Advice that drives you crazy as a MoM

SmallCityLiving · May 2014

S/O crazy comments, anyone get advice that drives them crazy bc they have multiples?

I'm really feeling the lack of sleep lately so it drives me nuts when people say, "sleep when they sleep" about naps. Do you really think my 5 week old preemies nap consistently at the same time? We have no schedule yet at this age so this is not helpful advice, it just makes me jealous of singleton moms who can sleep when their newborn does. Ok, rant over. Anyone else get advice that drives them nuts bc it doesn't apply?

24karat · May 2014

Any advice prefaced by "My kids are 18 months apart so I almost have twins and know exactly what you're going through! Here's what worked for us..." immediately goes into the "hell no, I just tuned you out" pile.

KatieGummow · May 2014

I HATE the "one and done!" Or "two for the price of one" comments.

Who are you to tell me I need to stop at two kids? You don't know me.

Since when do two babies cost the same as one?? They cost twice as much.

SmallCityLiving · May 2014

KatieGummow said:
I HATE the "one and done!" Or "two for the price of one" comments.

Who are you to tell me I need to stop at two kids? You don't know me.

Since when do two babies cost the same as one?? They cost twice as much.

I hate when other people say this to me but ours are through IVF so DH and I joke with each other that they are two for the price of one. Not funny from others who have no business commenting on our infertility though!

zazu13 · May 2014

SmallCityLiving said:

KatieGummow said:
I HATE the "one and done!" Or "two for the price of one" comments.

Who are you to tell me I need to stop at two kids? You don't know me.

Since when do two babies cost the same as one?? They cost twice as much.
I hate when other people say this to me but ours are through IVF so DH and I joke with each other that they are two for the price of one. Not funny from others who have no business commenting on our infertility though!

Ours are ivf, too, but in our case two for the price of six (success on our 6th treatment attempt) so not really a good deal. That shuts people up

raraavis28 · May 2014

What annoys me sometimes is people (who don't have twins) telling me what it will be like....like "They'll team up on you!" or "You'll have them each running in the opposite direction! Hahaha good luck!" Umm....sometimes maybe that happens but not really? Not offensive at all, but, after hearing the same thing 20 times, it gets just a little old....

ckred27 · May 2014

I have gotten a lot of sleep when they sleep advise....but yeah I also have a 3 yr old and a 1 yr old....nope, doesn't work for me!

chickaboo1974 · May 2014

The one thing I heard a lot of and I still cringe at is " It will get better"..... thanks for the pep talk, but my boys were the easiest babies. It just irks me that people automatically assume that having two babies is horrible. I have known several singletons that have been more demanding then my guys were.

I also hate "Double trouble"- I hear that A LOT now. Yes my boys are active, curious, and imaginative preschoolers.... always have to be on your toes.

TheDairyQueenx3 · May 2014

I really hate "wow you have your hands full!" As I'm struggling to get two car seats and a toddler into a building.

Yes OBVIOUSLY, so holding a door is out of the question for you?

Thankfully my 4 year old is more of a gentleman than most people around here so he always runs up to hold the door for me.

ceechie · May 2014

I get a lot advice on how I shouldn't be bfing anymore and that they should be sleeping.
The "well, they'll be a year, so it'll be a lot easier." Huh?!
My almost ds 3 year old is a train wreak compared to my easy girls.
I get a lot of weird girl comments. I have an older dd, so lots of comments about 3 girls in the bathroom. 3 teenage girls and clothes or emotions. One guy told me he wouldn't be able to "handle all that crying." I was like "oh so you have a high opinion of women in general, douchbag?" Who married you?!?
Eta- weird autocorrects...

somewhereincali · May 2014

KatieGummow said:

I HATE the "one and done!" Or "two for the price of one" comments. Who are you to tell me I need to stop at two kids? You don't know me. Since when do two babies cost the same as one?? They cost twice as much.

They cost more than twice as much! No hand me downs, you have to buy 2 of everything!!

sunkiss674 · May 2014

I have my boys on a strict schedule this is how we make it through the day! I acknowledge that this is not for everyone but works for us. I can't stand when my friends with one baby tell me I don't have to be so strict on my schedule that if they eat an hour later it won't kill them. Yes they can eat an hour later but for that entire hour they will be having melt downs and it will not be an enjoyable hour.

oh and well we are on topic I went to the park with a friend during their nap time and one of by boys was napping in the stroller and she started playing with him trying to wake him up. I was so angry with her, then of course he did wake up and was miserable the rest of the time at the park.....I ended up leaving early.

