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Another mil rant!

bridetobe9132013bridetobe9132013 member
in May 2014 Moms
So I love my mil, she is a good person. Some things she does and says just annoys and irritates me though. Anytime I talk about my pregnancy she tells me the SAME stories about her pregnancies. She tries to tell me what she did with her kids 30 years ago! I have worked in daycare, its not like babies/kids are foreign to me. I mentioned my family maybe helping out with the baby when dh goes back to work and she responded with "well I didnt need any help when my first was born". I said "well my family would love to help me out". Now she offers to come help when dd is born. Anytime she hears anybody make a joke about hurrying up delivery so they can meet baby, she chimes in with "she will come when she is ready". I feel like saying "can you please shut up with that? We obviously know that". Shevis coming over tonight to make and freeze some enchiladas with dh and I am not looking forward to it. Im irritable and dont want to be nice to anyone! Sorry this is so long, I had to get it all out. This isnt even all of it btw!
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Re: Another mil rant!

  • bridetobe9132013bridetobe9132013 member
    I am very grateful for her help, im not trying to be selfish.
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  • deanna1313deanna1313 member
    My mil does and says the same things! I can't tell if she us doing it to make a point or to tell me I'm wrong in the way I plan to do things or if she just can't think of better responses.
    Her newest thing is being concerned about germs when LO is born. I told her that I'm not too concerned with germs and don't plan to keep him in a bubble. She didn't like that and said "well, that was one if my biggest concerns". Like I was wrong for not being germaphobic. I don't plan to purposely visit with someone who's sick, but she thinks I shouldn't go anywhere for the first month or two.
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  • bridetobe9132013bridetobe9132013 member
    I wish people would mind their own business! I'm sure she will try and tell me I should be doing things differently when dd is here. My in laws came to my grandpa's viewing the other night, which was very sweet, my sister was joking about doing castor oil to get her out and mil says to me the next day "I hope people arent scaring you with their comments". I just wish she would lighten up! I have had to hear about how she didnt get any pain meds for her labors. If I feel I need them, im getting them. Its none of her business!
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  • bridetobe9132013bridetobe9132013 member
    Im just so moody and I have to entertain her until dh gets home to cook with her. I already told him im not doing it. Im uncomfortabke and want to relax, which he is fine with. He is a great guy! She is old fashioned and thinks a woman's place is in the kitchen... well not in this house!
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  • deanna1313deanna1313 member
    Haha! Good for you. Sit and relax.

    We made enchiladas for the freezer last week and my MIL has also brought up the fact that she didn't need pain meds either.

    Do we have the same MIL? Lol

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  • dlallaindlallain member
    My MIL is a piece of work. Just today she was having an arguement with my SIL and for whatever reason brought me and my mother into the fight. Apparently she told my SIL that she doesn't want my nephews and niece around my mother becauses she's a pot head.....first my mom Recreationally smokes. She doesn't even like to talk about it in front of me and I'm 30 my mother would never smoke in front of my nephews and niece. Second where does MIL get off bringing my mom into their argument.
    This is the same woman who made my life Hell planning my wedding last summer. And to spite me go flowers for our rehearsal dinner that 3 of my 6 girls were allergic to. After telling her to be careful etc.
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  • bridetobe9132013bridetobe9132013 member
    @dlallain‌ I would be furious if anyone talked about my mother like that! @deanna1313‌ it sure sounds like we have the same mil :)
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  • NorthernGal248NorthernGal248 member

    Gah! I hate when people expect you to be just like friggin them!

    I'll join in on the fun! My MIL acts like she is such a great big part of our lives and wants to be around for the baby. Honestly, I don't want her around. From day one she hasn't given a rats ass about our marriage and baby. We do however help her out all the time, mostly with finances, and she thanks us by applying for some sort of credit and giving them our cell phone numbers! We keep getting calls from collection agencies. We keep blocking the numbers but they just keep coming in. DH and I both own small businesses so we can't just change our numbers. My mom on the other hand has been very helpful, and will def be helpful once the baby gets here. Once I go back to work she will be the nanny. Right now MIL is telling us that she has a 'go bag' for when LO comes so that she can come to the hospital. I honestly don't even want her to come visit us at the hospital. I don't tell my DH any of this because I know that it bothers him that his mom is such a user.  

    That One Gal From Alaska :)

     

     

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  • bridetobe9132013bridetobe9132013 member
    Im sorry you have to deal with that @NorthernGal248‌. That sounds very rough to deal with. My mil is cooking right now with dh and keeps asking me how much onion, how many peppers, etc. Ahhh... do what you want or ask dh, he is the one who asked you to come help! I just cant handle this today lol thanks for everyone's experiences also!
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  • NorthernGal248NorthernGal248 member
    @bridetobe9132013 Can you go into another room or fake a headache?

    That One Gal From Alaska :)

     

     

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  • EmilyGolden1EmilyGolden1 member
    Go hide and take a bubble bath!
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  • KatzaliaKatzalia member
    Ugh, that sounds annoying. At this stage, you're entitled to kick back and relax. Without unasked-for advice.
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  • bridetobe9132013bridetobe9132013 member
    While she was here I felt my first contraction and went for a power walk after she left so hopefully it is the start of something!
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  • dlallaindlallain member
    @bridetobe9132013‌ my MIL actually called cops on SIL and her son since my last post. They're actually sleeping over my house now.....hopefully Kira doesn't make her debut tonight...
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  • bridetobe9132013bridetobe9132013 member
    What a cute name :) sorry you are having to deal with drama right before delivering!
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  • dlallaindlallain member
    Haha I've been dealing with her BS for years. My daughter will not be subjected to her brand of crazy. My husband shares the centament(sp?) She even had the gaul to give us a bible from her sect of Christianity we 're Catholics I a craddle Catholic hubby converted and she's a Methodist. She paid for it to be personalized etc and kept telling us it's a suprise for kira blah blah, I open it and it says it right on the cover. Did she honestly think I wouldn't know... I mean really.
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  • dlallaindlallain member
    @bridetobe9132013‌ we got her name from an acquaintance very tough lady but feminine at the same time. I'm Irish and it just felt right. Before my gram passed last month see told me she absolutely love d the name. Kira Leigh Proctor has a lot angels looking out for her.
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