VENT!!!!!

firsttimemom143 · May 2014

So I have a pretty crappy situation. As some of you know (from PP) I dont like having anyone besides me or DH drive LO around. I am a nervous nelly. My MIL watches her thursd/fridays and I did agree to give her a carseat and go to Dr appts etc. I saw my MIL this morning and asked if she has anything to do today..she said no. Tomorrow she has a Dr appt and a dental appt for a cleaning...3 weeks ago she went for a cleaning. I mentioned that and she became all flustered and said maybe it wasnt for a cleaning , or maybe the previous appt was for her daughter etc. basically she just kept babbling. Whatever.

Anyway..Im at work and it hit me..I think I left my curling iron on. I called MIL x3 and texted her. No answer. I dont live far so my boss let me run home. I get home...MIL car is gone, door is wide open and lights and TV are on. (Curling iron is off). I call MIL and she finally picks up and says "sorry i didnt answer I was playing with LO on floor. Curling iron is off." to which I reply...oh really....well, where are you?!? Im at home!

SILENCE.

She says she left real quick to go to her bank down the road. (which I didnt believe) I asked her if I could meet her at the bank...she says No. Then pauses for like 15 seconds and says.." I am on my way to see my friend who is having car problems to help her with my AAA."

UGHHH!! Thats when I got pissed. I basically told her that I felt completely disrespected because she lied to me! If her story is true, she could have had enough decency to at least text me saying "hey I know you dont like me driving around with DD but I have an emergency."

I asked her why she didnt text and she said she didnt wanna make me worry.

The whole door open thing is a whole other issue.

There were more things said and them DH came home and talked with her. (i still at work) he said they yelled and she said she is no longer watching DD because everyone needs to "check in" on her.

Oh boy..In good news....WE ARE MOVING TO SOUTH CAROLINA!!!!! DH WAS AWARDED A JOB! WOO HOO!

sugarland726 · May 2014

Oh boy. Sounds like this move (assuming it is far away from your MIL) is for the best. I have major issues with her lying to you. What if she got in an accident and you were unaware?

Sgriff1 · May 2014

OMG! I have my own issues with my MIL but taking your LO and not telling you where she is at...then LYING to you?! Hell no! I would definitely have a few words for her and she would not be watching LO anymore.

ChuggingWater · May 2014

Yeah, the lying thing would not fly. Congrats on the move.

firsttimemom143 · May 2014

And if she wouldve texted me, I wouldnt be happt about her driving around but at least I wouldve known where LO was.

Yes we are moving >16 hours away lol...palm trees!!!

firsttimemom143 · May 2014

Yes...she says she will not watch LO but even if she changes her mind, I wont let her. Plus..she only has to watch her for a total of 3 more days. Then I wont be working anymore until we move.

nolagal79 · May 2014

Wow - I would be livid!!! Lying is unacceptable! Yay for moving 16 hours away!!! Adios MIL!

precious72381 · May 2014

Sounds like it is time to not have her babysit anymore anyway! It is great when family can help, but sometimes it is not WORTH it! Congrats on the upcoming move/YH's new job! Hope it makes a difference. Sorry she lied to you. That is really hard. Even if she doesn't understand your feelings on the driving with your LO, she needed to respect it and not lie about it.

km_md · May 2014

Wow I would have totally lost my shit on her. That is unacceptable. She agreed to watch your child under your requirements and then doesn't follow them and lies to you about it. I'm glad that your husband got that job and you can move away from her.

cnctf · May 2014

Congrats on moving! Sorry you have to deal with her crappy "babysitting" ethics and I need to know, was it your front door she left opened?!

slmille4 · May 2014

Seriously I would've thought the worst when it looks like she rushed out the door suddenly.

blue_elle · May 2014

Take your child and lie about it? No, hell no. Glad your DH got the job and you don't have to worry about her antics anymore.

SarahA918 · May 2014

It's terrible, but I'm so proud you caught her in her lies!

pinkyxboo · May 2014

That's infuriating. How can she expect you to trust her now? Yuck.

MJamison1020 · May 2014

Sounds like the move news couldn't have come at a better time. Being a long way from your in laws is a blessing in my experience. Deep breaths until you're MIL free- the crazies only get crazier when provoked!

peanutmuse · May 2014

W....T....F....

firsttimemom143 · May 2014

Gilmore09 said:

I agree with PP. On a side note @firsttimemom143‌ didn't you recently get a job you were super excited about? Does the move mean you won't be able to take it. Congrats on DH's new job!

YES! I had to call them and "unaccept" the position. It stinks bc it was a great opportunity but hey.....were moving south! LOL They were actually happy for me

firsttimemom143 · May 2014

JmeMichelle said:

The lying is so beyond out of hand. I wouldn't trust her ever again. And don't get me started on leaving your house completely vulnerable. Congrats on the move! We just left SC in December. Whereabouts will the job take you, if you don't mind me asking? South Carolina is beautiful and I can't wait for DH to be stationed in charleston again!

Near Charleston. I have never been there but I hear it is beautiful!

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