(sigh) people with one infant just don't understand.

ceechie · May 2014

sunkiss674 said:
I have my boys on a strict schedule this is how we make it through the day! I acknowledge that this is not for everyone but works for us. I can't stand when my friends with one baby tell me I don't have to be so strict on my schedule that if they eat an hour later it won't kill them. Yes they can eat an hour later but for that entire hour they will be having melt downs and it will not be an enjoyable hour.

oh and well we are on topic I went to the park with a friend during their nap time and one of by boys was napping in the stroller and she started playing with him trying to wake him up. I was so angry with her, then of course he did wake up and was miserable the rest of the time at the park.....I ended up leaving early.

(sigh) people with one infant just don't understand.

Even if it was a singleton, why the hell would you wake a sleeping baby?!? That's nutso.

lynnyrd80 · May 2014

sunkiss674 said:

I have my boys on a strict schedule this is how we make it through the day! I acknowledge that this is not for everyone but works for us. I can't stand when my friends with one baby tell me I don't have to be so strict on my schedule that if they eat an hour later it won't kill them. Yes they can eat an hour later but for that entire hour they will be having melt downs and it will not be an enjoyable hour.

oh and well we are on topic I went to the park with a friend during their nap time and one of by boys was napping in the stroller and she started playing with him trying to wake him up. I was so angry with her, then of course he did wake up and was miserable the rest of the time at the park.....I ended up leaving early.

(sigh) people with one infant just don't understand.

Yeah, so far I've only had one infant and I totally understand this. Your friends just aren't being very considerate.

frank3jr · May 2014

People say you shouldn't ever wake a baby for them to eat and you should only let them eat on demand. My mom especially thought I was force-feeding the babies but if you don't feed them at the same time then you will always be feeding!

TREDgirl · May 2014

We have always done one up-both up, which some of my friends think I'm nuts for waking a sleeping baby. Sorry, if I don't then one will fall asleep and then 20 minutes later the other one will wake up and be hungry. So yeah, we are on a strict feeding schedule as well-which yay for us means they sleep through the night.

But anyways...I hate the 'oh well you have the set (we have b/g twins) so you must be done now!' Well we are done but we would be even if we had b/b or g/g.

LittleLady77 · May 2014

I hate the "sleep when they sleep" advice. I pretty much hate any unsolicited piece of advice from anyone who isn't a MoM at this point.

shaunah816 · May 2014

I always, and still do, hated the "twins! It'll be easier once they get older, they'll play together!" Yeah, no. They do play together now, but that's about 0.0001% of the time. The rest of the time they're fighting and necessitating constant referee duty.

bumpuser924057 · May 2014

TheDairyQueenx3 said:

I really hate "wow you have your hands full!" As I'm struggling to get two car seats and a toddler into a building. Yes OBVIOUSLY, so holding a door is out of the question for you? Thankfully my 4 year old is more of a gentleman than most people around here so he always runs up to hold the door for me.

HATE THIS SO MUCH. Ugh, especially on the rare occasions where I can't/don't take the stroller and I have one twin in the Ergo, one twin in my arms, while also trying to hold my three year old's hand. YES, my hands are LITERALLY FULL. THANKS FOR NOTICING. X( X( X(

Labyrinth3000 · May 2014

sunkiss674 said:
I have my boys on a strict schedule this is how we make it through the day! I acknowledge that this is not for everyone but works for us. I can't stand when my friends with one baby tell me I don't have to be so strict on my schedule that if they eat an hour later it won't kill them. Yes they can eat an hour later but for that entire hour they will be having melt downs and it will not be an enjoyable hour.

oh and well we are on topic I went to the park with a friend during their nap time and one of by boys was napping in the stroller and she started playing with him trying to wake him up. I was so angry with her, then of course he did wake up and was miserable the rest of the time at the park.....I ended up leaving early.

(sigh) people with one infant just don't understand.

When my Mom babysat for the first time my ONLY directions were to feed the girls at the same time with about 3 hours between feeding. My husband and I only went to dinner so she only had to feed them once while we were gone. When we came home 2.5 hours later one baby had been fed twice while the other once and at different times. It took us two weeks to get the girls synced up and my Mom ruined it in 2.5 hours. I had a total melt down and my Mom just didn't get what the big deal was. We spent the entire night with screaming babies feeding them at different times and got no sleep.

KatieGummow · May 2014

I love when people tell you how great it will be, or how much work it is and I ask "oh, you have twins?" "No, but I know someone that does."

Throat punch.

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