks and an olive was used as a comparison to a baby at that stage. For the second, I sometimes call him/her my little Poppy/Papi b/c he/she only made it to around the size of an apple seed or poppy seed and poppies can symbolize remembrance. Also the Poppy is one of the birth flowers for August which is when they were both due (the other Aug. birth flower is a Gladiolus which I use for my avatar).

kmar9701 · May 2014

We lost our little boy at 17 weeks last Thursday. We terminated due to a long list of serious complications that he had which meant that he would not live even if we managed to make it to full term. My husband and I chose not to give him a name, have a memorial or even see him when he was born - anything that we thought might make our grief any worse than it already was. I'm starting to regret not giving him a name now though. Even though he was very much wanted and loved it makes me feel like we just threw him away.

nohalo21 · May 2014

@kmar9701‌ It's not too late to name him and do something in his memory. You shouldn't regret what you did. It's a very traumatic experience and you made the best decision that you could at that time.

Mrs Sweet Tea · May 2014

I felt like I needed my little one to have a name. He/she was about the size of a tater tot when they stopped growing and I wanted something semi-unisex (although I kind of felt like I was having a boy) so we went with Tate Emerson. Tate means cheerful and Emerson means brave/powerful. With how much joy the baby brought to our life I thought Tate was very fitting. Hubby even signed my Mother's Day card from himself, our pups, and Tate which made me cry. They were happy tears though because he wasn't sure about naming the baby at first and for him to use it made me feel great.

GracefulStar · May 2014

Thank you all for sharing, those are beautiful names all with happy memories. And yes it's never too late to give a name, it's all up to you. @Cocoasushi‌ Link was one of my favorite characters growing up playing Zelda on game boy!

O2girl · May 2014

We didn't name our little ones. I'm not even sure we should. Naming them makes it very tangible for me, and my grief over their loss of heartbeats is significant enough. I can't help but wish I could do CPR on them.... God knows I've helped save countless lives during my career.... So for me staring hopelessly at the u/s screen knowing there was nothing I could do sits with me in ways I never dreamt. They are both my babies. No names just babies I couldn't save.

nohalo21 · May 2014

@O2girl‌ I don't think I will ever get that image of the ultrasound out of my head.

We found out the results of our genetic test on Valentine's Day. At the time out little bean was a girl with no abnormalities (only after all this would we learn that this test does not detect triploidy so it was never picked up). We decided on the name Harper Paige. Little did we know she would be called to be an angel just a few weeks later. I find her name fitting as she is an angel now.

bralex2007 · May 2014

We didn't name the baby (lost at 9 wks), but sometimes in my mind I refer to him/her as April--which was the month of the loss but also has significance to me for other reasons. It's kinda girly if the baby was a boy, but oh well. I don't really say it aloud so I figure it doesn't matter since it's just something for me if I'm thinking specifically about the baby.

jlovesky · May 2014

I miscarried at 13 weeks. I had seen the baby moving on an ultrasound so it just seemed right to us to pick a name. One night shortly after my D&C, we pulled out a baby name book and turned to androgynous names since we did not know the gender. We chose Ryleigh because we liked it, my middle name is Leigh & our 2 year old son seemed to like it

It feels good to have a name to use in remembering the baby!

mrsericawarren · May 2014

We lost our first pregnancy at 10 weeks and didn't name the baby although I wanted to. I discussed it with DH and he didn't think it would help me grieve any whether we named it or not. In the end, everyone grieves how they grieve. It isn't an easy process...I lost mine 7 months ago and I'm still sad from time to time...mother's day was a rough day for me, but time has helped me heal some and more time will help me heal more I'm sure. I'm sorry for your loss.

Amber&Reva · May 2014

I lost my daughter at 19w due to PPROM and named her Brynlee Madeline. We picked the name out shortly after finding out we were having a girl so it was her name and no mater how short of time she was on this earth I felt she deserved a name and to be spoken about. Now that I can talk about her without crying I have slowly started to share my story and I like being able to refer to her by name.

Eveiii · June 2014

My husband and I didn't know the sex of our baby but both just knew in our hearts our baby was a girl. I wanted to give her a name to help me grieve.

I called her Pearl.

The reason for that name is because she is precious and pure, never did a thing wrong, she was just perfect. I also lost her out at sea.

CreechMommy · June 2014

We just lost our little baby at 9 1/2 weeks pregnant. We didn't know the gender but we both felt like it was a girl. We named our angel baby Kelly Morning Creech. It means warrior and new day. We felt like she fought with all she had and we chose morning because there is hope with each new day.

summerbld2 · June 2014

We are in the process of trying to find a gender neutral name for our baby that we MC in May. We are doing a first name only. I have a GF that has had 5MC. She gave a neutral first gender name to all 5. It helps her and us when she talks about the MCs to know which child she was talking about. Instead of calling it MC #1 or baby number #2 etc. I have great respect for her so that is what we are doing also. I think we have picked a name but not 100% sure yet. They also planted rose bushes in each child's honor. Good luck to you. TNP are being sent your way during this hard time!

intheplanningstage · June 2014

We didn't pick a name after our first early miscarriage at 5 weeks. But then when we lost another, and found out it was a boy, I felt like we needed to. I didn't like saying things like "with the first baby" or "the most recent miscarriage". They were our babies. We picked a gender neutral name for the early loss, Madison Riley. It's a personal choice-honor the babies however you feel the need. It's a decision for you and your DH.

foodieforlife · June 2014

yes. name your baby. it is part of the healing and has helped me more than i can say. it puts a name to it and makes it more real to grieve and love.

foodieforlife · June 2014

we are going to lose one of our twins at around 18 weeks-19 .

LimaD · June 2014

We named our baby, who we lost about a week ago.

Since we didn't know if the baby was boy or girl we chose a gender neutral name.

I feel like it really helps with the grieving process. It also makes me feel like I've included the baby in our family. And down the road I don't have to refer to "the baby we lost" or "the miscarriage", I can simply say Cameron. It feels good to say that name...

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